Attractiveness to your partner and other people

[Miss_Contemplating]

Usually as the emotional attraction grows, so does the physical.

 

So is it normal or usual to only have eyes for your partner? To think they are the most beautiful creature on Earth?

 

To not ogle at other people? To not feel attractive to others? To not feel emotional or physical attraction towards your ex partners?

 

I also heard about a study that said people in committed relationships look at more attractive people less time, because subconsciously they know that might get between them and their partner.

 

Thoughts? Is it bull****? Is it the greatest feeling in the world to be in love with somebody like that?

 

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Everyone is different. But I really appreciate love and being faithful and honest. I think if you want something (someone else), you should get it. I think it should make sense to be in a happy simple monogamous relationship.

 

I know what my boyfriend thinks of other beautiful women, and it would be better for our relationship if I looked at other men as well, otherwise it just feels unfair and stupid. And when I try to look at other men in that way, my feelings towards him and our relationship do change. If I look at other men, I feel not being as faithful and it does change how I feel, and I would leave sooner and I don't feel close to him. And why would I be doing something that makes me feel less close to him?

 

I got hurt in the past, and I don't feel secure knowing what my boyfriend feels. And the way he stays faithful to me is his self restraint. But that can get challenged (with alcohol, or emotions.. I don't know with what but I know it can). Should trust be trusting someone's self restraint, or trusting who they are and that they are where they want to be?

 

Maybe others got hurt as well, and that's why they don't seem to want to feel this way, cause it doesn't make sense if all it does is makes you hurt more when things don't work out. Is there anything else, except the role of keeping you less close to somebody (and then subsequently less hurt).

 

I know there are people who disagree with me. But are there any who agree?

Edited June 28, 2013 by Miss_Contemplating
adding rant :)

[TaraMaiden]

In view of both this thread, and your other one - I don't think you're emotionally equipped to BE in a relationship right now.

 

Your self-esteem seems to be at rock-bottom, and you're extremely insecure.

 

I think you need personal counselling or therapy, because you don't enter relationships out of love, on the face of it. You enter them out of dependency.

 

Seriously, I think you need to seek some kind of help or support.