smile1983 Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I left my ex-husband on Nov 1 of last year and it has been a rollercoaster ever since. He has tried to reconcile several times but I never believed he was serious about changing because we've been down that route. When I left I knew it was for good. Now he's causing trouble for me in any way he can. He often threatens to take my kids away from me and I take the bait each and every time. I know I need to stop letting him get to me but I'm not sure how. How can I stop letting him control me with my own anger? P.S. he is a good father and I would not take my girls away from him. Wish he could see that through his hurting. Link to post Share on other sites
hayewils Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 Are you guys divorced or just separated? My only advice is to not talk to him, do not respond to him. Keep conversations "ONLY", about your children. Don't let him threaten you. All threats will be handled through a courtroom. But definatly keep contact to a minimum. When you respond to his threats or argumentive behavior, it shows to him that he can get to you and, in your head. You've got to be stronger, show no emotion.. I am more than positive others on this site have a hell of a lot better advice than I have.. Link to post Share on other sites
hayewils Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 I think we need a little more info as well. Why did you leave him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author smile1983 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Share Posted July 15, 2013 Lots of reasons but the main one was that he could and would not respect me. He kept putting me down and calling me worthless until I almost felt that way myself. So I left to gain a little self-respect. I think we brought out the worst in each other, still do it seems. Just want to be civil for the kids' sake. Link to post Share on other sites
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