Will he come back to me ?

[seriousgirl]

So , he is a married man.

Please dont doubt. He seriously likes me more than his wife.

I have explained in the above posts.

And he recently found out i logged in his wife's facebook to stalk him.

He said he would never talk to me again and if i ever contat him again, he will call the police. He said there's no future for us and he doesnt even like me now. He blocked ALL ways i can contact him.HE greeted me a nice life and ps. **** you...

 

I now understand i was very very wrong. i havent contacted him for a week because all i can make up now is to leave him alone he must be angry now.

I regret not trusting him. He did want to be with me once he can settle everything with his wife. I have broke my promises to him again and again ..

I will go abroad for 3 months in 10 days , i will say bye to him briefly and when i come back i may find him again..

 

Do you think time can heal his anger and disappointment to me ?

i hope at least we can be friends

[hotpotato]

You are in denial, very much so.

 

Many men i've known who say thiey will leave their wives, never do. I've read the stories about men who have left the wives to be with the other woman, and much of the time they are not happy. They end up regretting their decision even if they marry the ow.

 

Truth be told you are probably doing some things better than his wife does. You are also newer and more exciting being the ow. That doesn't mean he wants to leave her for you. Even if he does want to leave it is still "cheaper to keep her."

 

If he did leave her for you, there is a good chance your relationship will break down. Right now he does not have to see you realistically because his wife is still meeting some or probably most of his needs. You are already stalking him and hacking into accounts.

 

Maybe its best you leave him alone.

 

You chose a man who is unavailable, and he's acting just like a man who is...unavailable.

 

I regret not trusting him.

 

Seriously? You are acting like he's cheating on you!

[seriousgirl]

Thanks. But i am asking in this situation will he forgive me in the near future ?? I dont desire a second chance indeed. If he is mine , he will be.

[hotpotato]

Nope, I dont think it will be in the near future.

[BC1980]

You hacked into his wife's Facebook account. He views that as not mentally stable and will run like the plague. You need to realize that it's beneath you to want a married man. There are plenty of single men out there.

[PR08]

So , he is a married man.

 

Stopped reading there. You brought this entirely on yourself. I will never understand people like you and nor do I particularly want to.

[ChasingCars]

No, you say you broke his trust repeatedly and it seems this was his final wake up call.

He may have liked you more at one point but that has changed, completely.

He does not like you at all now.

 

I would stay far away or you risk seeming like a crazy stalker.

 

IMHO

[threelaurels]

Do not contact him again. Gaining unauthorized access to his wife's facebook is ILLEGAL. You can go to jail for it. If you leave him alone like he asked, he probably won't report it to the police. If you go against his wishes, there probably will be an arrest warrant out there with your name on it the next day.

[whichwayisup]

So , he is a married man.

Please dont doubt. He seriously likes me more than his wife.

I have explained in the above posts.

And he recently found out i logged in his wife's facebook to stalk him.

He said he would never talk to me again and if i ever contat him again, he will call the police. He said there's no future for us and he doesnt even like me now. He blocked ALL ways i can contact him.HE greeted me a nice life and ps. **** you...

 

I now understand i was very very wrong. i havent contacted him for a week because all i can make up now is to leave him alone he must be angry now.

I regret not trusting him. He did want to be with me once he can settle everything with his wife. I have broke my promises to him again and again ..

I will go abroad for 3 months in 10 days , i will say bye to him briefly and when i come back i may find him again..

 

Do you think time can heal his anger and disappointment to me ?

i hope at least we can be friends

 

Use those 3 months to forget about him and move on, let go of him.

 

SG, please get some counseling because you can't be objective. Nobody can really predict the future, but the bolded above shows you he's done with you. I hope some day you can accept that. Waiting for him is wasting your life.

[whichwayisup]

Thanks. But i am asking in this situation will he forgive me in the near future ?? I dont desire a second chance indeed. If he is mine , he will be.

 

He isn't yours. He never was.

 

SG, even if he forgives you, your A with him and any plans that were made in the heat of the moment are all gone. He doesn't want you in his life. He's told you this.

 

I wish you strength and courage to grieve and let go.

[MissBee]

Affair partners cannot go on to be friends, especially if they are reconciling with their spouse.

 

I don't think you guys will be friends. You hacked into his wife's Facebook account and stalked him until he had to threaten to get the police involved. Almost no sane person would try to be friends after this. What you did was far beyond the scope of how most R's end. Affair partners who end more amicably usually don't become friends, much less those who've exhibited outrageous behavior in the end.

 

I think he may be afraid of you and afraid you're a bunny boiler and I think you should just leave him alone. If you're meant to be friends then it will come around, but I wouldn't bet on it.

