urichica07 Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 ok so i was browsing this site for a good quote or something.. and i decided well maybe i will post something on here.. i need some serious help.. i have been with someone for a year and 3 months now.. we just call ourselves friends.. but we both love eachother.. and i am content with our relationship. but i am so confused.. he tells me that i am the one that he wants to marry.. but that he doesnt want to rush into a relationship yet because he is" 21 and i will only be 21 once in my life". so what do i do about this. i mena he has been acting all weird lately.. and i give him his space. i mean hes at school and im working full time.. yano.. ahh and then the last few days i have been having weird feelings.. like that something isnt right.. and then tonite i checked his email(which i know i shouldnt do,but it had to be done because my intuition was telling me that something is seriosouly wrong.) and i came across this email... (names have been changed by me) George*, Well you wanted an email ....so here it is. I guess I just wanted to say Thank you..for a few things actually. Thanks for letting me get to know you ..and for being such an amazing person. Also, thanks for the rose and the fish and lunch..it was all really nice of you and you didnt have to do it..( of course im glad you did, haha) thank you for being honest with me...its not something im used to ..but I feel like its something i could get used to. I dont know exactly where this is going with you and I, but no matter what I really want you to know..that there arent many people like you in this world..and im really happy that I have the chance to get to know you. I hope you have a good day- ill be thinking of you...but only for like 15 seconds..after that it makes me ill :-) Talk to you soon Love, Diane* xo Like how should i go about this.. i cannot confront him... someone please help me and tell mewhat i should do.. there is no wrong in him or i talking to someone else.. but c;mon rigging he gaveher a rose... thats crossing the line to me.. dont tell me you love and care about me and then go and see someother chick... please help me -ash- Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 I agree that the rose & fish giving would sound strange to me too !! -- fish ?!? was that a meal or something?? -- To be honest with you I don't know what I would do. I think you're going to have to ask him who this person is. And then you'll probably have to be honest about reading his emails & why you did it. To get to the truth will require a little truthfulness on your part, if you know what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted October 18, 2004 Share Posted October 18, 2004 I dont know what to tell you here. I would confront him....did u know the girl? Was it one of his ex's? I know you probably feel sick I know I would. Link to post Share on other sites
Author urichica07 Posted October 20, 2004 Author Share Posted October 20, 2004 thanks guys for responding... im afraid to confront him about me reading the email due to the fact that i know he will end it completly with me andtell me that i am not honest and this and that... thats how he is.. i spent the night with him a few days ago.. the day after i read the email.. we had plans to go to dinner when i got out of work.. of course that didnt happen.. all nighthe kept asking me what was wrong.. so i was like look.. i know somethings up with you cause you havent been answering my phone calls and this and that.. and he was like well i have been doing it for a reason.. hes like if we call eachother before bed everynight then we'll just fall backinto the same routine of things.. and yada yada yada... youall get the rest... so needless to say i didnt confront him about the email.. and i have a date with someone from work set up for one night this week.. figured yano.. he can see someone else and so cant i.. this way we will truely see if we arent meant to be together... if i could get anymore helpthen please respond.. thanks guys love ash Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted October 20, 2004 Share Posted October 20, 2004 The longer you don't tell him that you know he went to dinner with someone the worse its going to be on you. You do not have to tell him that youread his email...just tell him a friend saw them together. Honestly, I think that this guy is not sure of what he wants. He enjoys having a girlfriend but wants to be free to do what ever he wants as well. This guy can't have his cake and eat it too. You are a smart young woman and he is not the only guy in the world and no matter how much you think its meant to be it will not change the fact that he has lied to you and took someone else out on a date. As for you.....2 wrongs do not make a right. You should take to him about and see what's up. mean in the email the girl did say that it made her sick to think of him. If you don't talk about it to him then things are only for sure going to go down hill! You will have this anger inside and you will end up hating him and not trusting him. You need to find a way to talk to him! Link to post Share on other sites
Author urichica07 Posted October 22, 2004 Author Share Posted October 22, 2004 so here we go again with the mixed messages... talked to him tonite and we always hang out thursday nights and i sleep over and get up and go to work friday mornings.. and of course tonite... well its thursday and it looks like ash wont be seeing him.. its so frustrating.. and then he tells me to come over in between my shifts tomrrow.. and that umm he wants to see me sunday and watch the game and then take me out to dinner... WTF.. and there have been no more emails either.. im so confused... i know he cant have his cake and eat it too... but like what do i do seriously... i love him so much and im so dumb that i know i will keep going back to him... boy o boy Link to post Share on other sites
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