Not completely lost anymore, but still somewhat lost.

[LordSquidworth]

Purpose of the Post: Feel free to ask questions. Wasn't sure what to include. I'm positive in all this, past the depressing phase. Multiple minds are better then one.

 

So we broke up. She said she needed space/time. We both graduated same time. I was suffocating managing my rental building so I moved out, she has a pretty lousy job, which she is now looking for a new one. We needed space to work on ourself.

 

First week was a lot of heated not so happy conversations.

 

For 1.5 weeks after we didn't talk.

 

Then I sent an apology letter. She called me up crying, we talked for a couple hours.

 

Two days later I get a heated email from her. Starts basically don't ever talk to me again, I can't come see you. Ends we will talk again.

 

Day after I was in town to move out of my place (my building in the city, rented my room out and spending the summer at my parents in the country). She called that morning to talk about the night before. I was eating lunch and she showed up at my place. She played with my dog for a bit, then talked to me a bit.

 

That was two weeks ago. Since I moved out, she's text/called 5-6 out of 7 days of the week. Gotten a phone call 3 of the past 4 days, though one was just a quick one to see if I wanted to bring my dog by to play with hers as she knew I'd be in town.

 

Her birthday was last Wednesday. We didn't talk Tuesday, she said something Monday but I just sent a smiley face. Come 2:30 pm Wednesday I hadn't said anything so she texts me something about if I don't want my dog to be aggressive don't let him lift is leg when peeing (I don't know where that came from). She called around 4:30 and left a voicemail, just checking on my other dog, nothing else (I've talked with my mum, in her opinion she's using my dogs as a conduit to talk to me). 5:00 I get a text say "? You never don't anser your phone." To me she was fishing for something from me. I said Happy Birthday around 7:00, her flowers had gotten delivered (something I knew I had to do). We talked for a bit but she seemed cranky so I went to bed. In the morning she apologized. She said she sorta "expected" something sooner. She didn't admit to being cranky, use misdirection onto worrying about my dog... She's pretty stubborn at times I should probably mention.

 

Since I moved out of my place, she initiates all the texts/phone calls. I was told just let her come to me. Most texts I just reply with a smiley face or one or two words. If I say too much she shuts down, feels "rushed" and instead of just saying that, freaks on me. Last was... Friday? Saturday she texts me in the morning, I ignore it, so she calls later in the day. Usually when she calls we talk for 30-45 mins. My only efforts to contact her have been two emails, short, sweet, nice, positive, which have gotten a phone call the next day.

 

At this point, I've had my time to work on myself. It's been a month long vacation basically. Going up to my parents, lounging by the pool, at the lake, do a little yard work to keep busy. Just waiting on her.

 

Oh, she's 22. So some of it is age, which I'm doing my best to translate, but she's also female, and I've always known translating those minds is difficult. Never not lived at her patents. Not awesome at communicating properly, always assuming (self-confidence/worth issues). I am couple years older at 24, just never was that young. At 22 I had a 3000 sq ft house which I turned into one of the top room rentals in the area.

Edited July 16, 2013 by LordSquidworth