littlelaxer Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 so ive writin a few posts here and everyone has been so helpful. Thank you so ver much. I just needed some more help. To sum everything up my bf broke up with me about a month ago(will be a month is 2 days). He said he didnt know what he wanted and wasnt ready for a long term relationship. We dated for a year. When we broke up i didnt cry for him to come back or anything lke that, yes he knows i miss him very much but i wasnt about to let him see me beg . So he wanted to do the whole "friends" thing but im like no way! i kinda think he wants to do that so he can almost keep me for when hes ready. He has called and text me a couple times but i havent answered cause im tryin to do NC. The last he said was "so is this hows it gonna be" i asked for help from here if i should reply and people said yes so i did. I said "no i just needed some time thats all" because i think i deserve that much! and he responds "ye ok". man i was like what?? and i said "well u dont have to be mean about it" and i never heard anything since. Hes back home for about two weeks and i think that might be the best thing. So he will be away from things and start thinking. Ive been discussing all of this from a friend i met on this site and also my brother and they say that this whole thing must be bothering him. Other wise he wouldnt care, ya know. I try not to get my hopes up about him maybe missing me. i just want to hear what others have to say about it. so if anyone could help, thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Confused28 Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 Littlelaxer, I think what you are doing is good! I think you are right, he is wanting to keep his tabs on you and keep you at bay by being "friends". I had an ex do that once, but I didn't go along with it and he flipped out. I think your ex is uneasy because you are not playing things the way he wants them played. He wants you to sit patiently and wait while he does his thing and you should beg to get back together. But, you are just going on with your life and he doesn't like that! I am new here, what is NC? Is that no contact? Stay strong! Confused28 Link to post Share on other sites
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