Clubbing: Picking up on signs

[steelgator]

Ok so let me start by saying I have been told by a few of my guy friends that they don't understand why I don't get more girls than I do because they think I'm a pretty attractive dude. I'm not a virgin or anything like that.My friends say I put girls out of my league in my head and that's where I run into problems.

 

Now I never used to be about clubbing. I usually go to bars with a group of friends. But I've been told that if I'm looking for a hookup then clubs are the place to go because it's more physical interaction(dancing) as opposed to bars where you socialize. The last time I went I missed my opportunity. One girl asked me for a lighter and I told her I didn't have one because I didn't smoke. Apparently she already had one and walked away and flickered the lighter near her ass while giving a huge sigh in my direction (I just stood there dumbfounded). The next time some girl decided to dance a few feet in front of me. The dancefloor was fairly busy so I thought it was pure coincidence. I didn't want to be the creepy guy to go up and grind on her so I held my position. She starts dry humping this dude with dreads for a few seconds then walks in a circle and bumps into me. She starts to look at me and smile and I just ask "What are you doing?" She gives me a cold look and sits down.

 

One of my girl friends said that she couldn't believe how stupid I am. I didn't know that just because a girl dances 3-5 ft in front of you means that they want you to dance on them. I'd rather a girl be more straight forward about it. Thoughts on any other signs I need to look out for?

[Eggplant]

She starts to look at me and smile and I just ask "What are you doing?" She gives me a cold look and sits down.

She made a move, and your question made her feel foolish and rejected.

[MrTurk]

I alot like you. I dont fit into the society of all this game playing. Its as if as a guy....you are supposed to walk around with the mindset that you are entitled to screw any girl you want....and many girls are attracted to that type of attitude(they label it "confident") but in your mind and my mind...I see it as being disrespectful.

 

I practically need a woman to slap my in the face for me to realize shes interested in me. So a girl dancing a few feet away from me...on a floor with other people, would not raise a flag in my mind. Same thing with the lame attempt of that girl with the pretending to need a lighter.

 

I'm just too black and white, and need people to be direct. But unfortunately....being direct is the last thing you will find when dealing with many people....no matter what the situation.