Please Help!!! Should I Talk to My Ex If I am in Love with Someone Else?

[twistednaknot]

hey everybody i need your help on this one...please be honest if anything.....

 

this kinda goes back to earlier this year in march. this guy i have known for years asked me to be his girl. things were great in the beginning (well they always are). but after a month things started to go downhill. after three months i broke it off with him. the bad thing was i had to write him a letter because i hadnt seen him in like 2 months. so i finally saw him at a party like a month later and when i was leaving he said he was going to call me that night. but couldnt get out of the parking lot. i went back and asked him and some of his friends if they wanted to come and hang out with me and some of my frinds. so they did and we ended up going to the beach and when we finally got time alone he told me he was surprised i was still talking to him. he said that he was sorry for the way he treated me but things were not going good for him at the time and he know that i deserved better. he told me that he still had feelings for me and i told him i felt the same way.

 

we didnt get back together until a few weeks later. he called me and asked me if i was ready to try again. i told him i was ready if he was and that i wasnt going anywhere. so he invited me to have lunch with him and his friend (whom i have also known for years) sometime that week. well i went to have lunch with them and things were kinda weird because we werent together and it felt like we should have been. but afterwards when we went back to his job and i was leaving he told me that he had missed me so much and all this lovey dovey stuff and we kissed (nothing intense) and i left.

 

now get this.....

 

he didnt call me for 2 MONTHS!!! and i was so mad because everytime i called him he would tell me he would call me back later or when i left messages he wouldnt return my calls or anything. so i dont know what was going on with that. but after that i told his friend (the other guy) that i didnt want to have anything to do with him anymore. but the guy, being the sweet friend he is to the both of us, didnt tell him what i said. so i guess my ex thought we were still together.

 

but he broke my heart. and i needed someone there for me. so i started meeting people on the net. i met this guy and we were friends in the beginning. it was cool because i was like hey i have a guy to talk to. i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time but i found myself attracted to him in some ways. but i didnt say anything to him. we would talk for hours everyday and he would call me just to tell me goodnight. and we live in two diffrent time zones (me on the west coast and he in the south) a 2 hour time diffrence. but one night i asked him how he had felt about me but he wanted to know how i felt about him too and he was going to ask me that night. so i went first and told him that there is some attraction there and i have strong feelings for him but i didnt want to let them out just yet becuase i didnt know how he felt or if the feelings i had were real. but he stopped me in mid sentence and said that he loved me. just those three words right there and he told me how he was feeling and was afraid that if he told me that i wouldnt feel the same way. but it worked out great.

 

we have been talking for about 3 months now. and this past weekend i saw my ex at a funeral. we were friends of the family so when i went to the house where everyone was gathered he came too. and he was trying to talk to me the whole night but i wanted to avoid him. but he finally got to me and said so why havent you called me and i am like dont come to me with all that. i went off on him. i told him how i felt and all the things i did and he didnt do anything. then he finally said that he was sorry and told me to call him the next day cuz he wanted to talk to me. so i told him i didnt have his number anymore so i got it from him. but i wasnt going to call him. when i got home i called and told my LD boyfriend what happend and he was cool and everything and he asked me if i wanted him to say or do anything. i told him no i would take care of it myself it was my problem. and i didnt call him......

 

until yesterday. but when i called he had given me the wrong number. or maybe i had jput it in wrong in my phone. but i was so mad because i wanted to know what he wanted to talk about. i know it had something to do with us getting back together. i want to get back with him but i dont because i am afraid he is oging to treat me the same way he did before. and the main reason is i have fallen in love with this guy i have never met. i dont want to leave him. and i amnot going to be my boyfriends girl and my ex's girl at the same time.

 

should i talk to my ex or just leave it alone???? please....honest opinions and comments

[Karina]

you have a symdrom called "stupid" If someone would of done those things he did to you to ME, why would I come back for more? why would you think for one second he actually wanted anything to do with you? why would you still want to talk to him? why? why? why? If someone rejected my calls like he did, ignored me for 2months like he did, gave me his wrong number ON PURPOSE like he did, why would i care and still try and go back for more? At t he funeral you should of ignored him like he wasn't there, just like your really not there to HIM. He sounds like a fucCkin aZShOLe who needs attention, and there you are to give it to him. All those times you had to prove yourself to him, and all you did was run back to the same FuCcKed up situation? why? YOu sound like you don't know how to be alone. My suggestion to you would be to get urself a HOBBIE that doesnt include being rejected and miss treaded all the time. Like maybe start going to the gym, get involved in something productive. it sounds hard but its much easier than getting ur feelings JAMMED all the time. I would never want to talk to him again. But why are u still worrying about what he wanted to tell you at the funeral. Is it that hard to believe that he ACTUALLY gave you the wrong number. YES I'm supposing since your blaming yourself by saying you entered it wrong into ur phone..LOLOLOL. wow, i could find so many hilarious ways to get back at him, but i bet you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings HUH?..LOL.

GET A JOB if you don't already have one. stop thinking about what someone else can do for you and start thinking about what you can do FOR UR SELF!.

you wanted an Honest person....IM HERE ALL NIGHT!

<-even he cant stop laughing!!!!

[Karina]

Im being nice. dont get ur panties in a KNOT

[Weird]

sounds like your ex is a prick and acts like he is 5. I say dont give the guy any more of your attention or time.

[twistednaknot]

thank you karina for your honest opinions. i guess i asked huh? lol. anyway just to give u an update on what has happend, i talked to a close friend of my ex's and he said that my ex hasnt been doing all that well. he got kicked out his house (again...what a loser) for what i dont know. and he also said that a lot of people try and call him and his phone is disconnected or his number goes somewhere else. he said that he has $200 in phone bills.

 

but hes out of my life...no i dont have a syndrome called stupid. i never wanted him back i just wanted to know what he had to say. i still dont beleive we have had closure in this relationship. we never actually said that we were broken up completely. we just drifted. so i thought everything was over.

 

i have since moved on and as i have said i am in love with someone else....someone MATURE and knows i exist and am a person. i love him with all my heart.

[dizi]

"have since moved on and as i have said i am in love with someone else....someone MATURE and knows i exist and am a person. i love him with all my heart."

 

Woah, Nelly! You don't waste time, do you? Sometimes meeting someone special can ease the pain of a loss, but you sound like you're jumping in with both feet there, Sparky! Sure that first guy was an idiot, but it was just a few days ago that you were confused about him! Do yourself a favor and take it slow with this one!!!