Inflikted Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 I've never had any luck trying to find girls to date (I'm a 24 year old guy, by the way), so in my lonely periods, I try to see what I can do on some online dating sites. Honestly, don't have much luck on there either. Recently, I got pinged on Plenty Of Fish because apparently I and this one girl both checked off that we'd like to date each other. I decided to start writing with her, and we've been messaging back and forth. It's kinda nice, although I feel a little sleezy because she's only 18, and seems to have a sort of naivety to her. She's cute, and I wouldn't mind taking her on a date and seeing where things go, but she lives one state over from me. She should be able to see that, too, because I have my city listed on my profile. I mean, I'm not "attached" to her, so I could just stop talking to her, but it's nice to finally get some attention on one of these sites. Not really sure how to proceed... Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 Well, firstly LDR's are not easy. It takes a lot of time, trust, investment, energy, and communication. Love is only a small portion of what makes a LDR succeed... there's a lot of people here who are very secure with themselves and have partners who are also very secure. They love each other so so much, but even then LDR's are hard for them. Why? because it's hard to bridge the gap. If you're not "attached" then why can't she be an online friend? If you go and see her and you both hit it off, be prepared to travel frequently to see her. Because she is 18, she probably won't have the funds to see you as much. Also, having been an 18 year old girl at one point, I don't know if maturity levels for a healthy LDR would work in her demographic. If she is pretty level-headed, trusting, and secure then maybe. But if she's a typical jealous 18 year old girl that has some room to grow, then you're looking at a difficult relationship. LDR's add to insecurity and unfortunately that isn't something a partner can fix. If you're looking for a serious relationship, I'd ask myself if you would be prepared for things to go well and for you to travel back and forth to see her. If not, find someone in your own state. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I strongly advise against a LDR considering your respective ages. I'm trying with a 20yo, being 27 myself. Not that easy, and age and related topics are responsible for large parts of our issues. Link to post Share on other sites
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