What are my options going through divorce?

[jeenamartinez]

My life is a living hell. I was arrange married at the age of 19 and moved to a different state where I have no family and no one for support. I was 19 married to a 32 year old man and I have a child with him unfortunately, but I love my child with all my heart.

 

I live with him and his parents and our child, my husband hasn't worked in 3 years and is a lazy bum, I make all the money in the house and he spent my whole bank account and left me with nothing. His parents are devils and I hate them with all my heart regardless of everything they will never move out and he wont kick his parents out. He keeps threatening me with a divorce, which I don't care but then I'll be stuck in the same state alone with my child and forced to quit my job in order to stay with my kid. He tells me leave the baby and get out.....year right my baby is my life and I'm the one that raised him and provided for him since birth. He even used all the money I stored in my baby's bank account for school savings.! I really need to know what my options are because If I get a divorce I want to leave to another state.

 

He makes no money, and is currently about to go on disability so how would the child support work? If he is not able to provide for the baby would the judge give me the right to take my child and leave to another state?

 

I'm living through hell & I'm basically loosing my mind. This has been my life for the past 3 years and I need some serious help. Please someone tell me what I should do and what would a judge decide in your opinions.

 

He stole all my money and gave it to his family in cash to hold for him, I'm completely hopeless and I don't have anybody. Please someone give me advice...I can't continue living my life this way.

[coaches24]

This is a tough situation. I think I would start by starting a new checking account that he can't access (and doesn't need to know about) and having your pay checks deposited there and then start saving as much as possible. But he would figure it out pretty quick so not sure what you would want to tell him. Might even look into an apartment for you and your child and move out suddenly while you file for D.

 

As for your rights and all that look around for a lawyer who may be wiling to give you a free consultation and let you know what your looking at if you file for D.

 

My life is a living hell. I was arrange married at the age of 19 and moved to a different state where I have no family and no one for support. I was 19 married to a 32 year old man and I have a child with him unfortunately, but I love my child with all my heart.

 

I live with him and his parents and our child, my husband hasn't worked in 3 years and is a lazy bum, I make all the money in the house and he spent my whole bank account and left me with nothing. His parents are devils and I hate them with all my heart regardless of everything they will never move out and he wont kick his parents out. He keeps threatening me with a divorce, which I don't care but then I'll be stuck in the same state alone with my child and forced to quit my job in order to stay with my kid. He tells me leave the baby and get out.....year right my baby is my life and I'm the one that raised him and provided for him since birth. He even used all the money I stored in my baby's bank account for school savings.! I really need to know what my options are because If I get a divorce I want to leave to another state.

 

He makes no money, and is currently about to go on disability so how would the child support work? If he is not able to provide for the baby would the judge give me the right to take my child and leave to another state?

 

I'm living through hell & I'm basically loosing my mind. This has been my life for the past 3 years and I need some serious help. Please someone tell me what I should do and what would a judge decide in your opinions.

 

He stole all my money and gave it to his family in cash to hold for him, I'm completely hopeless and I don't have anybody. Please someone give me advice...I can't continue living my life this way.

[Yasuandio]

This is just such a mess, I am removing my whole post. Please, go see an attorney -- or an embassy for your country. Yas

Edited July 3, 2013 by Yasuandio
Reconsidered that my advise is not of any use here.

[elfman]

Wow, you're in a tough spot. First and foremost, Yas is right, you need to see a lawyer right away.

 

Also, do a comprehensive research online before your attorney date and write down questions somewhere your husband will not find them, be precise, use the time of the free consultation wisely so you at least walk away with ideas and options. If you can, ask a family judge to be able to move with your child to another place, I do not know how it works in the US but where I am from a woman can say she fears for her safety (because he drinks, is violent, etc) and can move somewhere else, and it takes little time to get the court order to do this.

 

He is using your kid to keep you there, and badgering you by saying things like "if you leave you do it alone"... the fact remains that you have rights, you have to work up the strenght to wield them.

 

Best of luck to you.

 

E.