dalex Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 My inability to ask women out, has been entirely dependent on the fact that I haven't been largely successful with getting dates, from phone numbers. I was a noob at this whole dating thing, and I've come off as too strong, creepy, or inappropriately flirty, and now I think I have the gist of it, by behaving more subtly, and being patient as if dating was fishing. If it nibbles you gently pull, and if not, you forget about it. Recently I saw this girl at the university gym, I made eye contact, and she looked down, and we both did nothing else. Afterwards, we would notice one another in a completely different light. Today, I noticed from the sides of my eyes that she tried to make eye contact with me, so I complied. However, no smile was present. I think that in the last few days she did see me, she tried to hold some eye contact, but my mind could be playing tricks on me. I feel like this one is going to be a dud like the previous ones, and the fact that she works at a place that I visit everyday is the hardest part. One thing is getting rejected and never seeing the person again, and another is having to deal them on a more occasional basis than one would like to deal with. What should I do in this situation? Go with my gut or against it? Link to post Share on other sites
The Introvert Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 I suggest you go with your gut Dalex.I like the eye contacts you have made and I am interpreting them as signs of attraction, if she wasn't interested in you she wouldn't bother to make eye contact at all.If she rejects you, no problem, keep keeping on fishing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jesk Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Are you sure she is looking at you first? If you are looking at her, she may "feel" someone staring so she looks up. If she doesn't hold the eye contact and doesn't smile when your eyes met, I'd wager it's a bust. On the flip side, she could be incredibly any. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dalex Posted July 4, 2013 Author Share Posted July 4, 2013 Are you sure she is looking at you first? If you are looking at her, she may "feel" someone staring so she looks up. If she doesn't hold the eye contact and doesn't smile when your eyes met, I'd wager it's a bust. On the flip side, she could be incredibly any. The first time we looked at one another I definitely initiated it. Afterwards, I just felt awkward, and I bet she did too. The day before yesterday, she was the one who stole a glance while I was walking down the stairs. Today I evaded eye contact, and out of the corners of my eye, I noticed that she was trying to see if I was looking at her. Girls that are into me, usually have this huge smile and eagerness going on. The girls that made moves on me, were the ones I was never into. In general, I'm tired of reading into all these signs, but I can't ignore them entirely. Rejection hurts, and it can be embarrassing depending on the situation. I just want to get a girlfriend that I find attractive whom likes me for who I am. That **** is in fairy-tales though, its all about sexual economics. In order for a man to get a girlfriend he must have: higher age, a job, money, education, his own housing, car, rugged good looks, an above average physique, and a great personality. When one has a shortcoming in any of those areas, the likelihood of rejection increases, and attraction plummets. Watching girls around my age that go out with awesome dudes, makes me feel like some bum panhandling for pennies. The sad part is that my campus actually has more women than men, (43-45 percent male) but it almost seems like there are infinitely more single dudes than women. Being a young, and poor college student sucks. I'm finding new levels of low as my dry spell progresses; such as over analyzing situations for good signs, when there is actually little to debacle about. Link to post Share on other sites
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