What do you think of this metaphor for cheating?

[Betterthanthis13]

Cheating is appalling to me on so many levels and trying to understand the motivation behind hurting someone you claim to love by secretly declaring psychological warfare on them. Then when cheaters are busted the variety of bizarre excuses, justifications, and apologetic reactions further astounds me.

 

Ok here's my metaphor- written as a fake request for advice on Loveshack from the side of the cheater to illustrate how nonsensical i think cheating is---pick it apart for me. I know it's kind of crazy and it's a little gross but I'm in a weird mood today.

 

 

 

I love my boyfriend. I really do. I never meant to hurt him. But we were fighting a lot and he was stressed out from his job, and I had a bad childhood and I have abandonment issues. So one night I went outside and opened the hood of his VW Passat and unhooked the brake line. The hose was kind of cute so I started talking to it. I told it about my relationship problems. It told me I was pretty. I hooked it back up and closed the hood and went back to bed and cuddled with my boyfriend.

 

Over the next few weeks me and Brake Hose became closer and closer. I knew I couldn't tell my boyfriend because he wouldn't like me messing with his brakes since if I hooked them back up wrong he could like die or whatever. My boyfriend started to suspect something was up and asked me a few times if I wanted to talk but I just figured if I told him he was crazy and being paranoid and that I loved him everything would be ok.

 

Then me and Brake Hose got a little carried away- I started going to meet him at lunch in the parking lot of my bf's office building and every night after bf fell asleep. We started getting physical which was kind of messy and somewhat difficult but wow! Fireworks and butterflies. At this point bf was super annoyed because he said I constantly smelled like a mechanic all of a sudden. I told him it was my new perfume and it hurt my feelings he didn't like it.

 

Ok so then the bad thing happened. I got so caught up with Brake Hose one night I must not have connected him back the right way. Bf got in a really bad car crash and is in the hospital with a bunch of broken bones. When I went to the hospital to visit he started yelling at me saying he knew it was my fault and how could I do this to him? He had a (slightly burned) explicit dirty note I had written to Brake Hose and left under the hood as evidence.

 

Help I'm so sad what should I do?

[Betterthanthis13]

Lotsa views and no comments I guess everyone thinks I'm out of my mind lol

[umirano]

Well... I get the metaphor, I guess. But it seems a little excessive, exposing someone to the risk of dying, for what? Cheating? Just walk away from that RS. I'm sure you've hurt people too in your life. If everyone would start unhooking brake lines when someone hurt them (badly, ok...) this world would be even more miserable a place.

 

Look, I don't like the fact that there are cheaters. I also don't like child abuse, environmental damages and a whole bunch of other things. But we don't decapitate people for all those crimes. But they severely hurt me and others too, if they happen.

 

To a certain extent cheating, and infidelity, are human traits. Like lying, violence... I'd say you fare much better if you simply avoid and leave people who do you harm. A perpetual revenge trip will not get you very far in life, will not make you happy and will not make the world a better place.