Lani Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Lani, you try putting a loaded gun to your head and see how you react. A coward would not be able to pull the trigger. It taked guts to willfuly end your own life. It takes more guts to live and face up to that life. Take the high road. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 26, 2013 Author Share Posted July 26, 2013 Look up maslows hierarchy of needs. Love, family, sex, intimacy, are near the bottom, near food and water. I would trade places with you in an instant. I wold even remove one of my own limbs if it got me love. You, like most women, are totally clueless about what we have to go through. Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Look up maslows hierarchy of needs. Love, family, sex, intimacy, are near the bottom, near food and water. I would trade places with you in an instant. I wold even remove one of my own limbs if it got me love. You, like most women, are totally clueless about what we have to go through. I know all about Maslows heirarchy. It's a mess that is easily disputed. But if we must go by it, the 'love' section actually states friends and family as well as lovers and sexual intimacy. You focus on what you do not have instead of what you do. It's time to change your mindset. I may well be clueless about what men go through, but in that same respect you are also clueless about what we go through. You have no idea what it is like to be a woman and cannot pass judgement on our issues being any less than your own. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 26, 2013 Author Share Posted July 26, 2013 Look what happened to George Sodini. He did not expierence love in his life and he snapped and killed several people. When men dont find love, bad things happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 SD, you need to talk to someone about the sucide thing, like today. Sounds like you are depressed. Try meds and talking therapies. This combination can really help. I am prettty suspicious about many things but I have heard that Prozac can be really helpful. You need to stop the emotions before they get hold off you and you do something silly. I have had an awful life but my time finally came around to being happy and I cherish everyday off my life now.. but I understand those dark feelings all too well. Tell your Doctor how you are feeling today please. It is well known that persons with Aspergers can suffer greater sensory issues and it could be this that is causing you so much pain, on top off really wanting someone to love. You need to resolve this now otherwise it can turn up at different points of your life and you need to be able to recognise the signs. Don't b eone off those who don't deal with depressive symptoms, get what they need eventually and then leave their family behind. You may not think this will happen.. but it does. Deal with what is in front of you and then you can move past this. ~One thing at a time and be gentle with yourself. Please see your GP today and tell him about the gun. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Look what happened to George Sodini. He did not expierence love in his life and he snapped and killed several people. When men dont find love, bad things happen. SD Listen, bro I am a man and I am going to tell it to you straight... Dont put too much weight in this..Women cant have that kind of power over you...All they are is random strangers with tits and a pussy..Guess what? They all have that crap.. Your family is what is important..Dont get me wrong Im not devaluing women or the ability to have a healthy relationship..When it works out, its great. But when you put that type of "life and death" importance on it, thats when it becomes unhealthy.. Understand this. You will NEVER find what you are looking for while mired in this state you are in...I am sure you are good at something..You seem like an intelligemt kid..Forget about women. Channel your efforts into your career and your family...Get to a gym or join a club that has something you are intersted in...Make like they(women) dont exist. Find yourself. Get off this stupid site, because frankly I think it can be as toxic as it is helpful. Once you start to put less importance on this and focus on other things is when you all of a sudden find yourself getting those other things you back-burnered...It happens every time, without fail... Good luck, dude...Dont let them win..You have control here, you just need to seize it.. TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I looked at your posts. You have had guys attracted to you in the past. You do not know what it is like to never have been hugged, kissed, or loved. Since you are a woman, you have it much easier. Therre is a reason that guys have a much higher suicide rate than girls. this is true, if i weren't engaged I'd totally make a trip out to Australia! Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Lani, you try putting a loaded gun to your head and see how you react. A coward would not be able to pull the trigger. It taked guts to willfuly end your own life. I'm with Lani on this one... a brave person would not put a loaded gun to their head unless it was a choice between their suicide and saving lives. it is a cowardly act... these people can blow smoke up your a$$ all day long, but you are a coward. And don't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about... in high school I put a rifle in my mouth and pulled the tripper...click... nothing (mostly because i was drunk and put the wrong type of bullet in there... but that is besides the point). I was a pu$$y for doing that. I had no reguard for my family. The fact that if it had worked my brains would be splattered all over my bedroom wall and my family would find me there. I was upset over some girl who was stringing me along. I would have caused so much pain and missery for my family because I was a coward and was so "depressed" over a girl! it is not worth it! You need to toughen up! The not blowing my brains out thing actually made me had a re-awakining... I realized life was worth living... good things will come one day. You need to realize the same thing, but without tempting fate. Maybe see a shrink. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I try to keep on going, but nothing stops the pain of being single. If you are hungry, the only way that will get fixed is with food. This is what it is like to not be in a relationship. The only cure is for me to get in one You can always plow the land yourself and learn to make your own bread and learn to feed yourself. I.e. - Learn to love yourself. If you can't do that, you won't find anyone else. I guarantee you. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 26, 2013 Author Share Posted July 26, 2013 The problem is that I can't be happy being single while everyone around me is getting a partner. I am tired of being the only guy who has no date. I am tired of not experiencing intimacy with a special someone. I never meet someone who was happy being single and unable to find love. I don't want to be without a family when my parents die out. If that does happen, I know for a fact that staying alive will bring me no joy. I will become too old to have kids, women my age will be marrried or carry too much baggage, and all my friends will be more focused on their families Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 29, 2013 Author Share Posted July 29, 2013 You are wrong. I need a girlfriend. Why is it assumed that if a man is unhappy single, he will not be good in a relationship. Someone prove this to me Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 You are wrong. I need a girlfriend. Why is it assumed that if a man is unhappy single, he will not be good in a relationship. Someone prove this to me You prove to me how one single person can change your life. And how that is in any way fair to that person? For them to be the reason you don't kill yourself is a burden nobody should have to bear. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 30, 2013 Author Share Posted July 30, 2013 The problem is that I know what I want. I am not complete without a special soeone. What is so difficult to understand that. I never held hands, kissed, or hugged anyone. You do not know what it is like to go through life like that, so dont tell me that it is not so bad. My sadness is turning into hatred, and I may lose control of it Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 The problem is that I know what I want. I am not complete without a special soeone. What is so difficult to understand that. I never held hands, kissed, or hugged anyone. You do not know what it is like to go through life like that, so dont tell me that it is not so bad. My sadness is turning into hatred, and I may lose control of it What exactly is the point of this thread? If you came here for advice, at least be open to taking it because this pity party is getting boring. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 You prove to me how one single person can change your life. And how that is in any way fair to that person? For them to be the reason you don't kill yourself is a burden nobody should have to bear. *knock! Knock!* -in my best preachy voice- "Have you found Jesus Christ?" :lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 The problem is that I know what I want. I am not complete without a special soeone. What is so difficult to understand that. I never held hands, kissed, or hugged anyone. You do not know what it is like to go through life like that, so dont tell me that it is not so bad. My sadness is turning into hatred, and I may lose control of it Go take boxing classes or something, take your anger out in something active and productive. Well life sucks sometimes... we want things that we can't have, or wont have unless we try really hard to earn them. You can't expect a beautiful-big-breasted-blonde-bombshell-bimbo to fall from the heavens and land your lap! Thats not how life works! You need to go out there and try to meet people. I've been a long time reader and commenter on your threads, and it is all this self depricating woe-is-me whiney BS. You need to grow a pair of balls, man up, stop being a coward, and go out there and try to meet women. By threatening to kill yourself no woman will ever come for you. That attitude is not appealing to anyone! So instead of biotching and griping and blaming the world and being a little girly man about life, go out and try for once! