hayewils Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Quote: Originally Posted by SmithJ He isn't even fit to shine my shoe!! I want to kick him in the face with my shiney shoe!! This made me laugh out loud! LOL!! The funniest thing I have read on this site!! The hardest Ive laughed in several Months.. Thank You SmithJ!! Ahhhhh, still laughing!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmithJ Posted July 27, 2013 Author Share Posted July 27, 2013 Haha glad you enjoyed it Ex tried to face time me yesterday out of the blue...I declined the call and switched off my phone with no desire to call him back so I think I'm coming out of it okay 1 Link to post Share on other sites
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Good job! Any way to block hi? Link to post Share on other sites
NomiMalone Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I've read this whole thread and I'm glad to hear you're moving on! It's not easy, to say the very least, so you should be very proud of yourself. Your thread has inspired me to similarly tell my guy to stop contacting me! We are at 5 weeks post break up and although I've requested NC many, many times, I've always replied when he's contacted me (because I didn't want to hurt him or for him to think I didn't love him), but the contact wasn't doing ME any good, as I'd found myself hoping he would text, and being heartbroken when I wouldn't hear from him for a day. And this is a guy who's behaviour to me was so unacceptable when we were together that I had to leave him!! (And I'd made it so easy for him, I moved out immediately, left him all my kitchen stuff, paid 4 weeks rent, and never said a nasty word to him!) Hope you find your prince soon, without having to kiss too many frogs 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmithJ Posted July 27, 2013 Author Share Posted July 27, 2013 Yeah I've put my phone on 'do not disturb' and edited it so that only people I want can get in touch. Thanks for taking the time to read my massive thread! We're about the same in break up sense, me and my ex are just over the 5 week point now! It got to the point where he was texting me and I'd reply but always be left wanting more from him. I read numerous 'get your ex back' websites and convinced myself he would be back. I didn't want to ignore his messages incase it ruined my chances of getting him back and I didn't want him to think I didn't love him or I had moved on but I just got to the point where I couldn't do that to myself anymore and I told him I was sick of being in love with him and pining after him and that I was takin control of my life. His reply back was 'I want you to move on' and THAT was my breaking point and I think everyone has to be at their personal breaking point and WANT to be over the ex. That text message from him just made me realise that I'm worth more than that. Obviously I didn't reply to that message and I hadn't heard from him in a few days until that face time thing last night. I blamed myself a lot after the break up and thought I was a bad person etc but I've taken comfort in the fact that he attempts to contact me so I can't be that bad. I will never ever reply to a single message of his or pick up a single call because I can't put myself through the rejection anymore. You'll get to the point where I am you just need to want to get over him and be at a point where you can't take the bread crumbs anymore which is exactly where I am now. He isn't worth it and I won't let myself dwell on the idea of the perfect life together because that's all it was an idea. We argued and there were countless times I'd be crying on the bathroom floor begging him to stop shouting at me and I'm so glad I'm not there anymore, I've moved back into my parents house where they love me and take care of me and it's really nice to be with people who give you the same amount of love that you give to them. My ex had a very bad temper and a wicked tongue and said the most horrific things to me at times. 4 days ago the rose tinted glasses came off and I don't think I'll ever look back. I'm just glad I didn't marry the guy. And as for kissing the frogs....that's the fun part!! I'm sure I'll get through plenty good luck, I know you'll be fine because if I can anyone can! Xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmithJ Posted July 30, 2013 Author Share Posted July 30, 2013 Just a quick update to everyone is struggling ignore their ex's texts and calls like I was when I created this thread. I was so hurt and could only think about the positives. Then I came to my breaking point and decided he was a bad influence. I have since ignored 1 face time call, 1 normal call and 2 text messages. I know if I engage in any form of communication I will be back at square 1 and I really cant go back to that place again because it was awful. You really need to think of the bad times, that's what helps me and when I receive a text from him I delete it straight away (and I don't have his number saved) so there is no way I can reply. Just wanted to let you all know that if I can do it anybody can!! Focus on yourself, don't let someone make you feel temporarily fantastic to then hitting a massive massive low when they don't text you back/tell you what you want to hear. DELETE DELETE DELETE!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 Good job!!!!! Fist bump Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmithJ Posted July 31, 2013 Author Share Posted July 31, 2013 Thanks received ANOTHER text from him yesterday (2 in one day without a reply) asking how my day was. 5 weeks ago I would have LOVED this, it would have literally made me the happiest person in the world. Why is it that when we're okay they make attempts to contact us? I actually feel a bit sorry for him, obviously a very confused, messed up man. On the other hand, I'm not a hotline for emotionally unavailable man so perhaps he should take his calls somewhere else...maybe the Samaritans! Keep going everyone, it DOES get better Link to post Share on other sites
Misfortune Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I just think: what's the point? What good will come of it? She left and doesn't want what I want so, why bother? Most of them waste your time with a bunch of messages that lead to nowhere. Unless its important info that's needed that only I can give, there is no reason to reply. They're getting/doing what they want and we're not. So unless I'll end up getting what I want, there's no reason to talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 Get rid of your phone, I binned mine and converted to email, instant messaging. Improved my healing by 50% Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I would get just get mad and delete everything. Otherwise it's too tempting. Link to post Share on other sites
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