Author bobwhite007 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Share Posted September 23, 2013 Yes I'm still here.we are still together. Iam still at my new job. W , as far as I can tell, has stopped contacting om. She now picks me up at work for lunch. I can now go about all day without checking gps. I still put a var in her car every morning. Where I used to hear George Strait I now hear Christian music. I was finally able to go back to church yesterday, why couldn't I go before? Iam not sure. I still refuse to back down I will stay vigilant and try my best to make this work. I know for sure she cheated. No she didn't tell me but I know. I think one of her close friends knows as well by the way she acts around me/us. Maybe one day I will ask her, she was the one who first clued me in by asking me did I think she had changed. I said to her then yes I did think she had and asked her why she ask me that. She said " I was just wondering if you saw it too". I called ap from her work phone yesterday and he didn't answer. All I hear on var is work related and a lot of texting. She fell asleep the other night with my face in her hands , thumbs at the corner of my lips, about the same way you would hold a phone, her thumbs going to town like she was texting. Crazy I know. I finally had to pull away she woke up I ask her who she was texting she says noone why? LOL. I hope someday I can trust her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 Good luck, Bob. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 Bob, I feel for you. Instead of wondering (for the rest of your life), I would confront her with divorce papers and keep following thru until I got a satisfactory explanation. I don't think you'll do it. Unfortunately, I know of no other way to get to the truth and I think you'll be tortured until you do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Share Posted September 24, 2013 Bob, I feel for you. Instead of wondering (for the rest of your life), I would confront her with divorce papers and keep following thru until I got a satisfactory explanation. I don't think you'll do it. Unfortunately, I know of no other way to get to the truth and I think you'll be tortured until you do. I keep hoping she will come clean. But I don't think that will happen. I don t understand how a person could live with that. GPS on one phone turned off yesterday. The other showed her at the credit union we don't bank at, a different branch this time. There is also a cafe and phone store in that same strip mall so she could have been at one of those except we had just ate lunch. I asked her what she did today and all matched up except that stop. Something is still going on I just don't know what. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 This is excruciating. Please please please Bob can you just hire a PI and be done with it? Or does the bigger part of you not really want to know what's going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Share Posted September 27, 2013 This is excruciating. Please please please Bob can you just hire a PI and be done with it? Or does the bigger part of you not really want to know what's going on? Yes I think the bigger part of me really dosent want to know. The gps' s on her phones have been turned off, not by me, not sure what happened yet. She forgot about lunch yesterday and left me hanging. She has started gaurding her phones again. Either she has them in her pockets or she hides them. I guess ill have to hire a pi or something cause I'm getting nowhere. I am a emotional wreck, I'm shaking on the inside it feels like. I'm a grown man just barely able to get thru the day.I thought it was over between them, I was wrong. I think ill call him today maybe I don't know. I just want all this to go away. Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted September 27, 2013 Share Posted September 27, 2013 Yes I think the bigger part of me really dosent want to know. The gps' s on her phones have been turned off, not by me, not sure what happened yet. She forgot about lunch yesterday and left me hanging. She has started gaurding her phones again. Either she has them in her pockets or she hides them. I guess ill have to hire a pi or something cause I'm getting nowhere. I am a emotional wreck, I'm shaking on the inside it feels like. I'm a grown man just barely able to get thru the day.I thought it was over between them, I was wrong. I think ill call him today maybe I don't know. I just want all this to go away. Who are you going to call? The OM? Or a PI? If you can't just walk away from her without more proof, definitely go hire a PI. You can't live like this. You really should take some sort of action to begin extracting yourself from this cycle of mental torture. I'm sorry this isn't just going away Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 bob, what the hell? You weren't born with her attached to your hip. You don't need her to keep breathing. The longer you act like this, the less chance you have of coming out a sane person. Just leave her. Make her PROVE she's faithful or you keep walking. