has your first crush/love been the template for who you're attracted to?

[ThaWholigan]

Castle gave me the idea.....

 

My old crush has pretty much become the Prototype (lol Outkast) for all the girls I like. Even one of the 2 girls I've been with bears strong resemblance. The personalities have been somewhat different, but physically they've all been similar. Not to say I'm rigid in what I like, but strong physical attraction has come from this particular look.

 

They've all been variations of my avatar - caramel skin, curls, slightly thick etc.....

 

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive? Or did they fit an already existing template? I did not have one until I met her.

[Star Gazer]

Nope. My first crushes and loves were short with thick heads of dark hair, nearly the opposite of my type now.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I go through stages: I was attracted to guys with long dark hair and a beard, then the bodybuilders, then short guys with cute faces, then mixed race guys....and it cycles back and forward...

[MrCastle]

As I said initially, my first crushes were skinny blondes (wonder how much media played a role in that )

 

Now it is a mixed bag.

 

Curvy brunettes with blue or green eyes are typically what I go for, but I will date any kind of woman now. Older or my age, taller or shorter, thick or skinny, any race, any hair color, provided I am attracted to her face. Face is what I want.

 

As I listed before in that post, there are two women I love equally, one is a spanish brunette, the other is a blonde white girl. Melanie Iglesias and April Rose from MTV's Girl Code. To me, they both have killer faces. That is what I pay attention to the most physically.

 

I don't care about stuff like a little gut, or cellulite, or tiny boobs, or a flat ass. I really don't. Have a face I can kiss, I can look at, and we're good.

 

Whether you're 4'11 or 6'5.

[Feelin Frisky]

Nah. My first crush was an absolutely perfect specimen--an Irish lass so gorgeous from head to toe there wasn't one guy who didn't stop dead in his tracks and wonder how such beauty were possible naturally without some trickery or enhancement. I went to grade school with her but not high school. Then I went to college and there she was sitting on the steps reading and every dude that passed her by asked "did you see that girl?" followed by "I didn't think such perfection were possible". I felt unworthy and never tried to get her attention, although I wish I had as I matured and realized how things are. My first LTR was far from an icon of looks--she was an icon of personality who made it very clear she wanted me. And despite reasons to fight to the urge like stark difference in racial characteristics, I succumbed out of loneliness and fondness for her.

[KungFuJoe]

Yes. I think I've always, subconsciously, known what I was attracted to. My first crush was a real cute Mexican girl I sat next to in the 3rd grade. My second crush was in high school...a real good friend of mine who, to put it simply, was just a bad ass, cool chick, though she wasn't the most attractive girl around.

 

My wife was the 3rd girl I ever crushed on and she is Mexican (like my first crush) and has the bad ass, cool chick personality of my 2nd crush.

 

Probably why we get along so well.

[bluegreen]

As I said initially, my first crushes were skinny blondes (wonder how much media played a role in that )

 

Now it is a mixed bag.

 

Curvy brunettes with blue or green eyes are typically what I go for, but I will date any kind of woman now. Older or my age, taller or shorter, thick or skinny, any race, any hair color, provided I am attracted to her face. Face is what I want.

 

As I listed before in that post, there are two women I love equally, one is a spanish brunette, the other is a blonde white girl. Melanie Iglesias and April Rose from MTV's Girl Code. To me, they both have killer faces. That is what I pay attention to the most physically.

 

I don't care about stuff like a little gut, or cellulite, or tiny boobs, or a flat ass. I really don't. Have a face I can kiss, I can look at, and we're good.

 

Whether you're 4'11 or 6'5.

 

 

 

Awww he just described why he LOVES ME

 

 

 

ps: William will freaking kill me lol

[Emilia]

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive? Or did they fit an already existing template? I did not have one until I met her.

When I was younger I had more of a template, as I got older and more experienced, I started enjoying exploring and experimenting more in terms of looks, personality, race, etc

[Archgirl]

Ugh yes!

 

Brown or blue sparkly eyes, high cheekbones, dimples and big shoulders are ever present in the guys I spend time with. Unfortunately so other the other aspects of my first bfs.

 

I grew up around slightly rough dudes with tattoos and piercings and weed addictions and criminal records.

 

Then I went to Uni and got skillz.

 

Now I'm stuck attracted to guys (more but not exclusively) that I have nothing in common with

 

It's taking a massive conscious effort not to pay attention to that first rush of "oh god yes please"

[Ninjainpajamas]

No, I wouldn't say it did at all personally...I've been attracted to a variety of women that have completely different characteristics/qualities about them...from looks, body type, race/ethnicity and everything else in between.

 

I think I have definitely expanded on what interests me and what is "attractive" to me, but my knowledge of things in people, relationships and dating has definitely affected that perception as well. I've never been a guy who was easily persuaded by just good looks/physique and like many guys wouldn't just stick around just for those qualities alone either...if even be interested at all just because of how "attractive" you are...there's a lot of attractive women in the world with a more desirable set of qualities.

 

There are other things that I find sexy/alluring/attractive about a woman...there's also got to be something about her.

