Ssgrimes Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 He breaks NC to send me a picture of a view from vacation... Seriously?!?!?!? I didn't respond, I don't even know what to think. Screw him and the "happy life" that he gets to enjoy. I have no problem, even though it is one of the hardest things I have done, not having any sort of communication with him. He and his freaking lets be friends philosophy can just go to hell!!!! He is so stuck on himself and making sure his "image" looks good and he gets to live the luxurious lifestyle he so ohviously enjoys. If it was that great you wouldn't be constantly searching for more. Pull your head out and realize that you really are acting like a spoiled brat child!! And before everyone recommends, I cannot change my phone number, it is tied into my business and there is too much to lose financially for me. I have changed every thing else. Just cannot believe he thinks I want to celebrate his vacation!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 He breaks NC to send me a picture of a view from vacation... Seriously?!?!?!? I didn't respond, I don't even know what to think. Screw him and the "happy life" that he gets to enjoy. I have no problem, even though it is one of the hardest things I have done, not having any sort of communication with him. He and his freaking lets be friends philosophy can just go to hell!!!! He is so stuck on himself and making sure his "image" looks good and he gets to live the luxurious lifestyle he so ohviously enjoys. If it was that great you wouldn't be constantly searching for more. Pull your head out and realize that you really are acting like a spoiled brat child!! And before everyone recommends, I cannot change my phone number, it is tied into my business and there is too much to lose financially for me. I have changed every thing else. Just cannot believe he thinks I want to celebrate his vacation!!!! My phone gives me the option to block any number, even unknown numbers. When my h fOW wouldnt stop calling me, I blocked her number and unknowns...and ahhhhhhh no more late night psycho calls...check your phone settings to see if you have this feature...it is great! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HopingAgain Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Wow...he sounds like a thoughtless and arrogant ahole. Why would he think you'd want a reminder of him vacationing with his wife? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 What a pig sending you pictures from a trip with his wife. I guess you should just ignore it...or tell him you hope he and his WIFE are enjoying their holiday. My exMM also broke NC today and FedEx'd me a birthday card. FedEx? Very random. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 print picture send to BS, that's terrible for him to rub it in your face! Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 HAPPY BIRTHDAY GOODBYE :D !!! Hope you have(had?) a wonderful day and I wish you the best for many years to come!!! P.S. B011ock$ to your exMM & his poxy card how dare he try to spoil your special day Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 My phone gives me the option to block any number, even unknown numbers. When my h fOW wouldnt stop calling me, I blocked her number and unknowns...and ahhhhhhh no more late night psycho calls...check your phone settings to see if you have this feature...it is great! Please...which phone is this? So I can try and find it here or hop on a plane to the USA and get one. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 He breaks NC to send me a picture of a view from vacation... Seriously?!?!?!? I didn't respond, I don't even know what to think. Screw him and the "happy life" that he gets to enjoy. I have no problem, even though it is one of the hardest things I have done, not having any sort of communication with him. He and his freaking lets be friends philosophy can just go to hell!!!! He is so stuck on himself and making sure his "image" looks good and he gets to live the luxurious lifestyle he so ohviously enjoys. If it was that great you wouldn't be constantly searching for more. Pull your head out and realize that you really are acting like a spoiled brat child!! And before everyone recommends, I cannot change my phone number, it is tied into my business and there is too much to lose financially for me. I have changed every thing else. Just cannot believe he thinks I want to celebrate his vacation!!!! Well done you for sticking to NC !!! Picture yourself on your own vacation in a fabulous location, where you will be having heaps and heaps of fun, so much so that you will be far too busy to think about him, much less send him pictures of yourself. I'm sure your life is fabulous. And that you are not as classless or as desperate as he is to keep reminding him that you can enjoy your life without him in it. Keep it up! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 HAPPY BIRTHDAY GOODBYE :D !!! Hope you have(had?) a wonderful day and I wish you the best for many years to come!!! P.S. B011ock$ to your exMM & his poxy card how dare he try to spoil your special day Thank you very much. He didn't spoil my day....I spent it with my lovely daughters. OP...Did he initiate NC? If he did and broke it in this way, that would make me feisty. I would be tempted to let his vacation partner know. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I call asshat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 Wow...he sounds like a thoughtless and arrogant ahole. Why would he think you'd want a reminder of him vacationing with his wife? Yep, I am seeing that more and more. I hope he gets stung by a jellyfish in just the perfect spot!