HeavenOrHell Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 I love dating other vegans, my current partner is vegan, we love cooking together and eating out, we talk about food A LOT! You have a rather narrow minded view of veganism, nowadays there are alternatives and substitutes for all these things, I eat far far better and have far more variety than I did before, I love food, although I have too much of a sweet tooth and bake way too many cakes and desserts, but my friends love them too and can't believe they're vegan. I make amazing meals, my friends are always going on about how much they love the meals I cook. I dislike dating a vegan or vegetarian because I love cooking for my SO, and that requires her willingness to consume such items as cream, chicken and beef stock, eggs, meat, and other things that constitute good food. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted July 6, 2013 Share Posted July 6, 2013 There is also rice milk and almond milk, which are both nice I'm in the UK, only live in a small town but have a wonderful health food shop, plus 3 other smaller health food shops, I'm spoilt for choice, I love being vegan, don't feel deprived at all, quite the opposite. Supermarkets here are getting better and better at stocking vegan products and many things are actually vegan even if they're not labelled as such, co-op jam doughnuts for example, and Oreos are now vegan in the UK, I buy a lot of things in supermarkets, most supermarkets also have a free from range. I personally won't date someone who's not veggie or vegan, because I like being with someone who shares similar ethics to me, and is as compassionate as me, it's much more than just a diet to most vegans, but many vegans date omnivores, so each to their own! Some will date meat eaters and think they'll convert them, but that's not something I'd want to do, I'd rather be with someone who is on the same wavelength as me to begin with, I don't see the point in trying to change someone. I wouldn't want to kiss a meat eater, just does not appeal at all! I don't see it as weird really I would like to try a vegan diet but...I have a nut allergy and can't take soya milk so am worried that it would be heavily restricting my diet. Not to a point of starvation but still quite tricky. In America I think it might be a bit easier than here...you have so much more variety of EVERYTHING than the supermarkets here! I have been vegetarian for lent on a couple of occasions though. Found it quite alright How does it work in the world of dating though? Would a vegan or vegetarian feel comfortable dating someone who is not? Would you try to convert them? Would you feel comfortable kissing them? ... Link to post Share on other sites
hellon Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 Does anyone else feel like time is running out? I've had a couple serious long-term relationships fizzle out...relationships with people I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with. I've been hurt and am now exhausted. Sometimes I just feel like the whole "getting to know you" and starting from scratch thing just isn't worth it. First of all, it's not easy meeting people these days. I work so much that I don't have a whole lot of time to "get out there". Ive done the online dating and speed dating ordeal, but oftentimes they just wind up being nice people who I have no spark with. I really want to get married and perhaps start a family, but I feel like my options are dwindling down. All of my friends are married and it's hard to get people to go out with who are also single and looking. Overall I just feel like I am losing my enthusiasm for the whole idea of finding my "one". I'm 32 so I'm not getting any younger. Does anyone else feel this way? I feel your pain. I'm 33, just got out of a relationship, and feel like every male I know is either married, not into women, or wants to date a 21 year old. It's pretty dismal. All I can say is, stay positive, and don't put time limits on yourself. People are starting their families later in life, these days. I think being as social as possible helps, too. I work all the time, and weird hours, but when I get an invite to something I don't turn it down. Cause you just never know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author J_L_C Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 I feel your pain. I'm 33, just got out of a relationship, and feel like every male I know is either married, not into women, or wants to date a 21 year old. It's pretty dismal. All I can say is, stay positive, and don't put time limits on yourself. People are starting their families later in life, these days. I think being as social as possible helps, too. I work all the time, and weird hours, but when I get an invite to something I don't turn it down. Cause you just never know. I used to be hopeful in that way but ever since my last serious relationship ended I just don't have the energy or the interest in finding someone. I used to be so optimistic about finding love but after being as screwed over as I was, it's taken that innocence and desire away. Link to post Share on other sites
sdraw108 Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 I dislike dating a vegan or vegetarian because I love cooking for my SO, and that requires her willingness to consume such items as cream, chicken and beef stock, eggs, meat, and other things that constitute good food. False. You can cook things that she likes eating just as easily as you can cook things that YOU like eating. Link to post Share on other sites
zevahc Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 I'm a 35 y/o single parent...male. I find it incredibly hard to meet people. Particularly females I connect with...i have a lot of female friends..but none are single. When I date it's just rare I feel like it's the person I should continue with long term. But hoping there is one out there...ideally in the next few years...where I'll meet her...who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
hellon Posted July 14, 2013 Share Posted July 14, 2013 I used to be hopeful in that way but ever since my last serious relationship ended I just don't have the energy or the interest in finding someone. I used to be so optimistic about finding love but after being as screwed over as I was, it's taken that innocence and desire away. No innocence here, but I don't think innocence is what it takes to find a successful relationship anyway. I know it's exhausting, thinking you have your future figured out, and then having to start from square one, especially when you've been through it again and again. 6 LTRs, and who knows how many short term ones, and I'm exhausted too, believe me. BUT, optimism is a choice. Are you recently single? If so, give it some time. If you don't have the energy to put yourself out there right now, then take the time for yourself. As far as meeting people, I'm not really sure what the answer is either. I'm a little weary of and haven't had much luck with the whole online thing, but at least it's gets us out there... As far as desire- it doesn't sound like that's gone away, for you. Don't start telling yourself that happiness isn't an option. Link to post Share on other sites
hellon Posted July 14, 2013 Share Posted July 14, 2013 Also, I'm not sure how this turned into a thread about being vegetarian... kinda irrelevant, no? Link to post Share on other sites
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