CarrieT Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 This is why I posted on here, because I needed someone besides myself to tell me this is wrong. Well, you are on Page 4 of a thread full of people telling you it is wrong. So the next question is: What are you going to do about it? 3
soccerrprp Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) This is why I posted on here, because I needed someone besides myself to tell me this is wrong. You had people telling you that from page 1. Did you need four pages to finally convince you? Also, I apologize, as I can be a little dense at times, but I never got the feeling you wanted to be told that you were wrong about this. No, it never crossed my mind from your very first post that that is what you were looking for. Edited July 4, 2013 by soccerrprp 2
ver13 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 This is quite a pickle that you have gotten yourself into I mean here you are asking us whether your AP is thinking about you. IMO you might want to ask yourself where you are in your life right now. You stated that your H wouldn't be receptive to this thing that you have going on and yet you can't see why you might need to stop it. This BFF of yours isn't really your friend she is just someone that you are hanging out with because she happens to be with this guy that you want to sleep with again. If you need someone to tell you what is acceptable or not at this time in your life you have come to the wrong place. Only you know what you M is really about and whether this behavior will be acceptable to all involved. So why ask anyone here what we think if you know deep down that what your doing is not going to go over well with all parties in your life right now.
bubbaganoosh Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 If he's your butterfly and your sun in the sky, then why are you not only sleeping with another man, but kicking your butterfly sun husband in the gut? Tell you why. You want to have the luxury of another guy screwing you senseless and the security of a husband who loves and takes care of you Is it wrong you ask? What the hell do you think? Come on lady, you can't be that thick between the ears to know that what your doing is wrong. You don't need for everyone to tell you that, your a grown woman. Maybe you should act like one. If this is the kind of life you want, then at least be fair and ask you husband to consider an open marriage or join a swingers club so at least he can try his best to catch up to you because you have a few laps ahead of him. But you kind of answered that when you said you wouldn't be happy if he was sleeping around or asked you if he can have round 2 with the other guys wife. Would you consider that? Bet you that would go over like a pregnant poll vaulter. 1
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Ugh third day in a row he's come into my work, the connection Is unbelievable. Drives me crazy! Sorry but it just happened and I'm all Flustered. He has it hard for me, I fell it, its not sexual it's emotional. And the crazy thing is we don't even talk about, I feel, And I know for damn sure he does. I'm lost, I get all prepared to do the right thing, Then I see him, and I lose all control.
SoulStorm Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Ugh third day in a row he's come into my work, the connection Is unbelievable. Drives me crazy! Sorry but it just happened and I'm all Flustered. He has it hard for me, I fell it, its not sexual it's emotional. And the crazy thing is we don't even talk about, I feel, And I know for damn sure he does. I'm lost, I get all prepared to do the right thing, Then I see him, and I lose all control. Wasted time with this one. I say we let her sink. She has no will power and is too immature to try to do the right thing. All our posting is a waste. She's going to fall flat on her face. Honestly..I think she gets a thrill from being scolded and told she's a bad girl. Like a fetish. 3
AbeNormal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Psssssst.... If you are not a troll, then you should consider that as a step up on the ladder.
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Then tell him to STOP IT! You're a grown woman - you're capable of telling another adult to sop. He's not to blame - you are - for not having any boundaries. You want change? YOU need to be the one to make sure change happens.
HopingAgain Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Ugh third day in a row he's come into my work, the connection Is unbelievable. Drives me crazy! Sorry but it just happened and I'm all Flustered. He has it hard for me, I fell it, its not sexual it's emotional. And the crazy thing is we don't even talk about, I feel, And I know for damn sure he does. I'm lost, I get all prepared to do the right thing, Then I see him, and I lose all control. I wonder if you really and truly realize the fire you are playing with here. Its bad enough to be betrayed by one person you love, but by tgge 2 people you love most in the world? Double betrayals are famous for leading to the BS coming completely unhinged. They may get violent with you and OM, and set out to make your lives a living hell, or both. And the way you 2 are flaunting this affair and carrying on, who could blame them if they did? Is all of this worth it? When Dday hits, I suspect you will feel it is not... 1
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 At this point Abe, I'm kind of hoping this is a troll. :/ 1
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Ugh third day in a row he's come into my work, the connection Is unbelievable. Drives me crazy! Sorry but it just happened and I'm all Flustered. He has it hard for me, I fell it, its not sexual it's emotional. And the crazy thing is we don't even talk about, I feel, And I know for damn sure he does. I'm lost, I get all prepared to do the right thing, Then I see him, and I lose all control. Then tell your H you've been screwing the other MM. Tell your so called friend too, that you've been stealing her husband. 1
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Why do people keep asking if I'm a troll? I'm a real person, with a real problem
AbeNormal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Fair enough. But, you know, trolls are real people with real problems also (don't you)? 1
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I guess I'm just. Confused on what a troll is to you guys
AbeNormal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Google is your friend (on this one). But, still, I don't think you need to google that...
