Question about age/help on this please

[Nik2]

Ok, this beautiful Mexican girl that came from the temp agency spent the last two days at my work was giving me the eyes, I kept looking at her myself and making comments to the girl I usually work with about how cute she was. (By the way the girl I work with is married so she didn’t get jealous) Just wanted to throw that in.

 

Anyway what’s strange is this girl’s mother was also working with her as a temp also which I found out middle of the day so basically her mother was watching me the whole time looking at her little baby.

Anyway it turns out her mother told some of the other Mexican girls that I seemed like a polite boy which I am because I really try to be. Every once in a while her and her mother would giggle along with the other temp girls calling me a white boy but in a nice a playful way. All the girls were very cool and fun to work with; I was basically the only guy in the ware house out of 30 girls.

Well she ended up giving the girl I work with her number to give me. O $hit what should my inexperienced self do or say on the phone???

 

The problem is this adorable girl is only 16 years old and I am 29. The answer is very simple. Life sucks and so do the rules.

 

The sad part is, do to all my insecurities and complexes in my high school years I’ve never had a girl friend and because of my fetish for diapers I'm not like the typical Joe always trying to stick my thing in every girl I see. I don't even want that although I would do normal sex just to make a girl happy and to stay with me. Anyway I'm not even thinking about this is all I'm saying.

She just wants to be friends and that’s all I want to make up for where I never started.

Is it ok to just be friends with a girl this age like go to the movies or can you still get in trouble doing that?

 

This girl said I have beautiful eyes on the phone tonight.

I basically in a nice way told her that I think she is beautiful but that she my be too young for me. She says she understands but she would like to still be friends and that she doesn’t go out much.

She also told me that she dropped out of high school so I spent some time on the phone trying to make her realize that it was not a good thing to do, I probably sounded like her parents but she was alright with it I guess.

I wonder if she really means what she says or if I'm being used?

[Merin]

You're 29 and you wonder if you're being used by a 16 year old girl? Used for what?

 

Sorry, but you are way to old for this girl. She is a minor, you are an adult.

 

I'm afraid to even ask what your "fetish for diapers" is?

 

None the less... you are kidding yourself that you just want to be her "Friend" the two of you have little if anything in common (as it should be with you being an adult and her being a kid) Back up and leave her be.

[Nik2]

Well I didn’t call her, she called me and she wanted me to call her tonight but I diden’t.

 

And by the way, when you say I’m wrong in that I don’t want something from her.

Every one wants something from someone male or female.

The difference is that I don’t want to F..ck girls like most guys would. Anyway I haven’t called her back nor do I plan to.

You asked about the diaper fetish? Here is a quick link to see this.

http://nickabc.tripod.com/wnicknick.htm

By the way, the diaper fetish is just a form of masturbation that I developed when I was about 6 years old orginal making them out of white garbage bags till I descovered Attends. I don't go to the bathroom in them either so cross that thought out.

Most guys use their hand to jerk off where is I can do that in a diaper. Anyway that’s about as dirty as I would like to get with a girl. I don’t want to get them pregnant simply because I have no interest in sticking my thing in them. "Never did" Maybe because I’ve never done it I’ve learned to use masturbation to fill the holes. But why I used diapers blows even my mind.

90% of the people who get off in diapers are males simply because the male parts rub against the inside of the diaper where a girl on the other hand feels nothing.

Diapers are more a guy thing and there happens to be over 450,000 DL’s in just the US.

But big deal what good is that for me I’m not gay. There are barley any women who get off on diapers. Truth is I would rather be the baby having the girl in control.

Sorry I got off topic.

 

 

Also, what I meant by her using me is this: a lot of Mexican girls in this country hook up with guys to get married and then once they are a citizen they divorce. That’s what I mean when I said she maybe using me. Just didn’t want to say it out loud.

 

Either way it doesn’t matter I’m not taking a chance with her, she was understanding when I said I don’t feel right hanging out with her. So I agree with you, I will walk away.

[Nik2]

Ok, I need some help on this please, I’m a human being and I’m not perfect.

 

Please here me out on this.

First off I have no problem excepting the fact that she is too young and I don’t want to get involved.

 

Today she was working at my work place again with her mother. I didn’t talk to her much just smiled once in awhile to be polite. Anyway at 5:00PM the day ended they were waiting for temp van to pick them up: I opened the garage door to let all the girls out. Just then her mother said something to her in Spanish and then the young girl said to me. We want you to come to my birthday party which is in 3 weeks.

 

Why in the hell do I have a 15 year old girl going on 16 wanting to be with me so bad? As it is I don’t understand women because I’ve never been with on yet this should not be happening. I am flattered but at the same time confused.

 

Please, how can I tell her and her mother I don’t want to go to the birthday party in a nice way?

Maybe if I tell her I play with diapers she will leave me along, but then I risk the chance of that getting out at my work. Not that she would say anything about that, but why chance it.