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Yes I think the bigger part of me really dosent want to know. The gps' s on her phones have been turned off, not by me, not sure what happened yet. She forgot about lunch yesterday and left me hanging. She has started gaurding her phones again. Either she has them in her pockets or she hides them. I guess ill have to hire a pi or something cause I'm getting nowhere. I am a emotional wreck, I'm shaking on the inside it feels like. I'm a grown man just barely able to get thru the day.I thought it was over between them, I was wrong. I think ill call him today maybe I don't know. I just want all this to go away. Bob She turned off the gps so you couldn't track her. She forgot your lunch date because it wasn't her priority. She keeps many secrets from you. She omits her truth because it works in her favor and at your expense. You have no basis of trust = there is no foundation to the marriage. You'd be better off not to wonder about her day and night. Why aren't you divorcing her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted September 28, 2013 Author Share Posted September 28, 2013 Her call log shows that she has made and recieved calls from and to a restricted #. It says restricted. Anyone know how that's possible? I can see how a incoming call could show up as restricted but outgoing? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Her call log shows that she has made and recieved calls from and to a restricted #. It says restricted. Anyone know how that's possible? I can see how a incoming call could show up as restricted but outgoing? Who cares? She's sneaky and lying! Why isn't THAT enough to end this farce of what you call marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
atreides Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Her call log shows that she has made and recieved calls from and to a restricted #. It says restricted. Anyone know how that's possible? I can see how a incoming call could show up as restricted but outgoing? it means the number is blocked by the owner. they don't want their number coming up when making a call, so they pay for that feature. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted September 28, 2013 Share Posted September 28, 2013 Come on Bob. Enough is enough. I really think your wife enjoys tormenting you. I think at this stage you would have to be a bit of a masochist to continue this humiliating charade of a marriage. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted October 2, 2013 Author Share Posted October 2, 2013 Its over I'm in Fla now . If anyone asks you haven't seen me. Thanks and goodbye. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 What happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 The gps' s on her phones have been turned off, not by me, not sure what happened yet. She forgot about lunch yesterday and left me hanging. She has started gaurding her phones again. She found out about the phone GPS and turned it off is what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 Its over I'm in Fla now . If anyone asks you haven't seen me. Thanks and goodbye. Welcome to the Sunshine State, Bob! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 Its over I'm in Fla now . If anyone asks you haven't seen me. Thanks and goodbye. Back home . Why I dunno. today is our anniversary. Called her "friend" yesterday he didn't answer. He calls me back about three hrs later .. I ask him about them and his story matches hers almost word for word. He wasn't at all surprised about my questions. He did apologize. I ask him sorry for what and he says for everything that has happened. Life goes on. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Same crap - different day Bob. Decide what you want dude - and do that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Back home . Why I dunno. today is our anniversary. Called her "friend" yesterday he didn't answer. He calls me back about three hrs later .. I ask him about them and his story matches hers almost word for word. He wasn't at all surprised about my questions. He did apologize. I ask him sorry for what and he says for everything that has happened. Life goes on. What's the cemetary explanation? Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 When is enough is enough Bob? Link to post Share on other sites
atreides Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Is it me or does Bob write in his own code... Every time i read what he has to say, i feel like i am missing a descrambler to understand. He is in FL... now back home... and on the phone... speaking to her friend..... what the F**k does that mean Bob? Are you guys through yet, what was in FL? I wish you the best but have a hard time following what the hell is going on. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Is it me or does Bob write in his own code... Every time i read what he has to say, i feel like i am missing a descrambler to understand. He is in FL... now back home... and on the phone... speaking to her friend..... what the F**k does that mean Bob? Are you guys through yet, what was in FL? I wish you the best but have a hard time following what the hell is going on. Agreed. If there was ever a competition to create a troll thread meant to just befuddle and confuse everyone but keep the thread going for as long as humanly possible, this one wins. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bobwhite007 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 Agreed. If there was ever a competition to create a troll thread meant to just befuddle and confuse everyone but keep the thread going for as long as humanly possible, this one wins. I know .I'm nuts . Sorry. Just all screwed up. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted October 11, 2013 Share Posted October 11, 2013 So what happened? Link to post Share on other sites
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