[Eggplant]

Respect his request to leave him alone.

 

You will heal.

[lilmisscantbewrong]

So , he is a married man.

Please dont doubt. He seriously likes me more than his wife.

I have explained in the above posts.

And he recently found out i logged in his wife's facebook to stalk him.

He said he would never talk to me again and if i ever contat him again, he will call the police. He said there's no future for us and he doesnt even like me now. He blocked ALL ways i can contact him.HE greeted me a nice life and ps. **** you...

 

I now understand i was very very wrong. i havent contacted him for a week because all i can make up now is to leave him alone he must be angry now.

I regret not trusting him. He did want to be with me once he can settle everything with his wife. I have broke my promises to him again and again ..

I will go abroad for 3 months in 10 days , i will say bye to him briefly and when i come back i may find him again..

 

 

 

Do you think time can heal his anger and disappointment to me ?

i hope at least we can be friends

 

You hacked his wife's fb? How did that happen? Do not do this - this is crazy stuff. Leave him be - let it all play out and do not play the crazy ow - it will get you nowhere.

[georgia girl]

So , he is a married man.

Please dont doubt. He seriously likes me more than his wife.

I have explained in the above posts.

And he recently found out i logged in his wife's facebook to stalk him.

He said he would never talk to me again and if i ever contat him again, he will call the police. He said there's no future for us and he doesnt even like me now. He blocked ALL ways i can contact him.HE greeted me a nice life and ps. **** you...

 

I now understand i was very very wrong. i havent contacted him for a week because all i can make up now is to leave him alone he must be angry now.

I regret not trusting him. He did want to be with me once he can settle everything with his wife. I have broke my promises to him again and again ..

I will go abroad for 3 months in 10 days , i will say bye to him briefly and when i come back i may find him again..

 

Do you think time can heal his anger and disappointment to me ?

i hope at least we can be friends

 

Seriousgirl,

 

While I believe there was a time when MM liked you more than his wife, that time was over a long time ago. He has been telling you for months to leave him alone. As I recall, he has a wife and young baby and had said repeatedly that he doesn't want any contact from you? And previously, you also engaged in some sort of stalking behavior that he called you on?

 

Listen, you have not just gone one toke over the line, you have left the line in the dust. In the US, what you did is borderline criminal behavior. I want you to seriously take a step back and look at this as what it is: an unhealthy obsession. Then - I think you're 25? - take a little time for you and figure out why you cannot let a relationship end. This is really not good for you. I can sense your pain and desperation, but desperate people sometimes to desperate things that they will eventually regret. I am very scare you may go down this path.

 

Take care, GG

[So happy together]

Stopped reading there. You brought this entirely on yourself. I will never understand people like you and nor do I particularly want to.

 

Then go to another forum. You are not the judge or jury.

[JustAReformedGirl]

Perhaps he really did have stronger feelings for you, perhaps not. I'm not here to paint doubt on that, though. It's entirely possible he was going to leave his wife, though jumping right into a relationship with you afterward wouldn't bode well. He'd need time to grieve, to adapt to the changes, etc.

 

Why did you log in to his wife's FB? What were you trying to find out?

 

You made a grievous error in doing so, but you clearly understand that. I'm not going to brow beat you over it.

 

Will he forgive you? Hmm....only time will tell. I wouldn't bother him, though. The more you bother him, the less likely he'll forgive you. He may not forgive you at all, though, even if you leave him alone. Sadly, when you make a choice to do something, when you continuously break promises, it becomes difficult for the person you've let down to forgive. He might even want to forgive you-but he might not trust you again.

 

If he never forgives you, consider this a life lesson, however unfortunate it is for you. If he does forgive you and give you another chance, then I suggest making the most of that chance.

 

Honestly though? My impression is that when he told you he doesn't care about you at all, he may have been honest. He was probably stringing you along, enjoying his cake-eating for awhile...until you did what you did. In which case, he figured it's best to sever contact with someone he perceives as mentally unstable.

 

I'm not saying you are; just saying what he might be thinking.

[LilGirlandOW]

Invasion of privacy is a deal breaker for most MM, you popped the A bubble and creeped into his M, probably for the better for you, you're out of the A, move on.

 

Not that I'm one to talk, lol, good luck, forget MM he's gone

[seriousgirl]

I am thinking to call to say goodbye to him and ask if we can keep in contac t. By that day, i will have not talked with him for 23 days...

Is it likely that he will be peaceful to listen to me rather than hang up the phone ?

[georgia girl]

You will not be convinced until he actually calls the police. So, do what you will.