wishes i was a.....

[kim]

Last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and some of his friends. And anyway one of the guys that he knows said that my boyfriend said that he wishes that me and my best friend were lesbians. I was shocked, and my boyfriend said that he didn't say that. And actually acted mad at me for believing that he would say that. But my boyfriend is somewhat of a pervert, so I think that he might have actually said it. Is it a male fantasy to see two women together? I was really upset that he would have said something like that about me and kelly. Does it mean that he wishes that I was a lesbian so that I would break up with him? or does it mean that he wishes that we were lesbians so he could watch us or something? or does it mean that he has a crush on my best friend? Please help I am going crazy inside.

[Tony T]

I'm with your boyfriend. If you are inclined to believe others over your boyfriend, you really aren't worth him remaining with you.

 

You have to understand, first, if he did say that he was joking, he said it in passing, and trusted that whoever he made this slight remark to would respect its privacy and not blab. Guys just talk crap sometimes...with their friends...and don't mean what they are saying and don't intend for it to get all over the place. Try to understand that!!!

 

Whether he said it or not, I am absolutely positive he didn't mean it. But the fact that you are making such a big deal out of it tells me you have a long way to go to develop a sense of the world and an understanding that people everywhere will say or do whatever they can sometimes to break people up.

 

If you can't take your boyfriend's word that this is a bunch of bunk and just drop the matter, break up with him because he deserves someone who can understand this crap. But be patient with yourself. One day you will realize the viciousness of people and what they will say and do to make life miserable for others, especially when they are miserable with themselves.

 

I mean, you ask all these questions here as if your boyfriend actually said this and meant it. And then you ask as if we knew your boyfriend extremely well and would know what he meant.

 

It is not logical that a guy would have a girlfriend and wish she was a lesbian.

 

He's already told you he didn't say it. Drop it!!! GGGEEEEEEZZZZZZZ, if I had a girlfriend like you, she wouldn't be my girlfriend for long.

 

Now, for your information, there are men who do get excited looking in person or at pictures of two or more women doing things to each other. I personally don't understand what they get out of it but I know there are a lot of very normal, heterosexual men who just like to look at that stuff. I respect their right to do so as long as they don't try to get me involved.

 

Now, if at some point you find that your guy really enjoys watching women doing sexual things to each other and you seriously object to this or will not tolerate it, then you need to find another man.

 

Do some thinking about this issue before jumping to any conclusions. You might want to go back and just ask your guy if he enjoys watching women play with each other. If he does, then you have to decide if you want a man who has that type of fetish.

[Mimi]

This is completely normal. I know you are probably mad and upset now. But men are pigs. They are very very visual. Which is why they get a kick out of porn. They are also very much into visualising two women together. Even though we as women find two men together very disgusting.

 

As you get older you will laugh at this. It is actually pretty funny when you think about it. What your boyfriend said to his friend is just a fantasy, and just that. His friend may not understand it as such, but hardly any men actually go through with such a fantasy.

 

They just think dirty thoughts all the time. Get used to it. And don't ever have a threesome, it will destroy your relationships.