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 Thank you very much. He didn't spoil my day....I spent it with my lovely daughters. OP...Did he initiate NC? If he did and broke it in this way, that would make me feisty. I would be tempted to let his vacation partner know. I initiated NC because I knew it was what was best after a DDay where he lied and weasels his way out of the truth. He wants to "stay friends" so that he doesn't look like the bad guy he is. If I knew a way to get in contact with his wife I would.... But really, he is not worth my time and he will get caught on his own!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 Well done you for sticking to NC !!! Picture yourself on your own vacation in a fabulous location, where you will be having heaps and heaps of fun, so much so that you will be far too busy to think about him, much less send him pictures of yourself. I'm sure your life is fabulous. And that you are not as classless or as desperate as he is to keep reminding him that you can enjoy your life without him in it. Keep it up! Oh that's what I am doing. I really can't believe that his life is just roses. I am sure that he is on a tight leash a d this vacation is just another way to keep her eyes on him. He has pretty much been under house arrest since DDay and that alone gives me personal pleasure. He really didn't enjoy being home,so he found all sorts of things to do to fill his time. Now he has no choice. I hope once the relaxing vacation ends he returns home to misery!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Yep, I am seeing that more and more. I hope he gets stung by a jellyfish in just the perfect spot!!! Love it!!! an excellent purpose for what I consider a hideous and pointless creature(jellyfish I mean)! we can send a portuguese man o' war his way. Aren't they the ones with tentacles that are hundreds of metres long..? He'll never know what got him ... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LosingHope0806 Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 As others have previously stated you can block numbers from any phone now a days or servers just google it. And I've had a similar situation yet he didn't send me the pictures of his vacation. Posted them just a week after we broke up! He's such a great guy! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Please...which phone is this? So I can try and find it here or hop on a plane to the USA and get one. Lol i have a galaxy s2...since it is a few models back i am sure the most recent models have it...just in call settings...and i can even pick or create my own auto response...but I refrained from going that far Link to post Share on other sites
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 He breaks NC to send me a picture of a view from vacation... Seriously?!?!?!? I didn't respond, I don't even know what to think. Screw him and the "happy life" that he gets to enjoy. I have no problem, even though it is one of the hardest things I have done, not having any sort of communication with him. He and his freaking lets be friends philosophy can just go to hell!!!! He is so stuck on himself and making sure his "image" looks good and he gets to live the luxurious lifestyle he so ohviously enjoys. If it was that great you wouldn't be constantly searching for more. Pull your head out and realize that you really are acting like a spoiled brat child!! And before everyone recommends, I cannot change my phone number, it is tied into my business and there is too much to lose financially for me. I have changed every thing else. Just cannot believe he thinks I want to celebrate his vacation!!!! I doubt he thinks that, at all. I'm not sure how vindictive he might be, but he's either really, really stupid, and has no clue the damage he's doing, or he knows full well. Either way, you're better off without him. Did he send this via email? If so, anytime you see his name pop up, just delete the message without looking at it. You don't owe him another moment of your precious time. Honestly though, how can he not realize that he's hurting you? If he does realize it, why can't he just leave you alone? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 I doubt he thinks that, at all. I'm not sure how vindictive he might be, but he's either really, really stupid, and has no clue the damage he's doing, or he knows full well. Either way, you're better off without him. Did he send this via email? If so, anytime you see his name pop up, just delete the message without looking at it. You don't owe him another moment of your precious time. Honestly though, how can he not realize that he's hurting you? If he does realize it, why can't he just leave you alone? I think he is just really, really stupid. He sent it via text, and I went to delete it and it is still opened up. No words, just the picture. I quickly deleted and it just continues to remind me that I am so much better without him. I honestly think he feels like we will be able to be friends after all of this. What he doesn't realize is that I want nothing to do with him. I don't want to hear his apologies, even though I think they are warranted, I don't want to hear his excuses, I don't want to hear anything from him. I am sad that the person that I had a friendship with for almost two years has turned into this person that I want nothing to do with. But he created that and I really question that friendship now that I see him in this situation. He is in such a state of denial about everything... To me, to his wife, and even to himself. It's going to be a very lonely life when you run off everyone 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Some people really lack common sense, and common courtesy. Well, two things should be noted about both of those. 1) Neither of them is actually "common". 2) Like deodorant, the people that need it the most seldom ever use it. I hope that at least made you smile. Hang in there, Grimes; eventually, all of this will be nothing but a distant memory. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
