af9die5hxs1s Posted October 21, 2004 Share Posted October 21, 2004 Ive been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years yesterday and really love her. The thing is we started university 6 weeks ago and its never been the same. We both moved away but the universities are 10 mile apart, about the same distance away as when we where at home, about a 10 mins drive. At home we used to spend quite alot of time together but now we are at uni we hardly see each other. Shes at uni 9-5 every day, decided to join a sports team which takes up saturday till about 2pm , saturday day till about 3pm, monday night , wednesday afternoon and thursday night. Shes also decided to go out clubbing every wednesday night, friday night, saturday night. So sometimes i get to see her for a few hours monday night, tuesday night and sunday. I really would like to see her more but every time i mention it she starts lecturing me on how im stopping her fun. She also gets tired now and gets snappy due to no sleep from these and takes it all out on me. My friends go clubbing on mondays and thursdays and ive stopped doing that so i can see her. Is this really me being the problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Melui Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 No, it's not u being the problem You really love her, obviously u want to spend time with her. University is a difficult time, its only natural for her to want to go out, have fun, unwind. But she should appreciate your sacrifices and make more time for you. You are not the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
dreaming4ever Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 Wow that really sucks. I'm sorry. I've been in a similar situation to yours before. I think you care more about her than she does about you or else she'd be making you priority number one like you are with her. Some people in relationships just like a lot of time apart....or else I'm sorry to say but maybe she's thinking of moving on. You need to sit down and have a long talk with her about this. People often get like that in university, they don't like to be tied down. I'm not like that but obviously your girlfriend is. Then again if you guys are both JUST starting university I can KIND OF understand why she would want to be doing so much....it's fun, in university you make new friends and it's a whole different atmosphere than high school. I just hope for your sake she doesn't decide to leave you behind, because you're a part of her past. People do that sometimes. And if she starts to spend less and less time with you, I'd say it's probably time to move on or evaluate what she wants out of your relationship. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author af9die5hxs1s Posted October 22, 2004 Author Share Posted October 22, 2004 i found out she slept with someone on wednesday so we've decided to spend a week apart but she hurts me way too much so i think i am going to break up with her i cant keep going on like this Link to post Share on other sites
dreaming4ever Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 Good idea!! See, I knew there was something not right there. Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 You MUST dump her asap. That's the dumbest, sleaziest thing I've heard. And also why you can only date college people casually. As a species, they are shallow, cheap, attention seeking and immature. So don't reward a cheap, disloyal girl who gives it away to a guy on a Wednesday night by thinking twice about her. Dump her, asap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author af9die5hxs1s Posted October 23, 2004 Author Share Posted October 23, 2004 broke up with her today, bit gutted but for the best Link to post Share on other sites
dreaming4ever Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 I know it hurts. I've been there. But at least she can't hurt you any more because if she could do something like that to you she truly didn't deserve you. Now, once you've had some time to get over her, you are available for someone who can love and honour you for the great person you are I'm sorry you're sad, if you need to talk I'm here! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 Some time apart? How did you not just end it there immediately? 10 minutes away? 10 miles? That's ridiculous. She doesn't want this to work, she's not willing to put effort into it, that's very obvious. Sorry for your loss but you'll get over it and get much better someday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author af9die5hxs1s Posted October 24, 2004 Author Share Posted October 24, 2004 I hope so thx for the advice everyone Link to post Share on other sites
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