SweetBee82 Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 Hey! This is anyone who's got a boyfriend, fiancee, or hubby in the Armed Forces, either active or reserved. Is your SO always busy? My boyfriend, who I love dearly, works as an Army recruiter and we rarely see each other. We still make our relationship work with phone calls and emails but I'm wondering if anyone else's SO is busy all the time? And to the ones who's honey is overseas, how do you cope with the distance? Link to post Share on other sites
Nocturnalkitee Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 Being a recruiter you do have a lot of free time, but working in a office environment you don't have any privacy. I wouldn't want to call my SO with 20 people listening to my conversation. Some men don't want to appear pu$$y-whipped in front of their friends, so they will wait to call. Link to post Share on other sites
Nocturnalkitee Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 Sorry I thought you said that he didn't call much. Recruiters do work long hours, and the hours do vary. Could you give me some more information? How far does he work from home? How long has he been a recruiter? I see that you live in New York City, and the traffic there is horrible. Any where else I would suggest that he could visit you on your lunch break. Sometimes they have two or three hours of doing nothing. Again NYC traffic will make you want to walk everywhere . Link to post Share on other sites
Author SweetBee82 Posted October 26, 2004 Author Share Posted October 26, 2004 Thanks for replying. Yeah his hours vary each week. One week he'll be there til 8pm and the next week he works from 1-5! He's been working as a recruiter for over 2 years, after he finished his tour in Korea and France. As a person who's studying to be in the human resources department, it is a tough, demanding job, esp. if you're in the military. He also travels a lot... visiting the main base (which is Ft. Hamilton in my case) or visit a recruit's family someone in the tri-state area or attend some function. I don't really sweat it a lot because I do have other things that keeps me busy too. On top of his Army duties, he's also a comedian. Once in a while, he would have a gig in the city or in Connecticut or even Las Vegas. So that adds to all that is going on. I did went to his recent gig in Connecticut (it was first time ever going to that state) before he went to that recruiting workshop and I can see how much he loves his other job. Besides... he's very funny! As for seeing each other... though we live a few counties apart (me in Brooklyn but soon moving to Staten Island) and he's in Westchester (in which where his office is at), it seems a world away. Even if he tries to see me, it's tough because then he would be really tired and that's the last thing I want from him to be, esp. if he's going to drive back with all that traffic. But when we do see each other (a few hours if we're really lucky), it's just the best few hours ever. It's like the moment I see him, I forget that he's got a high demanding job! He's just the loveable, gentle kitty kat I fell in love with. Gladly, with the holidays coming up, we would be able to see each other more. We already promised to meet our respected families during the holidays and even planned a weekend getaway for New Years in Northern Westchester. But right now, I just hope when he comes home this weekend he hasn't forgotten about me. Link to post Share on other sites
apartyof7 Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 My husband has been in recruiting for over 7 years. It is will always be long hours and crappy treatment for these guys. It is pretty awful for them and for you. Then if you get married I can gaurantee if he stays in that job you will almost never see him like now but worse after the years go by. They don't feel like coming home to talk they get more miserable with each year. Recruiting sucks the life out of these guys. Uses them up and spits them out. If you think you can handle that go for it. But it isn't fun watching someone go from miserable to extremely miserable. Encourage him to get out of it if he can. It is practically a death sentence. Sorry for the bad news. Link to post Share on other sites
abbyroadme Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 My boyfriend is in the Air Froce, but has not been sent anywhere. Though he is constantly busy with doing stuff with the military. Link to post Share on other sites
kanda215 Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 My boyfriend of 2 years is the the airforce and i know how you feel...we only talk thru email and on the phone as well. its hard sometimes but were trying to make it work. i wish you all the best Link to post Share on other sites
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