taiko Posted July 9, 2013 Share Posted July 9, 2013 Yes or no, if you aren't scared of dating an Indian woman. That's all what I want to know. This isn't a b*tch thread. Thank you. "Sacred" presupposes that the only reason a man would not date an Indian is fear that his cultural norms will swept aside to accommodate Indian cultural/religious norms. And the nominal religion most "white people" belong to is rather exclusive. I prefer to see it as a priority of effort, only a small minority attempt to engage everybody they are physically attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 If I met a woman and got along with her and had a lot of things in common and there was a good connection where something special could develop into a relationship, I wouldn't care if she was a Klingon. I'm white and if she wasn't, I think it's good to know someone else's culture and traditions. I am partial to Asian women and my Mother was always worried that I would bring home a Asian girl. Her trend of thought was, what will the family think. My attitude was, who gives a sh-- what they think. It's my life and if your not happy with my choice, then better learn to deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seductive Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) @whirl3daaway: Do you dress in an Americanized way? Yes, I love heels, skirts, dresses, form-fitting clothes, jeans that show off the shape of my butt, and waist-cinching belts. As a bisexual woman myself, I tend to find women that dress sexy much more attractive than women that choose to dress conservatively. Do you live with your family? No. I've been living on my own for five years now. My parents don't even live in the same state. I went to a speed-dating event tonight that made me rethink my perspectives. The only reason why I started targeting white men for dates is because other Indian people told me that white men were more accepting of sensual characteristics, such as me being bisexual and being a belly dancer. For any of you that advise me to stop being bisexual, I will not do it. That's like telling a person to stop being gay or lesbian. I was told that Indian men wouldn't like me,but I met an Indian-American man that seemed like he wouldn't care about the qualities that I have. He just had an aura that made him seem really laid-back and non-judgmental. From my experience, white men really aren't as open-minded or superior as we stereotype them to be. I'm no longer going to start believing in the nonsense that people tell me. It's extremely important that I have a male partner that's open-minded and understanding of female sexual expression. If I can't find that, the solution is to just stick with dating women. I do easily get white women pursuing me, making sex offers and offers for relationships. Edited July 10, 2013 by Seductive Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 @whirl3daaway: Yes, I love heels, skirts, dresses, form-fitting clothes, jeans that show off the shape of my butt, and waist-cinching belts. As a bisexual woman myself, I tend to find women that dress sexy much more attractive than women that choose to dress conservatively. No. I've been living on my own for five years now. My parents don't even live in the same state. I went to a speed-dating event tonight that made me rethink my perspectives. The only reason why I started targeting white men for dates is because other Indian people told me that white men were more accepting of sensual characteristics, such as me being bisexual and being a belly dancer. For any of you that advise me to stop being bisexual, I will not do it. That's like telling a person to stop being gay or lesbian. I was told that Indian men wouldn't like me,but I met an Indian-American man that seemed like he wouldn't care about the qualities that I have. He just had an aura that made him seem really laid-back and non-judgmental. From my experience, white men really aren't as open-minded or superior as we stereotype them to be. I'm no longer going to start believing in the nonsense that people tell me. It's extremely important that I have a male partner that's open-minded and understanding of female sexual expression. If I can't find that, the solution is to just stick with dating women. I do easily get white women pursuing me, making sex offers and offers for relationships. You need to understand that while a lot of guys would love a sexed up bisexual woman as a hook up partner or booty call, its not that attractive when seeking out a mate for a LTR..Call it hypocrisy if you want to, thats fine. Many guys are very jealous of their gf's..They want ALL of your undivided attention here...especially when it comes to sex. By being bi-sexual, you now doubled his potential competition for you. I know, you can say that you are faithful and all that-thats fine...Many guys wont like it anyway..its hardwired into their brains.. No one(least not me) is saying change your ways and what makes you-you...Just realize that you might have to look a litte harder to find someone that buys into that way of life...Lets face it...its not the "norm".. I wish you well TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 When I was overseas, I'd get people saying things like "you're American?? I thought all Americans were fat!" It's ignorance, of course, but the relatively harmless kind that can be laughed off. And I was a little pleased that it's not just Americans that can be guilty of it. Ever time I go to SE Asia I feel like an albino king kong or godzilla... i mean the people are 5 foot nothing and 90 pounds soaking wet, and I'm 6'1" (without shoes on) and 300 lbs soaking wet (built like a linebacker)... so they really don't say anthing to my face about being a fat American! Although when walking down the streets of Bangkok I'd hear the hookers call "you der American big boyyyy.... want good time?". And to the other posters... as I said before, most white guys (and probably most guys on any race really) don't care about race as long as you are hot. However, with that being said, we all have preferances... and if you are completely different culturally it may seem like a novel idea and fun to begin with but generally things don't last. As I said, I dated an Indonesian girl (she was Catholic, not Muslim so at least we had that in common) and was fully accepting of our cultural differences. I was not totaly ignorant of her culture either... but over time it just didn't work out. And we mutually broke up... no hard feelings on either side. A lot of, if not most, white middle class guys may be attracted to Indian women... but the total culturial difference / culture shock probably scares them unless the woman is fully American or Americanized. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Yeah, white women that go to India need to be careful of being viewed as the equivalent of a porn star. Very true. I spent a bit of time in India, and there was certainly no shortage of harassment! I dressed incredibly conservative in an effort to avoid this, but alas, it was in vain. Amazing place to visit however, and cannot wait to return. Culture shock and a half though... On topic - I agree. If you're attractive, I think that will do the job 99.9% of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 You would be surprised that there's quite a few. They just don't openly tell you to your face. If you were a woman, you would have access to several communities where this arrangement is present between couples of all races. I'm trying to be respectful and polite to you, and I want to keep it that way. If you choose to continue to be rude and hurtful, I will not respond to you. You have clearly made some assumptions that were downright wrong and mean. I have to agree with the other posters..You shouldnt be so defensive. You asked for opinions and when they didnt align with your thinking you flew off the handle.. I dont care what you read or heard of..Not too many legit men are going to put up with competing with another woman for your vagina..especially if she is a dyke and he then becomes the third wheel.. Sorry..I am just telling you how it is as a man..A white one no less. TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seductive Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) I have to agree with the other posters..You shouldnt be so defensive. You asked for opinions and when they didnt align with your thinking you flew off the handle.. I dont care what you read or heard of..Not too many legit men are going to put up with competing with another woman for your vagina..especially if she is a dyke and he then becomes the third wheel.. Sorry..I am just telling you how it is as a man..A white one no less. TFY Okay, I wish you all the best too. Thank you for sharing your opinion, and I will think about it. I won't let your opinion discourage me from finding the right person. If I'm confident enough to find someone that is happy with how I am, it's going to happen. Btw, Fooloftheyear-You do realize that a straight man could also compete for another man's wife's vagina? You do realize that same woman could also leave you hanging for that other man? Edited July 10, 2013 by Seductive Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Among the younger generations, a woman who takes female lovers wouldn't be considered a cheater by most men and they wouldn't take issue with it but I would. Ill take your word for it, but I still dont see it.. Then, wouldnt you always be thinking in the back of your head that she'll blindside you by saying something like.. " I cant suppress it anymore...I am actually more inclined to women and want a female SO....sorry" No effin way...sorry... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seductive Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 " I cant suppress it anymore...I am actually more inclined to women and want a female SO....sorry" No effin way...sorry... TFY There are straight women that have done this. Anyways, I really should be stepping out. Bye! Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) There are straight women that have done this. Anyways, I really should be stepping out. Bye! Ifs and buts were like candy and nuts.... What you are saying is that I can cross the busy highway with my eyes closed and not get hit by a truck...OK fine...But Id much rather take my chances with eyes wide open.. TFY Edited July 10, 2013 by thefooloftheyear Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) I love how you just jump to the conclusions that I'm going to have female lovers on the side when married. Please show me where I said that? The only reason why I started targeting white men for dates is because other Indian people told me that white men were more accepting of sensual characteristics, such as me being bisexual and being a belly dancer. For any of you that advise me to stop being bisexual, I will not do it. That's like telling a person to stop being gay or lesbian. I was told that Indian men wouldn't like me,but... Seductive, I think you should count to ten and reread the scathing post (and PM) and understand that nobody is trying to characterize you as anything at all, or to offend you in any way. All of the posts in this thread have been people honestly addressing the issues as you presented them. Everyone [mostly] is willing to accept you as who you are, but that doesn't mean you're going to like everything they say. Listen with an open mind and heart. If you are actually seeking a traditional, monogamous relationship/marriage and intend to quit having sex with women when you find the right guy, then you should say that instead of the above (bolded). Nobody is being accusatory - that's add'l meaning that you added. All of my comments have just been trying to make you realize that you're focusing on racial biases as being the problem/solution and [in the recent post] pointing out that you're obfuscating more pertinent issues, like being a practicing bisexual. I was challenging you to restate the question. I do concur with others though, that men (of any race) may be reluctant to get involved and have to compete with other women for your affection, and they may doubt your ability to simply give it up once you're in a relationship with them. If a woman is straight then we know we have what it takes to satisfy that need. But if she's truly bisexual then she's likely to have other needs we can't fulfill. When that pot boils over where does that leave us? This is what you need to be thinking about––not whether whit guys like Indian girls. Peace ----------- Two more scathing PMs from Seductive in my inbox. It appears I really struck a nerve. I think you should examine the reasons you react the way you do. Edited July 10, 2013 by salparadise 4 Link to post Share on other sites
