kmariec Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 This is a serious topic for me and I have talked to friends about it and they support me. I have been talking to this guy for 9 months now and we have become seriously close but we are also taking it slow at the same time too. I'm going to make this short and sweet. He's 24 and I am 21. We are both employed and currently don't go to school. He lives in New York and I am from New York but have lived in Canada for 6-7 years. I go back home every summer to spend time with my grandparents and I think this is the best time for him and I to see each other for the first time. I am not using my grandparents to see him because I always wish I was back home, even before I met him. I plan on staying with my grandparents and I want him to meet my grandparents because it would mean a lot to me if someone from my family was open to meeting him for me. I also plan on seeing other family members as always. We don't plan on taking things too seriously just yet until we decide if this relationship can still go on (before any thoughts of moving in, etc.). The only thing stopping me is my mom. She is completely against our relationship, against him, doesn't want to get to know him and we have talked numerous times about him and only him. This man I have been talking to is no stranger to me any more because we have been talking for 9 months, every single day, every single hour almost every single minute (texting, oovoo calls, Facebook). So what we have doesn't feel like a joke, a fling, or something to fill up "loneliness". I have some relationship experience with other guys and have been in one long distance relationship but that needed to end since there was nothing there to continue being together.. I really need some serious and helpful advice about this. Thank you for taking the time to read this! Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 You're 21, though your mother doesn't agree it's not her jurisdiction anymore. If you get with this guy they will eventually have to meet. If she is unwilling to give him a chance that's just controlling behavior on her part. Is there any reason for her to not like him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kmariec Posted July 18, 2013 Author Share Posted July 18, 2013 Thank you for the reply and I feel the same way. My mom doesn't like the "idea" of him because she knows "his type". She says this because the guy I am talking to has been living with another girl whom he works with for about 7-8 months, while we were in contact with each other. He needed to move out of his mom's house because of personal reasons and the girl he worked with has a 2 bedroom apartment so he moved in. I know that it seems shocking and puzzling as to why he is living with another girl but we have been talking for 9 months. He confronted me before he moved in that he was going to move in with her and he assured me that I have nothing to worry about because he has no interest in her. He has given me no reason to not trust him or to suspect anything. I told my mom this but she won't accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
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