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 30, 2013 Author Share Posted July 30, 2013 You assume that all I do is sit around the computer complaining about not getting women. That is completely false. I have approached over 100 women. I am in a fraternity and in 3 clubs, so I do have a large social circle. Almost everywhere I go, someone calls out my name. I probably put more effort to find a girl than anyone on this forum. Despite all my improvements, I am no closer to getting a girl. My frustration is getting difficult to control Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 You assume that all I do is sit around the computer complaining about not getting women. That is completely false. I have approached over 100 women. I am in a fraternity and in 3 clubs, so I do have a large social circle. Almost everywhere I go, someone calls out my name. I probably put more effort to find a girl than anyone on this forum. Despite all my improvements, I am no closer to getting a girl. My frustration is getting difficult to control how on earth are you in a frat and don't get laid? are you in a frat frat or one of those christian or band frats? maybe it is just your personality. people don't like someone who is depressed, mopey and suicidal. You could also be giving off a weird vibe. I honestly don't know... you need to be truly honest about yourself on here in order for me to be able to fully give you my honest opinion as to why you are failing and what you can do to fix it. as i've said many times on here and elsewhere... I'm 300 lbs, albeit good looking, I am still overweight. Yet, I've managed to get girls that most guys would probably say ranged from 6s to 9s... my fiance being close to 8 or 9 by most standards, but by my standards is an 11. Anyway, for me, my confidence, ego, intellect, wit, charm, persistance and luck have always worked in my favor. anyway, so i tell people, if i can get a girl... and not just a booty call, but an actual girl friend... then so can you! Also, have you ever thought your standards are way to high? I have a close friend, he is as thin as a rail... ok looking... really nerdy... and is a 24 year old virgin, because he only goes after perfect 10s. I give him props for that. But i've seen attractive girls go after him, that would be perfect for him, and either he is oblivious to the signs that he misses his chance or he is just not interested. Yet, this same guy complains about not being able to get a girl friend! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I sort of wish that the OP would find himself in some sort of relationship, just so he could see that he's just as miserable and insecure IN one than out of one. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I sort of wish that the OP would find himself in some sort of relationship, just so he could see that he's just as miserable and insecure IN one than out of one. I am kind of hoping the same thing.... except I honestly think OP has too high standards. Not that there is anything wrong with that... but he must be doing something wrong besides being mopey all the time. OP chime in so we can better help you. tell us more about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 31, 2013 Author Share Posted July 31, 2013 I don't have high standards. I don't know where you get the idea that I am only going after models. Most girls I go are only average looking. In fact, one of my crushes was not regarded as hot or great looking by my friends. My social skills are good since I am able to make friends easily. I am starting to believe that my height is the main reason since I am only 5 feet tall. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted August 1, 2013 Author Share Posted August 1, 2013 Well, getting dates is hard for me. I find it hard to believe that women can pick up my inner thoughts when they are unable to avoid the player or jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I sort of wish that the OP would find himself in some sort of relationship, just so he could see that he's just as miserable and insecure IN one than out of one. But then when that ends, he'll threaten suicide and it will all be her fault. I can't wish this on any woman. ps. virgins gonna virg 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fallenheart Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 Oh man.....Love Does Not Exist made me LOL....I like this dude's style! And OP? Women will swear up and down that it doesn't matter, but yeah, if you're only five feet tall? Bingo. Girls do not dig short guys. Unless they have a ton of money. Do you have a ton of money? Cause if you don't, get some. Girls really respond to that a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Echo000 Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 Oh man.....Love Does Not Exist made me LOL....I like this dude's style! And OP? Women will swear up and down that it doesn't matter, but yeah, if you're only five feet tall? Bingo. Girls do not dig short guys. Unless they have a ton of money. Do you have a ton of money? Cause if you don't, get some. Girls really respond to that a lot. really? thats your advice? shallow. maybe its cuz he comes across as desperate or clingy or needy or insecure that women are not drawn to him. To boil down the root of his issues to his stature is.. ridiculous. and yes many women dont want a man who is shorter than them but 1. many women are 5 feet tall or shorter and 2. there are also women out there who couldnt care less about height. Link to post Share on other sites
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