grassisorisntgreener Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 That is seriously so douchey of him. I'm proud of you for just deleting it. Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 That is seriously so douchey of him. I'm proud of you for just deleting it. Hang in there! Thanks... Anger turns into hurt, which turns back into anger because I don't want him to be able to make me feel this way. It's better than it was and each day I am a little stronger. It's disappointing seeing someone that you thought you knew to be such a non caring, unable to see the feelings of anyone besides themselves type of person. But I guess the fact that he was willing to step outside his marriage should have been my first clue. I'm trying not to beat myself up too much at this point... A little Internet sleuthing can get you basically anything. I ended Up finding his wife's phone number and am doing everything I can to not send her a screen shot of the photo he sent me. I just really don't want to be involved any more. I'm done!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 He breaks NC to send me a picture of a view from vacation... Seriously?!?!?!? I didn't respond, I don't even know what to think. Screw him and the "happy life" that he gets to enjoy. I have no problem, even though it is one of the hardest things I have done, not having any sort of communication with him. He and his freaking lets be friends philosophy can just go to hell!!!! He is so stuck on himself and making sure his "image" looks good and he gets to live the luxurious lifestyle he so ohviously enjoys. If it was that great you wouldn't be constantly searching for more. Pull your head out and realize that you really are acting like a spoiled brat child!! And before everyone recommends, I cannot change my phone number, it is tied into my business and there is too much to lose financially for me. I have changed every thing else. Just cannot believe he thinks I want to celebrate his vacation!!!! He's an ass smh. Good on you for not responding! Can you block his messages? If you can, I'd do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 3, 2013 Author Share Posted July 3, 2013 Three different people in this thread have asked you why you haven't blocked him or they've mentioned that you can easily block him and stop the drama - and you haven't addressed ANY of those posts. So I'll be the FOURTH person to bring it up. You keep claiming you DON'T want to hear from, you DON'T want to hear his excuses, and you DON'T want to be in contact with him anymore. Yet, you purposely DON'T block him and won't even address posts that suggest you block his number and/or email address. You need to get honest with yourself. Wow! I did address it, but I did it in my phone and it doesn't look like it made it through. I have been very honest with myself about this situation and if you read any of the other posts that I have written you will see that. I am unable to block him from my phone. I have had to call my carrier to arrange that to happen, which I did this morning upon the suggestion from someone here. In other posts you can note the phone was the only way that he had to contact me because I didn't know how to block him. You don't know me, and I don't know you... But you telling me to be honest with myself is a little out if line. The past month I have been nothjng but honest with myself, brutally so in some cases. I have said that I want nothjng to do with the man and am respecting his decisions. Because I was unaware or didn't know what I had to do to block him after I sent a NC letter I am being dishonest with myself???? Your previous post to me has been harsh and abrasive, and I know that is how some people feel about this situation. But, I am doing the best I can with a very emotional and hurtful situation. I'm not perfect and never claimed to be... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Thanks... Anger turns into hurt, which turns back into anger because I don't want him to be able to make me feel this way. It's better than it was and each day I am a little stronger. It's disappointing seeing someone that you thought you knew to be such a non caring, unable to see the feelings of anyone besides themselves type of person. But I guess the fact that he was willing to step outside his marriage should have been my first clue. I'm trying not to beat myself up too much at this point... A little Internet sleuthing can get you basically anything. I ended Up finding his wife's phone number and am doing everything I can to not send her a screen shot of the photo he sent me. I just really don't want to be involved any more. I'm done!!!! I'm sorry you have come to this reality. BS's often come to the same reality after DDay, I know I did. You are quite insightful to had this observation. If you want to give him a nice reality check send that pic , although if he's anything like my WH he'll talk his way out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetandHappy Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Forward the text directly to his spouse... then let him deal with it. If she is already aware of the affair and thinks he is working on the marriage, this is a surefire way to get him there. Link to post Share on other sites
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