the_other_one Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I'm in the process of divorcing my husband because he has been chat cheating and cheating on me for over a year and lying about it constantly. The pain of being a victim of cheating is still so fresh but going away much faster now that I have decided to leave. I have a married coworker that has been hanging out with me quite a bit. Last night we went to a club and then back to my place...one thing led to another. I don't feel guilty at all. It's fun and exciting. I'm not looking for a relationship. I guess I feel bad because I don't feel bad and I want it to happen again. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 It seems common that the betrayed go on to be a party to an affair, almost as a subconscious way to take back the power they lost when they were cheated on.... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_other_one Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 It seems common that the betrayed go on to be a party to an affair, almost as a subconscious way to take back the power they lost when they were cheated on.... That is a good point, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 It seems common that the betrayed go on to be a party to an affair, almost as a subconscious way to take back the power they lost when they were cheated on.... Yes very true unfortunately. I had a revenge affair shortly after discovering my WH's first A. I first came to LS as a MOW. That's exactly what I felt like when I embarked on the A, I distinctly remember it being a powerful feeling that I had taken back, but I paid a HUGE price for it in the end. A lot of my issues that stem from my CSA( childhood sexual abuse ), being raped as a teenager, and physically abused by an ex boyfriend all play into my bad coping mechanisms and the decisions I have made. I have been in intense therapy now for 3 years and it has really helped me immensely. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I'm in the process of divorcing my husband because he has been chat cheating and cheating on me for over a year and lying about it constantly. The pain of being a victim of cheating is still so fresh but going away much faster now that I have decided to leave. I have a married coworker that has been hanging out with me quite a bit. Last night we went to a club and then back to my place...one thing led to another. I don't feel guilty at all. It's fun and exciting. I'm not looking for a relationship. I guess I feel bad because I don't feel bad and I want it to happen again. How can you knowingly get involved with a MM when you know what it's like to be betrayed? That pain of being cheated upon, how can you help this guy cheat on his wife? You know first hand what it's like! You've been in her shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
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