ShortFuze Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 I don't want to be boring but I think sometimes I can be because I have had many conversations with women that go quiet. I just don't know what to ask or say or what jokes to tell. And then she will sometimes blame me for not having something to talk about. but what can you talk about that will last long? And how can it a fun relationship? And be a good boyfriend? because I'm a really nice guy, but sometimes being nice is not good because there are a lot of chics out there that like a bad boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 While it is true that there are girls who seem to date only jackasses.. there are still girls who want someone to treat them well. With that said.. Be YOURSELF:) You don't need to try to come up with conversations that will last forever.. honestly if you can get her talking about herself (and really this applies to people in general) she will think it's the best convo she's ever had! LOL truth is most people love to talk about themselves. Don't stress over what joke to tell, or think to much about what you're going to say next... LISTEN to what she has to say... ask her about herself... you'll learn a lot about her that way. What makes a "good boyfriend" IMHO is what makes a good person generally speaking... someone who is interested in what the other person has to say, someone who is honest and compassionate, someone who is able to laugh at themself, someone who LISTENS, someone who is sincere, and someone who is confident. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 Yeah. LISTEN. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 I relate to females the best. Men were not often around when I was a child. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 What makes a fun, good boyfriend? A fun, good boy ?! Seriously though, Merin2 is right, honesty, sincerity, confidence, a good listener. Remember though, you can't please everybody & not everyone is going to like you - just be yourself. If you find conversations end quickly try asking questions that require more than a yes or no answer. Paraphrase & repeat their answers back to them (that shows active listening) & follow on with more opened ended queries. Try to avoid making closed statements like, "I think that is stupid.", rather say something like, "I think that is stupid because .............. What do you think?" If you know that someone is interested in something in particular do a little research on that subject so you can talk about it from a point of knowledge. There is indeed an art to good conversational skill & like, with many things, practice, practice, practice. As for the fun bit - well really that comes down to having enough things in common that you both enjoy doing & can do together. Also be willing to try to do something new or different, even if you think you may not like it. One final point, if this is your girlfriend you're talking about, just being able to enjoy each others company in silence is sometimes OK. In fact, I always take it as a good sign when I get to the point with someone where we can "be" together in silence & not feel awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
Good heart Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 the trick is not to tell jokes but rather be humorous, making fun of the current situation the current event,s if you are at restaurant try to find something there to make fun of and when she laughs you will be encouraged then mention other funny situations,.Jokes at the beggining are a very obvious childish way to impress save them to after bed phase when the girl is yours, after that being a clown does not matter.... Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 i agree with goodheart. first off, talking too much bores everything and you're practically revealing your whole life history, if not then ur getting there. get this, girls want, mystery ( the part that goes along with the above sentence), shows interest, unpredictability, spontaneous(almost goes along with unpredictable), and most importantly is confidence and witty (a guy that knows how to crack them up). dont try lame jokes and talk about someone you see or make someone feel bad. the funny they want is witty humor, and teasing them every now and then. Another big importance is kino (the way you show sexual interest), touching them on shoulder, arm, back, etc. if you try to force this and be nervous about it, it will only freak her out. It must be naturally done, if it aint then you're at a loss. well thats all for now and gl. Link to post Share on other sites
Odradek Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 How abou money? How does THAT fit into the picture? Speaking from my own experience, being the good fun boyfriend generally doesn't come cheap. Link to post Share on other sites
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