cmm196934 Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 I WAS MARRIED FOR 16 YEARS AND WE HAD GOOD TIMES AND BAD TIMES. I HAD AN AFFAIR THAT LEFT HIM DEVESTATED, I FELL IN LOVE WITH THE MAN AND HAD LEFT MY HUSBAND FOR HIM, WELL MY HUSBAND AND I RECONCILED AND I WAS STILL IN LOVE (I THOUGHT) WITH THE OTHER MAN AND TOLD MY HUSBAND I DIDN'T KNOW IF I LOVED HIM OR NOT. WELL HE STARTED CHEATING WITH A GIRL 10 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM, SHE HAD JUST GOTTEN MARRIED FOR THE SECOND TIME, SHE WAS ONLY MARRIED FOR A WEEK TO HER SECOND HUSBAND, SHE CAME ON TO MY FATHER IN LAW AND THEN WENT AFTER MY HUSBAND, THEY ARE NOW LIVING TOGETHER WITH HER CHILDREN FROM HER PREVIOUS MARRIAGES, HE TELLS MY CHILDREN HE STILL LOVES ME AND THAT HE IS COMING HOME, AND AT TIMES HE TELLS THEM HE IS MARRYING HER, I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING AND I MISS HIM. HE SEEMS SO CONFUSED, HE HAS TOLD ME HE ONLY WANTED ME, HE KNOWS SHE IS USING HIM FOR MONEY AND SHE IS CHEATING ON HIM, THAT BAD THING ABOUT IT IS WE HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN WHO ARE SO MIXED UP ABOUT THIS. I HAVE MOVED ON TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND THEIR FATHER IS MAD, WHY? I CARE ABOUT THE GUY I AM SEEING, BUT I AM STILL IN LOVE WITH THEIR FATHER. WHAT IS HE THINKING? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 WHY ARE YOU SHOUTING?? Please turn your CapsLock off, it makes it very difficult to read. You say that you both love each other yet you are both sleeping around all over the place. You reconciled with your husband & then told him that you didn't know if you loved him or not? That is not a reconciliation. The only way out of this is for you both to get back together, stop sleeping around & get yourselves into some marriage counselling. Or get a divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 THAT BAD THING ABOUT IT IS WE HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN WHO ARE SO MIXED UP ABOUT THIS. Because of your 3 beautiful children both you and your husband need couples therapy or just end it completely. Screw up your lives-that is fine...But you both are screwing up your kids lives and their security and trust by going here, there and everywhere with whoever you both please! And don't think they don't understand what is going on either! They eavesdrop, copy and learn! How old are they? Link to post Share on other sites
DazednConfused Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 I HAD AN AFFAIR THAT LEFT HIM DEVESTATED, I FELL IN LOVE WITH THE MAN AND HAD LEFT MY HUSBAND FOR HIM, WELL MY HUSBAND AND I RECONCILED AND I WAS STILL IN LOVE (I THOUGHT) WITH THE OTHER MAN AND TOLD MY HUSBAND I DIDN'T KNOW IF I LOVED HIM OR NOT. You don't really blame him for being confused do you?? HE STARTED CHEATING WITH A GIRL 10 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM The old turnabout rule. You hurt him and badly, then left him hanging.... so he retaliated. Childish, but not unjustified. HE SEEMS SO CONFUSED, HE HAS TOLD ME HE ONLY WANTED ME, HE KNOWS SHE IS USING HIM FOR MONEY AND SHE IS CHEATING ON HIM, THAT BAD THING ABOUT IT IS WE HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN WHO ARE SO MIXED UP ABOUT THIS Can't blame them, so am I. What do either of you hope to accomplish, marriage is not a contest to see who can hurt the other the most, it's about enjoying the person you chose to be with. I HAVE MOVED ON TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND THEIR FATHER IS MAD, WHY? I CARE ABOUT THE GUY I AM SEEING, BUT I AM STILL IN LOVE WITH THEIR FATHER. WHAT IS HE THINKING? You're kidding right? Your three children have been subject to your revolving door of extramarital lovers, and their father's silly revenge girlfriend, and you are asking what he is thinking?? I'm stumped as to what either of you are thinking. If he's mad that you are seeing someone else, it is because he is jealous, but is too proud to tell you he wants you back. You profess to love him, but are unwilling to be on your own, and keep starting new relationships..... I think you should both grow up, join the adult world, talk to each other, and then get some counseling pronto! you are not helping your children or yourselves with this behavior I know you're hurting and came here for advice, I am not the first to mention counseling for the both of you. Please try it. If not for yourselves, for your kids who deserve better than this from mom and dad. -Dazed Link to post Share on other sites
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