Vinegar Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I'm a girl and I would wait 6 months if I can get away with it. I don't give it out to anyone I go on dates with. I don't even make out or anything. Not until I know for sure i like the guy and it takes a long time to get to know him. If they can't wait fine by me, move on! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
L1ght Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 The more I think about this, I don't think I'd be compatible with a guy who could easily wait 10+ dates for sex... I'd hope his libido would be unforgivingly higher than that. Exactly. Women know that men are generally primed and ready to go and its definitely true that they lose respect for the guys who are too afraid to make a move at the right time. Its not rocket science...women like sex too and once they green light a guy to show his intentions it really shouldn't take long at all to get things moving. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I'm a girl and I would wait 6 months if I can get away with it. I don't give it out to anyone I go on dates with. I don't even make out or anything. Not until I know for sure i like the guy and it takes a long time to get to know him. If they can't wait fine by me, move on! You must be a boatload of fun... While I am all for holding some cards, especially when it comes down to sex, frankly that type of shyt is just stupid, IMO..I dont see too many guy s that are going to feel all that good about playing your game. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Exactly. Women know that men are generally primed and ready to go and its definitely true that they lose respect for the guys who are too afraid to make a move at the right time. Its not rocket science...women like sex too and once they green light a guy to show his intentions it really shouldn't take long at all to get things moving. Not all women... I lose respect for men who are 'primed and ready to go' for any willing female they are physically attracted to and who can't demonstrate self-control. That makes them no different than animals. Certainly not someone I'd care to enter into a relationship with or trust with my emotions. I don't equate libido with mindless screwing. Anyone can do that. Funny... so many men act like brainless effing machines, then people get on MY case that I view so many of them as 'loser infested creeps'. Hilarious. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Introvert Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 QUOTE Say you really enjoyed her company and thought she was both attractive and interesting. Would you be annoyed with not having sex by dates 10-14? Would you even think to be in a relationship with her BEFORE having sex? I am Christian and I Love Jesus, I won't and have never had sex outside marriage, period. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 (edited) The men that I've dated are more cautious because they have something to lose by getting involved with the wrong kind of woman... not because their libidos are low. The guys who were all 'primed and ready to go' ASAP were much more likely to have some garbage in their past... that they hoped I'd possibly overlook if/when we had sex... their reasoning being that they assume women are 'locked in' emotionally after sex. ... or perhaps they just don't care about who they have sex with or care enough about themselves... Edited July 3, 2013 by RedRobin 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 The men that I've dated are more cautious because they have something to lose by getting involved with the wrong kind of woman... not because their libidos are low. Out of interest, what was that? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Not all women... I lose respect for men who are 'primed and ready to go' for any willing female they are physically attracted to and who can't demonstrate self-control. That makes them no different than animals. Certainly not someone I'd care to enter into a relationship with or trust with my emotions. I don't equate libido with mindless screwing. Anyone can do that. Funny... so many men act like brainless effing machines, then people get on MY case that I view so many of them as 'loser infested creeps'. Hilarious. http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mch1oa3aiA1r4t7nto1_250.gif 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Just don't make it a big deal! Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 (edited) Out of interest, what was that? They are high profile men in their respective organizations. They are very careful and deliberate in whom they choose to spend time with... both personally and professionally. These are men who do not benefit from being viewed as a 'lady's man'. Just the opposite in fact. Don't get me wrong... they had plenty of attention from women... they were just very careful and slow in their approach and attention initially. I could tell they were very attracted to me, but they never lost control. Once in a relationship, they were very passionate and uninhibited... but this didn't happen overnight. No libido issues there at all. One of them wanted me to marry him, but I decided against it because I'd seriously had my fill of being in the public eye. It was a tough decision. The woman he ended up marrying is much better for him that way. Edited: Oh, I'm sorry Emilia.... I thought you had a serious question. Never mind. Edited July 3, 2013 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 They are high profile men in their respective organizations. They are very careful and deliberate in whom they choose to spend time with... both personally and professionally. These are men who do not benefit from being viewed as a 'lady's man'. Just the opposite in fact. Well I'm yet to see an organisation where men don't benefit from being seen as a ladies' men (including the Catholic church ) but from what I've seen where image matters, they are good at suppressing gossip rather than being all that innocent. Don't get me wrong... they had plenty of attention from women... they were just very careful and slow in their approach and attention initially. I could tell they were very attracted to me, but they never lost control. Once in a relationship, they were very passionate and uninhibited... but this didn't happen overnight. No libido issues there at all. One of them wanted me to marry him, but I decided against it because I'd seriously had my fill of being in the public eye. It was a tough decision. The woman he ended up marrying is much better for him that way. Good for you but personally I'd prefer to be with someone who doesn't want to screw around rather than because he is scared to be found out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Maybe that is the difference between the men I date and the men some others choose to get involved with... The men I choose to enter into a relationship with don't need external validation by screwing lots of women or strangers... and they certainly don't benefit by being viewed as mindless, rutting, animals looking for a just another warm spot to put their stuff. They know they could (just like I know *I* could)... they just choose not