I'm tired of trying to people at work and getting **** for it,am I overreacting

[missingu]

At work this lady asked me to be her backup..I said yes it will be good for experience. So If she's ever sick,on holidays I can do her job for her. My job is something completely different.

 

So we've been training and there's a lot to remember I've been writing notes she's writing notes for me to go by but she gets frustrated with me really easily and snapped a couple of times.

 

I understand she is stressed and wants her job done right but I am sick of her moods when I am doing her a favour I don't have to do.

 

She is rude to my boss,he's too scared to come see us..

 

She is nice sometimes but I laughed at something small,i wasnt making a koke and she said " no laughing you have to take this seriously" I looked her straight in the face and said I reAlize that its important,it's like she was waiting for me to cry and I don't cry anymore it's not worth stressing about anything in that place because most of the time they just **** in your face anyway.

 

It took them 8 years to put me on full time.i always went when called in never really had many holidays,I can count the number if times on one hand in 8 years I had a sickie.

 

It makes me mad because she's just teaching me her job and she is acting like my boss when she is not my boss. Giving me **** that I don't need to put up with.

 

I'm not 18 anymore I'm 27 and I won't stand for it.. Am I overreacting??

[clia]

If you don't feel she is treating you properly, nicely inform her that you have changed your mind about being her backup. If you were doing this voluntarily, then there shouldn't be any issue with that, right?

[Eddie Edirol]

You are over-reacting a little. I know you want the experience, but she probably isnt going to change. The only way to remedy this is to tell her "Ok forget it, if youre gonna be like that, find someone else to cover for you".

This might help her realize she isnt keeping her cool. If you cant talk to her about it like adults, then cut her off. You will just have to miss out on this experience.

[darkmoon]

you're being groomed to be there so that she can throw sickies on Mondays?

 

no you're not over-reacting - - you're being played

[Col1]

Stick with the training - even if it's with a person who lacks basic manners. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? Anyways...

 

You are training to learn new skills. That's a plus, whether you stay in the company or leave when new openings are posted elsewhere. You will have a skill-set that's more diverse. And, in the event of company wide downsizing, you will have made yourself more valuable for your company to keep around.

 

You do hold some power over her: She will rely upon you when she's out of the workplace. Also, you could even permanently replace her (whether through her moving-on or her getting ousted from the company). She may have that fear in the back of her mind.

 

Dealing with this lady is an opportunity for you to grow as a person. Learn patience. Take pity on this pathetic person. Try to understand her. Learn effective communication skills. See if you can get her to treat you the way you'd like to be treated. Turn it into a game and don't take anything personally. Best wishes!

[Follower]

Sorry what? It took you 8 years to become a full time member of staff?

 

At no point in this 8 years did you consider that maybe this is not the place for you?

 

Stop doing people favors the world of work is not this rosy place where people will pay you back, your opening yourself up to more responsibility with none of the reward.

 

Will you be getting a pay rise for holding this extra skill set? Is it going to be recognized on your C.V. so you can move into bigger and better things?

[dasein]

Agree with Col1, shoulder the annoyance, learn the job, use that knowledge to either enhance your current position or in a new one. Do that formula over and over.

 

For all you know, the woman is on the way out due to her attitude, and this is mgmt's sly way of getting her to train before giving the boot. She could have easily figured this out as well, hence an even worse attitude. Ya never know what's going on behind the scenes.

[PlumPrincess]

This woman is clearly rude, but you need to make an honest assessment first, before you decide on your next steps.

 

Why did it take you 8 years to become full-time employed? Was it lack of skills and experience? Then maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to continue training with her even when she gets on your nerves.

 

If it's because you're the kind of person who constantly gets walked over and whose work nobody really appreciates, then maybe it's time to stop letting people walk over you.

 

In any case, politely remind her that you're doing her a favor and that you do not agree with the way she deals with your mistakes during the training.