Anyway, this Mexican girl I work with everyday keeps trying to hook us up and I told her not to. Nothing against Mexican people but I really don’t think they understand the strict laws in America.

 

Anyway, would it be a bad idea to go to her birthday party as just a friend? I feel like I’m being an a$$ hole to her.

 

Please give me some positive feed back, don’t just shoot me down, I’m not the one asking for the friendship though she is a doll and seems like a very sweet girl. Why the hell is this happening to me?

[bobnthess]

My thoughts would differ from a females perspective. I understand your situation (everything besides the diapers) and I think it is OK to strike up a relationship with a 16 year old ESP. if you are inexperienced too. Of course, 16 is young and can be impressionable. Unfortunately, if you are living in the states you watch the laws and check your homones. Lack of experience does have benefits because you don't really know how to approach a sexual encounter.

Just my view.

Bob

[Nik2]

Thanks for understanding bobnthess.

 

Ya, I’m guessing she is a virgin and probably only kissed a guy if even that.

 

And just to tell you how pathetic my situation is she has already got me beat.

By the way, you said “Lack of experience does have benefits because you don't really know how to approach a sexual encounter”

 

Do you mean this as a tool or excuse if I were to ever be questioned by the law? Just trying to fully interpret what you mean?

 

I know I said this before but do to my fetish I have no intention to stick my thing in her or any other girl. The only way I’ll ever stick my thing into a girl is if she asks me to and is of age.

 

 

I think what I like about this girl is that she is at my level. I'm still A baby when it comes to intimacy. I am so clueless I feel like am still a teen. What’s sad is that even though this girl likes me and I am at the same level, the Law is a cold and solid wall that doses not flex even for special situations like mine. But then again that’s because we have a lot of dumb people making laws. Just like why doses a girl get your 401K even though she leaves you for another man?

I could see child support but what gives girls the right to take your savings even if the divorce is not your fault? That’s how f…cking dumb people are in this world. And why do I pay higher car insurance just because I’m a male when I go out of my way to drive safe.

 

Anyway, if this girl were to kiss me I would have already improved and moved up one level as it’s something I’ve never got to do with a girl. My Junior and high school years were filled with fear and the idea I was not as good as all the others. I never grow and now I'm faced with an angel that wants to lift me off the ground but I forced to stay at the bottom.

 

 

Anyway, I’m just going to tell her on the phone that I really like her but I need to keep my distance. I don’t know if I should even go to her birthday party. Maybe I’m being negative or just too protective but it’s not worth going to jail for that’s for sure. She is a sweet girl but she is also still a baby next to me,

 

I am faltered by her liking of me but I also feel bad I have to keep my distance. I’m going to call her right now, I don’t know what I’m gong to say as far as me not going to her birthday party. I just feel really bad about this.

[Merin]

Originally posted by bobnthess

My thoughts would differ from a females perspective. I understand your situation (everything besides the diapers) and I think it is OK to strike up a relationship with a 16 year old ESP. if you are inexperienced too. Of course, 16 is young and can be impressionable. Unfortunately, if you are living in the states you watch the laws and check your homones. Lack of experience does have benefits because you don't really know how to approach a sexual encounter.

Just my view.

Bob

 

I think it's completley ridiculous to say that your point is just different from a Female perspective, I'm willing to bet there are A LOT of guys out there that think a 29 year old ADULT Male trying to hook up with a 15 (not even 16 yet) year old GIRL isn't okay.

 

This guy is almost 15 years older than she is. She is STILL a CHILD.

 

His "Lack of experience" is irrelevant regardless IF he was the shy guy in high school or not. She hasn't even finished High School for God Sake!

 

Regardless IF you think it's right or dumb Nik, the laws are very clear in the US regarding adults hooking up with minors.

[dyermaker]

Dude, not okay.

[bobnthess]

Like I said, 16 is young and the law is very careful about statuary rape in the states. Be careful how far you take a relationship with her. Speaking for myself, I have always been attracted to Asian/Mexican girls (married a Filipina who is 10 yrs younger to me). My experience was lacking with her. What I meant about lack of experience being beneficial is if you even proceeded to a sexual encounter with this girl, it probably would be very ackward and not very pleasant for either of you. SO DON'T DO IT!! With dating her you will get confidence in yourself with with girls.

Don't know what to tell you about the 401k problem; because I don't see a divorce happening; and my car insurance is only $250/year in Japan.

Bob

[N51]

hey guys im in a simliar situation but not as bad ... lol .... im 19 and my gf is 16...... the way i see it, is that when im 24 shes 21 ... not so bad then....but the problem is when im eventually gonna meeet her is that she's talkin abt sex ..... but as u said earlir in this post ..... The freakin LAW in US .... if her parents find out im screwed! LOL

What should i do?

[Nik2]

Merin2, no need to get pissed off on me. I think I already said I agree with you and that I don’t see anything worth pursuing.

I was simply asking for advice on how I can in a nice way tell her I don’t want to hook up.

