ls32ssibm Posted July 14, 2013 Share Posted July 14, 2013 Just venting. As a good looking (I'm told 8/10) fit male, 24, I've been single two years now and have only been in two relationships total (2 years for one and 4 months for another). I'm a pretty ambitious and intelligent guy with no outstanding deal breakers. My standards are pretty high. Honestly, I'm not even sure if I want to get married, but I only date girls who are marriage material because I don't want to waste time and effort in someone who I will inevitable split from. Therefore, I don't think I'm desperate, but being single gets old. My ex-girlfriend had a new boyfriend within weeks. I see friends go from girl to girl. This isn't something I necessarily want because I know these guys/girls are likely co-dependent, but it gets very frustrating not being able to meet a whole lot of new quality people. I've been searching for hobbies that I genuinely enjoy so I could meet people but I just can't find any. I met one "quality" woman from OLD so far and it didn't work out. As far as OLD goes she was one-in-a-thousand. Anyone else have a similar experience? You know you are a "catch" but are perpetually single? Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted July 14, 2013 Share Posted July 14, 2013 Yap I don't do clubbing drinking smoking or sleeping around 85 % of my peers do. Rest is either heart broken taken or simply into web of mind games shallowness or is plain clingy and desperate. Am not gonna tooth my own horn say am 5-10 or between what am gonna say is am a an adult smart kind "normal" and down to earth sometimes feeling that I belong no where. So for time being am on break from it all no looking no wondering life after all has other areas we need to built and fulfill ... Link to post Share on other sites
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lissa90 Posted July 14, 2013 Share Posted July 14, 2013 Maybe you aren't quite the "8-10" you imagine yourself to be. Maybe you are being *too* particular about your women and over looking someone who could be amazing for you but are too focused on finding wifey. I'm not saying lower your standards or anything like that, but maybe don't look for the wife material woman, look for someone can converse easily with and you find cute/hot/sexy whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
Ashlaria Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 Well I don't think it's wrong to have standards and stick to them, it's good you haven't abandoned them for casual relationships but I guess the thing here is what do you really want? You say you see friends jumping from one girl to the next and you don't want that. Sure enough if you are only picking 'marriage material' while they are just having fun, your ratio of girls v theirs will definitely be lower. I'm also not sure I understand why you are picking marriageable girls if you're not sure you want to get married. Anyway, how do you know the ones you reject aren't right, maybe if you spent time getting to know them they could be. There is a website called meetup.com where you can meet people with similar interests. Some are singles nights but a lot are for hobbyists. Why not start there? Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 It's acceptable to have standards and totally logical to only date girls you see as "marriage material" to avoid wasted time and pain, but don't box yourself in so much... It's okay to just try dating girls you might otherwise not have considered. What's one date anyway? No biggie. And for all you know it might turn out great! Link to post Share on other sites
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