nmk615 Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I dated my ex when I was 19 until I was about 21. And then for a few of months a year or two later. I am 28, he is 30 now. We had NO communication within the 6 or 7 years apart. Even through other relationships, this was the best one I have had. We were truly best friends AND had a romantic relationship. Through the years I have always missed him and the relationship I had with him, wishing I had met him more recently and things would be different. I am not blind to our past issues. Many were from being immature, but a few were not (EX: his smoking cigarettes). Neither of us cheated, he was not physically abusive. Recently, we got back in touch. We hung out casually and had a great time. He has been asking to take me out on a date. I have mixed feelings. I crave the bond we had, and I know the flame is still there, but I am concerned that it will not work out. I do not want to break up in 6 months or a year and be back to where I am now, except older lol. I know it can happen with any relationship, but is there a bigger chance with an ex? So...do I accept the date, see how it goes? Afterwards, if I still have the same feelings, talk to him about my concerns? What do I do? -Thanks in advance Link to post Share on other sites
lord-christoph Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 you might find he is a different guy or not, and that's the point of a date: to find out about someone. Going on a date isn't a commitment to anything. If you like what you see, go slow as molasses, but keep going. If he starts moving to fast then bring him full stop and tell him your concerns. Or, if you want, tell him straight up from the get go you want to go slow. If he really wants to be with you, he shouldn't have a problem with it. I know I would not have a problem with going slow for someone I wanted for something other than sex. After so long I'd say you have no bigger chance failing with this guy than any new guy, and I might even go as bold as to say it could be a better chance of success, but I wouldn't expect it. I say go for it and be cautious; wade slowly into these waters Link to post Share on other sites
Author nmk615 Posted July 18, 2013 Author Share Posted July 18, 2013 Thank you. I am not concerned that sex is all he wants, as we never slept together to start with lol. I was a virgin and he was as patient and respectful as I could ask for. Thanks again! I will probably go out with him, see where it takes us Any other opinions I appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
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