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I guess I'm wondering if you intend to take charge of your life by participating from here moving forward as a decent person? Answer that simple question...
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 In the case of internet forums, a troll is someone who deliberately makes a topic, usually of a controversial nature, to get reactions from the other posters. The only reason we keep asking is because there are points where you don't seem to be processing anything we're saying. Maybe it's just the way you've been wording things, but it doesn't seem like you feel all that guilty about the affair. In any case, I'll assume your a genuine poster, looking for some input. Well, we've given quite a bit. What do you intend to do about your situation?
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I guess I'm wondering if you intend to take charge of your life by participating from here moving forward as a decent person? Answer that simple question... I am going to take charge of my life, I need to Figure this out, and have a talk with the other man
CarrieT Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I am going to take charge of my life, I need to Figure this out, and have a talk with the other man The best thing you could do is cut ALL contact with the other man, tell your husband, and 'fess up to your "best friend." And I would be willing to bet $1,000 you won't do any of those things. 1
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 In the case of internet forums, a troll is someone who deliberately makes a topic, usually of a controversial nature, to get reactions from the other posters. The only reason we keep asking is because there are points where you don't seem to be processing anything we're saying. Maybe it's just the way you've been wording things, but it doesn't seem like you feel all that guilty about the affair. In any case, I'll assume your a genuine poster, looking for some input. Well, we've given quite a bit. What do you intend to do about your situation? I don't feel bad for my affiar, it just consumes me Everyday. I'm not even havin an Affair with him Anymore, we'll I guess an emotional affair. I guess when I post it's frank because I'm at work Or on my cell and its lengthy. The story is so long and confusing sometimes I don't Even know where to start.
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I am going to take charge of my life, I need to Figure this out, and have a talk with the other man That's exactly what you should NOT do! Don't ever talk to him or see him ever again! Of course he stops by - any man would if he knows he can get sex by paying some attention to you. That doesn't make you special - it makes you available and easy for him to cheat! Big difference! You're not single - stop acting like you are.
Author marriedNlost Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I could always cut all contact with them. And move on? Hmm Why tell when I end it? I know why, but just saying
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I could always cut all contact with them. And move on? Hmm Why tell when I end it? I know why, but just saying And why not get honest with hubby? Then your M could stand a chance of getting better? Honesty helps. He's going to wonder and ask why no friendship anymore, right? Cutting ALL contact is a start...
coffeebean201 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 However exciting you find this situation now........... is how awful you are going to find the situation when it all falls apart. and it always falls apart. He's probably not as emotionally involved as you or he would be pretty honest and up front, rather than "falling into" these scenarios with you. If I have this wrong, you can correct me....... 1
AbeNormal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) In the case of internet forums, a troll is someone who deliberately makes a topic, usually of a controversial nature, to get reactions from the other posters. The only reason we keep asking is because there are points where you don't seem to be processing anything we're saying. Maybe it's just the way you've been wording things, but it doesn't seem like you feel all that guilty about the affair. In any case, I'll assume your a genuine poster, looking for some input. Well, we've given quite a bit. What do you intend to do about your situation? Well, I will confess that I don't know either whether this is a genuine poster. Could be. Anyway, perhaps it is not reasonable of me to try and make a characterization of this poster via a (simple) particular word that is five letters long - I don't know. I was hoping it was just something as insignificant as "troll". But perhaps it is a five letter word starting with the letter i and ending with the letter t. Again, I don't know. Perhaps others can help - I realize that I am in no position to do so. Edited July 4, 2013 by AbeNormal 2
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