Remorsefulgirl Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. We were friends with benefits for almost a year and I had feelings for him and he liked me too. We decided around valentines day this year to start dating and we did. He's been in Vegas with his guy friends for two now and this past weekend my friend had a party. I know my limit in drinking but I hadn't eaten since 4pm and we started drinking at 10pm. I had three beers and one shot of captain before I blacked out. I woke up the next morning on my friends couch and she informed me that me and a old friend of ours kissed. I have no memory of it at all. I know I have to tell my boyfriend when he comes home tomorrow and it's awful. It was just a kiss and I would have never ever done something like that and I haven't ever done anything like that before either. I can't eat, sleep, or stop crying because I feel so awful and terrible about what happened. I know he's gonna break up with me and I deserve it no matter how upset and sorry I am, but is there any glimmer of hope he won't? I hate myself so much Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. We were friends with benefits for almost a year and I had feelings for him and he liked me too. We decided around valentines day this year to start dating and we did. He's been in Vegas with his guy friends for two now and this past weekend my friend had a party. I know my limit in drinking but I hadn't eaten since 4pm and we started drinking at 10pm. I had three beers and one shot of captain before I blacked out. I woke up the next morning on my friends couch and she informed me that me and a old friend of ours kissed. I have no memory of it at all. I know I have to tell my boyfriend when he comes home tomorrow and it's awful. It was just a kiss and I would have never ever done something like that and I haven't ever done anything like that before either. I can't eat, sleep, or stop crying because I feel so awful and terrible about what happened. I know he's gonna break up with me and I deserve it no matter how upset and sorry I am, but is there any glimmer of hope he won't? I hate myself so much Don't use the blackout crap as an excuse. Even if you believe you didn't know what was happening, your BF will never believe it. Never. It was only a kiss? Really? If it was and the guy and/or your friends will vouch for you then maybe you can patch it up. If he gets really upset and dumps you or you stay together but he's always mad and never trusts you then it's best to go your separate ways. Life's too short to waste on crap like this. Your young and should be having the time of your life. Soon you'll wish you had taken advantage of being young and single - believe me. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 If it was truely and only a kiss and people can validate that claim, then it could have been a lot worse. Is he going to be mad? YEP! probably! But, if it was only a kiss, then chances are he won't end things with you, but you have a LOT of making up to him to do. If he does end it, it will be right when you tell him. So, he's going to be good and mad. But, just let him go. Let him cool off and he may want to talk it over again when he isn't so upset. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Just tell him and own your actions. Whether or not your BF takes you back or not is up to him...however dating after being FWB for a year will make your relationship that more difficult if it continues. You are only 4 months in and blacking out after 3 beers and a shot? Please monitor your drinking. At any rate please just be honest with him if you really care about him. Otherwise I suggest you just go back to being FWB as it seems your mind was back there when you kissed this other guy. Link to post Share on other sites
TG1 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 In your defense you were drunk so I would say if you were sober you wouldn't have cheated on your boyfriend am I right? If I am, then I would say tell him right away as soon as he comes back and tell him how sorry you are but explain the circumstances also in which you were drunk at this party. Then tell him that if you were in your right mind you would have never done it at all and if your boyfriend can forgive that then you have yourself a real winner because you made a mistake one mistake that quite frankly would have never have happened had you been sober and you shouldn't have to pay for that Link to post Share on other sites
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