Edited July 1, 2013 by Ninjainpajamas

[Ed the 3rd]

Nah not really. My first crush was a cute Brazilian girl. My second now that I think about it was ugly as **** and was annoying. Either I was really lonely or I simply don't know.

 

Most girls I've actually dated have been extremely good looking. Better looking then my first crush anyway. Her loss

[EasyHeart]

Nope. My first crushes and loves were short with thick heads of dark hair, nearly the opposite of my type now.

That's just because all the men got old and bald.

 

Sigh.

[EasyHeart]

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive? Or did they fit an already existing template? I did not have one until I met her.

I never thought about it, but they kinda do. (I'm thinking in terms of my first LT girlfriend when I was 17, not my first crush which was when I was 6!)

 

I'm old enough and dated enough that I don't think I have a 'type', but the kind of woman that instantly draws my attention and makes me weak in the knees looks like my first GF: Thin, small breasts, perfect butt, freckles and bubbly personality. (I kinda have a freckle fetish. Please don't judge me. )

 

This thread made me look her up on FB. She's 50 now and still looks spectacular. Sigh.

 

Oh, and she was a Libra.

[Emilia]

. (I kinda have a freckle fetish. Please don't judge me. )

.

I have a real weakness for freckles

[GoodOnPaper]

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive? Or did they fit an already existing template? I did not have one until I met her.

 

No. My first R was a girl in college who was tall (around 5'10"), thin, and flat-chested. My wife is about 6 inches shorter, heavier, and curvier.

[iris219]

Interestingly, I just realized that my current bf has a lot of physical similarities to my first crush/infatuation from 15 years ago.

 

One of my friends recently remarked that my bf is a combination of my last two exes. She described them all as dark and mysterious.

 

All of my serious relationships have been with men who were white, 6'0 or 6'1", thin, with lots of brown hair. They have traits beyond the physical that are similar as well.

 

I've always had a type that I've been attracted to and that's been attached to me. I've tried to date outside my "type," but these guys never liked me. Sometimes I wonder if I'm attracted to this type because they are the only guys who have shown interest in me.

[soccerrprp]

My preferences have changed over the years, but since returning to dating, I have this inexplicable, strong attraction to brunettes. The first woman I dated had near black hair and was WOWSA!

 

So, not a template from my FIRST crush/love, but from the first crush since dating again.

 

PS. Dating is difficult enough, so this irrational attraction to brunettes often has me dismissing lighter-haired, gorgeous ladies. Ugh. Working on this...

[ThaWholigan]

My preferences have changed over the years, but since returning to dating, I have this inexplicable, strong attraction to brunettes. The first woman I dated had near black hair and was WOWSA!

 

So, not a template from my FIRST crush/love, but from the first crush since dating again.

 

PS. Dating is difficult enough, so this irrational attraction to brunettes often has me dismissing lighter-haired, gorgeous ladies. Ugh. Working on this...

I hear you - I'm pretty open usually, but can see a pattern regarding my strongest attractions.

 

I would argue this works in other ways than physical too.

[sunmoonstars]

No. He's now a drug addict with an extensive criminal record, not my type by any means.

[tbf]

My attraction template was created by having the world's best father and observing the relationship dynamics between loving parents.

 

Both husbands are similar in physical appearance to my father, of tall, dark and handsome. They're both intelligent, witty and charming. The first husband lacked the moral fiber that he socially portrayed. My second husband lives up to a strong personal code of ethics just like Daddy!

 

Creeped out yet?

[ThaWholigan]

My attraction template was created by having the world's best father and observing the relationship dynamics between loving parents.

 

Both husbands are similar in physical appearance to my father, of tall, dark and handsome. They're both intelligent, witty and charming. The first husband lacked the moral fiber that he socially portrayed. My second husband lives up to a strong personal code of ethics just like Daddy!

 

Creeped out yet?

Not really

 

More than one person said to me that my first crush looks and acted similar to my mother!

[tbf]

Not really

 

More than one person said to me that my first crush looks and acted similar to my mother!

If I recall correctly, you've also got a positive relationship with your mother. Is this true or am I off?

[Babolat]

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive? Or did they fit an already existing template? I did not have one until I met her.

 

Not at all for me. What's strange is she was a petite brunette, pale skin. My 3 LTRs have been with blue eyed blondes, pale skin. What's stranger is the dating in between has been with all brunettes.

 

My mom is petitle, olive skin, dark hair. I "think" I am more attracted to brunettes; just not sure why I have not been in a LTR with one yet!

Edited July 1, 2013 by Babolat

[Eternal Sunshine]

Not at all for me.

 

So tell us your type

 

edit: never mind you beat me to it

[sillyanswer]

Has the first person you liked colored your perception of what you find attractive?

 

Not really. I seem to have dated many kinds of woman since then... tall, short, fat, thin, blonde, brunette, black, white... and plenty of variation of personality, background, education level, interests etc too.

 

Recently a date asked me what my ideal gf would be like. I was stumped for an answer.