Tony what do u think

[michele]

Remember you told me to play it cool, well he called me once from his business trip, and again when he arrived at the airport to tell me he was back. Alright , here it goes, he came back Monday, we spoke on the phone once again, and he hasn;t mentioned anything about seeing me. I'm a bit confused, he said he brought me a souvenir, he hasn't seen me in three weeks. Tony don't you think he would be anxious to see me. Well he hasn't mentioned anything. I mentioned we are intimate, I'm confused. Am I missing something here. I have turned down dates because of him. You think there is somebody else, or he is playing with my mind and feelings. Can it be that he is cheap, and doesn't want to see me to give me a Christmas present. Help! I'm quite attractive, I don't understand you think this is normal.

[Tony T]

I think you need to stop analyzing this because there is no way for you or me to accurately tell why he has not called to see you.

 

I can tell you that he is rude and that you are not a serious focus of his life. If you were, he would have made it a point of seeing you already. He did the minimum in calling you when he arrived...just to sort of get it behind him.

 

This is not a guy you want to have a long term relationship with. You can't have a guy who seems to want you only at his convenience.

 

Here it is, two days before Christmas, in the middle of the Holiday season, on a weekend, and he hasn't made an effort to see you.

 

Yes, he should very definitely be eager to see you. There's something going on here and you need to find out what it is. Again, I'm not there so there's just no way I can speculate on what's happening. But you need to get to the bottom of it.

 

If I were you, I would call him and ask to see him for a few minutes. I would let him know just how hurt you are by all of this. It's not like you are asking for anything major...you just want to feel like you are important in his life and he surely isn't making you feel that way, especially around the holidays. Let him know you appreciate his phone call from the airport but as his lady you feel it is reasonable to expect just a tad bit more than that after his being away for three weeks.

 

If I had to bet on it, I would say there's another lady in this picture somewhere.

 

Is this really a guy you want for a boyfriend???

[Pat]

Sounds like another woman in the picture to me too.

 

This guy is either trying to break it off, or is having a couple of women at the same time.

 

Either way, you are absolutely NOT number 1 in his life.

 

You definitely have a guy that is absolutely NOT interested in you. Sex is all this is about for him.

 

Don't call him is what I say.

 

Consider this over and done with. Get angry. If you get angry and think that he is not worth your time in a minute you will find the energy to move forward.

 

Then, next time he calls(which may be in a long long ime),if you have caller i.d., don't pick up. Let him call again, and if he asks if you got the message in a really breathy voice say you had, but you've just been sooooooooo busy.

 

Then if he wants to see you, say the next couple of weeks will be very busy.

 

My guess is there is definitely another woman in the picture. Play is cool and consider it over.

 

Merry Christmas.