whirl3daway Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 I'm starting to think that the issue isn't that she's bisexual, or Indian, but that she's maybe just crazy..? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seductive Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 I'm starting to think that the issue isn't that she's bisexual, or Indian, but that she's maybe just crazy..? Says the girl that got involved with a child porn addict, and is complaining about her weight. While I don't advocate abusive relationships, you may be one of those rare cases that deserved what your ex did to you. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Nice. OP if you want to close the thread, please request it through the 'alert us' button. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 wait, don't close this thread just yet... My pop corn is almost ready! Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Yes or no, if you aren't scared of dating an Indian woman. I'm not scared of dating an Indian woman. Only once did it get beyond the first date... and even then only as far as the second date. She was late for both dates, and messed me around with the location for the second one, and I decided I wasn't going to put up with that for a third one (which she wanted). I don't think any of that has to do with her being Indian, of course, so much as her being inconsiderate. Link to post Share on other sites
whirl3daway Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Says the girl that got involved with a child porn addict, and is complaining about her weight. While I don't advocate abusive relationships, you may be one of those rare cases that deserved what your ex did to you. Sorry. haha yeah, I definitely deserved it. you caught me! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 now lets see some of that bi-sexual / lesbian girl on girl indian cat fighting turn to slow sensual sex! come on ladies! I've made pop corn and want to enjoy the show! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 BTW if you all are as crazy as you call each other / partially own up to, I think I know why you don't see many white guys dating Indian girls! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whirl3daway Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 BTW if you all are as crazy as you call each other / partially own up to, I think I know why you don't see many white guys dating Indian girls! you know what they say... crazy in the streets, a freak in the sheets... or wait, am I confused? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 you know what they say... crazy in the streets, a freak in the sheets... or wait, am I confused? Aint worth it!! TFY Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 you know what they say... crazy in the streets, a freak in the sheets... or wait, am I confused? I believe it goes "a lady in the streets a freak in the sheets." but close enough... i've learned my lesson to not put my d!ck in crazy...but two indian women, hmmm may need to experiment with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seductive Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) I do want to apologize for my earlier comments towards whirl3daway. I can't pm you, so I will do it here. I can't believe what I just said. No abused woman deserves abuse. I can't take my comment back, so I sincerely hope you can move on. You didn't deserve that, and there's no excuse for me making such a vicious comment. As for me being perceived as crazy, I can't change other people's opinions. I know I'm not perfect, but what matters is that I am committed to learning from my mistakes.Yes, today's mistakes now make me feel very ashamed and out of character. I do think it's a good idea for me to take a break from such forums, but I wanted to own up and not leave things on such an awkward note. Especially when I usually don't act like this during the majority of my postings on loveshack. SalParadise- I get your point as well, and appreciate you being calm after my Unnecessary attack on you. On Internet forums, it's easy to show a side that you don't usually show. But, it's still no excuse to hurt others. I'm sorry, loveshack. Edited July 10, 2013 by Seductive 5 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 I do want to apologize for my earlier comments towards whirl3daway. I can't pm you, so I will do it here. I can't believe what I just said. No abused woman deserves abuse. I can't take my comment back, so I sincerely hope you can move on. You didn't deserve that, and there's no excuse for me making such a vicious comment. As for me being perceived as crazy, I can't change other people's opinions. I know I'm not perfect, but what matters is that I am committed to learning from my mistakes.Yes, today's mistakes now make me feel very ashamed and out of character. I do think it's a good idea for me to take a break from such forums, but I wanted to own up and not leave things on such an awkward note. Especially when I usually don't act like this during the majority of my postings on loveshack. SalParadise- I get your point as well, and appreciate you being calm after my Unnecessary attack on you. On Internet forums, it's easy to show a side that you don't usually show. But, it's still no excuse to hurt others. I'm sorry, loveshack. can you two kiss and make up... and take pictures of it, please? Link to post Share on other sites
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