desperatefrench Posted July 7, 2013 Share Posted July 7, 2013 Hi everyone, So here's my story. I'm 33yo and for most of that time, I have been single. I'm not socially awkward or anything, as a matter of fact, out of my friends, I might be the one who gets along the easiest with people, have no problem speaking in front of crowds, play guitar and sing in a band but I am absolutely petrified when it comes to approaching women. I would even say that in the past 4 years, my only prolonged contact with the opposite sex has been hanging out with my friends' girlfriends or the strip club... Which s where it gets even more frustrating because even though I'm the one who is always single, all my friends and their girlfriends come to me for relationship advice ! And on top of all this, all my friends' girlfriends tell me " I don't understand how you're still single ! You're a good looking guy, smart, nice, you would be an awesome boyfriend ! ". Except those are things you would find out after spending some time to know me... And hanging out with my friends girlfriends might be beneficial if they had other girlfriends I could hang out with too but that never happens ! Anyway, I'm really desperate and lonely at this point. I would say it's driving me mad and I'm about to give up on ever being with a woman again and resolve myself to a life of solitude with the only joy being when I play and sing on stage. I've always been the good guy and tried to do the right thing and I can confirm that nice guys never get laid but I just can't be an ******* ! I'm too broke to afford any of those "dating coaches" and really am at the end of my rope when it comes to meeting women. Is there something wrong with me other than my shyness towards women ? Who can I ask for help ? Desperate French Miami Link to post Share on other sites
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 7, 2013 Share Posted July 7, 2013 French You need to have less pressure filled ways to interact with women. Clubs etc. are too "on" for most people. Perhaps you would be better meeting someone doing some common activity, like a class or volunteering. I assume you don't meet women at work? How come those friends don't fix you up? Link to post Share on other sites
pcplod Posted July 8, 2013 Share Posted July 8, 2013 Is there something wrong with me other than my shyness towards women ? Nope. That'll do, all by itself. And well you know it. But you want some other explanation, like you are not prepared to be an a$$-h0le. Why!!!??? You want some other explanation, any explanation other than the obvious reason standing right in front of you, staring you out, bugging the $h1t out of you on a daily basis. "No, it can't be that I am fatefully shy around women, it must be becuase I'm ugly, short-arsed, small-dicked or not rolling in spondoolicks. Maybe you need to look yourself hard in the mirror and tell yourself that you are going to overcome this shyness around women even if you choke in the process, think that the ground is about to swallow you up in humiliation and embarrassment and that as a result you are going to want to die. Ugly prospect, innit it? Link to post Share on other sites
The Introvert Posted July 8, 2013 Share Posted July 8, 2013 QUOTE I'm too broke to afford any of those "dating coaches" and really am at the end of my rope when it comes to meeting women. I suggest you find ways to bring in money for yourself, don't be lazy think of something buddy because honestly it's difficult to date without a dime to your name, girls don't run a charity where they sponsor men on dates.Get yourself a nice ride, a cool housing, pull up your look and they will flock to you but don't love a whore.......Hear Me?.... Link to post Share on other sites
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