dizy Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am aware that some men (early/mid 20s) are mature for their age, even more so than women of their age. But I have met so few of them. So here is the list of guys that I have met (not always romantically, just as friends/acquaintances) - Full of themselves: they think that they are so unique/special/attractive - Lack of confidence (which is totally fine, but I just can't keep asking why?) - Superficial - No passion/interest about anything in life - Immature - mama's boy - financial mess (I am not talking about being rich or poor, just having some clues of what's happening in their bank account? oh and some 25s don't even have a bank account) Of course, I am not perfect and I am fully aware of that. I am also friends with very nice/considerate guys who take care of themselves, but I am constantly surprised by how immature guys of my age (early/mid 20s) generally behave. Is there a special event/age/life experience that will enlighten guys? (or immature women since this is not gender specific?)
bluegreen Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I actually can at least try to get this but I want to wail like a baby when 35 or up guy behaves same or worse ...
MrCastle Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am aware that some men (early/mid 20s) are mature for their age, even more so than women of their age. But I have met so few of them. So here is the list of guys that I have met (not always romantically, just as friends/acquaintances) - Full of themselves: they think that they are so unique/special/attractive - Lack of confidence (which is totally fine, but I just can't keep asking why?) - Superficial - No passion/interest about anything in life - Immature - mama's boy - financial mess (I am not talking about being rich or poor, just having some clues of what's happening in their bank account? oh and some 25s don't even have a bank account) Of course, I am not perfect and I am fully aware of that. I am also friends with very nice/considerate guys who take care of themselves, but I am constantly surprised by how immature guys of my age (early/mid 20s) generally behave. Is there a special event/age/life experience that will enlighten guys? (or immature women since this is not gender specific?) Why not date them? 3
Legatus Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Unfortunately there's no particular point in life for a man to grown up to match those bulletpoints of yours. I am afraid there's no pattern to it. I personally had to become mature when I was 19 when I moved by myself to a different country, so perhaps that was my point, who knows. There's no way to force it upon a person, they have to realize it themselves, but I feel your pain. I am mid 20s and I do look for a mature woman. It didn't help that my ex was 4 years younger and although she seemed mature, she wasn't in reality.
Author dizy Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Why not date them? Because they are not always interested in me? Because we have known each other for way too long for this to happen? Because they have a gf? Because they don't want to commit a relationship? There's another thing that i don't understand about guys of this age range (or even older), what's with relationship/sex? why does everything have to do with them. and I am not asking this because MrCastle asked me that question, but rather that's a TYPICAL male reaction when I say that I know some really nice/decent guys. There is this thing called friendship.
MrCastle Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Because they are not always interested in me? Because we have known each other for way too long for this to happen? Because they have a gf? Because they don't want to commit a relationship? There's another thing that i don't understand about guys of this age range (or even older), what's with relationship/sex? why does everything have to do with them. and I am not asking this because MrCastle asked me that question, but rather that's a TYPICAL male reaction when I say that I know some really nice/decent guys. There is this thing called friendship. This is a relationship/sex forum. 1
Author dizy Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 This is a relationship/sex forum. True. but not every single word of a thread that people start here has to do with relationship/sex. You quoted a couple of words of a few paragraphs that just happen to not be related to relationship/sex.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 In short, to answer your question, "mature" depends on the individual. Basically, guys wont want what YOU want until many of them reach their 30's, or until they date around enough. Many guys in their 20's are only as mature as they need to be. if they are getting laid easily, they are fine with that. They arent thinking about having a family yet, they dont want it, they dont need it, and they dont care about it just because someone else thinks they should. So you will just have to work harder to approach more guys to find the one that wants the same things that you want in life.
MrCastle Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 True. but not every single word of a thread that people start here has to do with relationship/sex. You quoted a couple of words of a few paragraphs that just happen to not be related to relationship/sex. This is the dating section. So I just assumed you were looking to date mature men. If this isn't about dating then I guess I was confused because it's in this section.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Judge Judy said on the show last night that men dont reach emotional matuurity until they are 40.. I am sure she was kidding(maybe she wasnt?), the point is that it seems more common these days for guys in their 20's and 30's not showing real signs of maturity...I have seen personally that women are FAR more mature than men at this age. They work good jobs have good credit, usually have money in the bank, etc...OTOH, I see guys in their 30's who still rely on their parents or GF to pay their car insurance and other misc incidentals, jump from job/career to another etc,,.. I had a mortgage when I was 23 and was running my own company a year later...That type of stuff is unheard of these days....Now I am starting to sound like an old codger, but its true... TFY
CptSaveAho Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 This is the dating section. So I just assumed you were looking to date mature men. There are very few mature men on this forum, most dont post here or have in the past but get ridiculed and quit posting. People that get it and do post here, only do so to get their posts read, acknowledged and even liked but the poster will go on to do what they think is right anyways There are even fewer mature women or women that get it and I recall maybe one or two that aren't ruined Contrary to the hoopla spinning around this forum... "nice" guys aren't mature guys
suladas Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I find it the complete opposite. I'm 24 own my own home, and been completely self reliant for the last 2 years. While I would agree when to comes to relationships for the most part women seem to mature quicker, the financial aspect the guys seem to be better at. However I for sure agree most guys my age are pretty immature when it comes to relationships, I find it almost pathetic sometimes. I have always been quite mature, some people just grow up in circumstances that forces them to grow up much quicker then others. But moving out on my own made a big difference. When it comes to money though, I think that is just something you're either good with or you aren't, not a age thing.
Author dizy Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Judge Judy said on the show last night that men dont reach emotional matuurity until they are 40.. I am sure she was kidding(maybe she wasnt?), the point is that it seems more common these days for guys in their 20's and 30's not showing real signs of maturity...I have seen personally that women are FAR more mature than men at this age. They work good jobs have good credit, usually have money in the bank, etc...OTOH, I see guys in their 30's who still rely on their parents or GF to pay their car insurance and other misc incidentals, jump from job/career to another etc,,.. I had a mortgage when I was 23 and was running my own company a year later...That type of stuff is unheard of these days....Now I am starting to sound like an old codger, but its true... TFY Unfortunately with the students loans that we will have to pay back nowadays, I don't think anyone can afford to start a company at 23 unless they have rich parents.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 (edited) Unfortunately with the students loans that we will have to pay back nowadays, I don't think anyone can afford to start a company at 23 unless they have rich parents. Nonsense... I came from a broken home. Put myself through college(no, not Harvard - but a well respected state university). I started my company with a few thousand bucks I borrowed from a friend of mine. Between turning over real estate and the profits of the business, I was worth well over a million dollars++ before I was 30 years old.... I get tired of people complaining about college costs...Yes, they are out of hand, but if its too much, dont go. I am proud that I obtained my diploma, but quite frankly I didnt need one day in college to survive in this world...Not one day. Tell it to someone else.. TFY Edited July 2, 2013 by thefooloftheyear
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