to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Maybe that is the difference between the men I date and the men some others choose to get involved with... The men I choose to enter into a relationship with don't need external validation by screwing lots of women or strangers... and they certainly don't benefit by being viewed as mindless, rutting, animals looking for a just another warm spot to put their stuff. They know they could (just like I know *I* could)... they just choose not to. Where are those men... I may marry one of them :lmao: There are those men who tell you honestly what they think and those who pretend to be what you want to hear... you can choose Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Well I'm yet to see an organisation where men don't benefit from being seen as a ladies' men (including the Catholic church ) but from what I've seen where image matters, they are good at suppressing gossip rather than being all that innocent. Sure, I know people like that too. But I've known these men for quite some time. They don't present one side to the public and another side in their private lives. When negative things happened to them, they don't try to hide it. But they also don't take foolish risks. Good for you but personally I'd prefer to be with someone who doesn't want to screw around rather than because he is scared to be found out. I'd say that not wanting to be associated with a bad sort of person is a pretty legitimate reason to be cautious about whom one sleeps with. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HumptyDumpty Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Well well, I just had to respond to this post as a girl... It all depends on the situations and the type of person involved! As well what type of dates you're talking about! If it's several times like a cinema, well, good luck doing it during the movie Plus - how to define the sexual interaction? I could wait easily 10 dates without being offended by it (am I not sexy enough?!)! Personally, I tend to wait but (!) it doesn't mean that before those 10 weeks no sexual interaction is happening! It could be touching new territories or even going down on him I prefer to build up the tension, it's sexier, until it can be held anymore No playing involved, I don't play guys! But I feel safer, I'm not experienced enough so I have my tiny issues with this! This being said, I can wait 10 dates! But if after 3 months max nothing is happening at all, there is something wrong! The guy shouldn't be able to keep his hands off me in private (cinema, restaurants, or other doesn't count) lol I'd say 2 months is the safe feel-good time to actually do it after some "minor" sexual interaction (a case for a guy I've met at work or school, a normal crush, and some texting or facebooking before going on dates in order to get to know the person better and creating some common themes, I don't do one-night things or FWB) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Where are those men... I may marry one of them :lmao: There are those men who tell you honestly what they think and those who pretend to be what you want to hear... you can choose I didn't know you were bi-sexual... ... and don't be silly... you would never be happy in a marriage... unless it was an open marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Plus - how to define the sexual interaction? It could be touching new territories or even going down on him Oral sex is sex. The clue is in the name. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Well I'm yet to see an organisation where men don't benefit from being seen as a ladies' men (including the Catholic church ) but from what I've seen where image matters, they are good at suppressing gossip rather than being all that innocent. Good for you but personally I'd prefer to be with someone who doesn't want to screw around rather than because he is scared to be found out. I will have to agree. Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I didn't know you were bi-sexual... ... and don't be silly... you would never be happy in a marriage... unless it was an open marriage. Ohh there are so many things that you don't know about me... But you don't have to worry I am not bi... I don't nee to be bi to marry a woman... that is what you were describing...Men don't act like a woman and if they do then you have another problem if you are looking for a relationship with him :lmao: I would not have a problem to be in a open relationship if that would be the way my partner would want to do it but I have been in monogamous relationships too and I have enjoy them as much! You know nothing lady... and you will change a lot in your life! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I wouldn't be angry. But I also wouldn't have made it to 10 dates. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
L1ght Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Not all women... I lose respect for men who are 'primed and ready to go' for any willing female they are physically attracted to and who can't demonstrate self-control. That makes them no different than animals. Certainly not someone I'd care to enter into a relationship with or trust with my emotions. I don't equate libido with mindless screwing. Anyone can do that. Funny... so many men act like brainless effing machines, then people get on MY case that I view so many of them as 'loser infested creeps'. Hilarious. I'm just being honest with you and FYI do you think I have never been the guy who shows self control and builds a friendly, deep, spiritual and emotional relationship with someone before I take things to the next level with them? I'm just telling you how it is and don't mistake those guys(the ones who you say you can trust more than guys like me) who sit and listen to you talking about your life for hours and hours and days and weeks and months and years for guys who's primary goal is not to get you into bed. The only difference between me and those guys is that they generally get friendzoned while I at least find out pretty early if I'm gonna get the opportunity to become sexually intimate with my potential partner or not. If not then I'll find somebody else who is more compatible with my lifestyle and mentality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Really simple answer: Some will and some won't. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Really simple answer: Some will and some won't. Sometimes Els we don't know what we would do without you on LS 6 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Really simple answer: Some will and some won't. Why couldn't you have said that 240 posts ago and saved us all this trouble! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
crude Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I don't think it's even about the sex. People can wait. The motivation behind the lack of sex is the main factor. No sex because you're ultra religious when I'm not, or you're somehow damaged and hate sex, or maybe you can wait because you don't particularly find me attractive, those are real issues behind the enforced celibacy, and they're the deal breakers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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