Secondly Merin2, you don’t need to tell me about the laws I know what they are but thanks. Again, I was asking how to in a polite way tell her NO?

In my situation I agree with the laws, the gap is just too big. However: are you going to tell me that it’s not ok for an 18 year old adult to go out with a 17 year old? when they are only one year appart? That is a prefect example of a stupid law that doses not bend. Again I know this has NOTHING to do with my situation but I had to throw it out there. I noticed knowone mentioned the divorce topic.... what ever, it is what it is I guess.

 

And let me guess, in two years when she turns 18 she is going to be a rocket scientist right? It’s going to make all the difference that she is 18....right? again I don't quesion the law, just something else to think about.

 

@ N51

Dude, your worried about your girl's parents finding out? This girls mother WANTS me to come to her birthday party and it sounds like her father has the same perspective.

 

@ Merian2

You know there are many people who take younger people out as friends there is no crime against that. Right away everyone has to make things into something sexual all the time.

 

@ dyermaker, I know it’s not ok: I never said it was!

I guess it’s just time for me to be a man and say NO. anyway when she turns 26 I’ll be 40 and she’ll probably end up leaving me anyway which always happens with Latino girls

 

I know what I've got to do.

By the way, I mentioned about the diapers...lol maby she will leave me along now

[bobnthess]

 

Depending what mood or time of the month, I get sent to my bathroomby my wife to relieve myself. Using a diaper seems to complicated and time consuming. Mexican girls make good wifes. I equate Mexicans with Asians in a way; but I do prefer Filipinas. It is not uncommon to date/marry girls in Philppines extremely young since they like older guys. The guy - 55 the girl - 18. When I am in the Philippines, I find it quite refreshing when Filipinas are checking me out, since I would never get that in the states.

Bob

[dyermaker]

she’ll probably end up leaving me anyway which always happens with Latino girls

If you're pursuing latinos, that could be the reason for a lack of success. Latinos are men. You should focus your efforts on the Latinas, and while you're there, you should go ixnay on the iscriminationday.

 

Dude, you know we accept you and your unorthodox fetish. It's cool if you want to spend a few more years in the cradle, but it's not cool if you're looking to the cradle for your next date.

[N51]

Yea but dude her parents dont know we're going out....She was like if her parents find out its all over.....The problem is tat her parents have not me and they dont approve her dating pple they havnt met....So yea if they find out they can freakin sue me... LOL

So i always have that thought in the back of my head .... What should i do?

[Merin]

Originally posted by dyermaker

If you're pursuing latinos, that could be the reason for a lack of success. Latinos are men. You should focus your efforts on the Latinas, and while you're there, you should go ixnay on the iscriminationday.

 

Dude, you know we accept you and your unorthodox fetish. It's cool if you want to spend a few more years in the cradle, but it's not cool if you're looking to the cradle for your next date.

 

Well said Dyer.

 

And Nik, you know what.. I'm not pissed about anything, disgusted yes.

In your original post you were coming off like you wanted a romantic relationship with this Girl, now you want to come off with there isn't any crime in being friends with someone younger.. well no sh*t there youwho. Never said there was a crime in it. However what you were leading to wasn't being JUST her friend.

 

BTW Nik, BIIIGGGGGGGGG difference between an 18 year old persuing a 17 year old and a almost 30 year old persuing a 15 year old.

[Nik2]

Ya, you guys are right: it woulden't be right.

by the way, that’s cool Merin2, I'm not upset with you either. Piece

 

By the way, sorry about that typo dyermaker, good thing you told me about that, I've been running around telling everyone I love Latinos, everyone always seems to get quite when I say that. I'm going to be taking Spanish real soon so hopefully I should be getting better with this stuff.

 

 

Next time she calls me I’m going to tell her in a nice way that’s it’s not even a good idea for her to be calling me. I’ll be nice about it but she’ll just have to understand.

 

@ N51

Dude I don’t know if they would throw the book at you because your only 3 years apart but to be honest I wouldn’t even chance it if I were you. I’ve heard that you can get 5 to 20. Maybe not you but someone may age they would throw the key out not to mention you would go on record as a child molestor.

 

A lot of people tell me I look like I’m 18 years old believe it or not, I don’t drink which is maybe why I still look so young but I still can’t lie about my age.

 

Anyway, don’t worry everyone I’m going to cut her off completely from this point on. Thanks for all your input.

[N51]

i know we;re only 3 yrs apart......so what should i do? not have sex till shes 18 =P? She seems to want it soo bad though ... lol .... who wouldnt hehe......Anyways what do i do ? And if u think i shouldnt do it, how do i tell her this?

[dyermaker]

Tell her that you although you enjoy giving it, in prison, you'd likely be recieving it.

[Nik2]

hay dyermaker , is that really you in the pic? I Pictured you to be older mainly becouse your so in into Zepp. I mean Led Zep is before my time even though I love them, but you just look way younger then I thought, if thats even you?