Seductive Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 Always care about looks. I don't necessarily mean that they MUST be a 10 in order for you to date them(that's your prerogative if you do) but some attraction is a must otherwise things will most likely not last long. Age as well is an individual preference and I don't find that shallow either. It's funny that what I find hot isn't hot at all to someone else. What someone else finds hot is OKAY to me, or unattractive. Since we all have different tastes, there's bound to be a way to balance everyone finding someone that likes them. Someone even made a thread about liking BBW's. I wonder if he would be called shallow for only liking larger women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 You continue to speak on these very specific, very rare situations and attempt to pass them off as common occurances. Your happy ending of finding the perfect soul mate is a nice one, but not a very realistic one. I find your attitude a bit disheartening. It's negativity, not realism...and you will end up making your own predictions true like a self fulfilling prophecy. I knew early on in life that I would find my soul mate and be happy. I knew what kind of person I was and what I was capable of. And I knew I would settle for nothing less than everything. I could have stuck with either of the first two girls I had anything serious with. Either girl would be considered a catch around here (well, my first gf was pretty damn jealous) and both girls ended up marrying the very next guy they were with after me, meaning they were ready to settle down and some other guy found them marriage material. Both are still married today. And both wanted me to be the "one" for them, but I knew they weren't what I really wanted, even though they both had their awesome qualities that were hard to give up...they didn't have it ALL. I never settled and never stopped looking for it all. And little did I know that perfect was living across the street from me for years. It's not as rare as you think. You just gotta be self confident, and keep your eyes and heart open. I know you and a few others around here might think I just got lucky. That I just tripped over my own feet and landed in the lap of my soul mate. The funny thing is...when you meet your soul mate, that's exactly how it feels. Like you just tripped and fell and there they were. It comes out of nowhere. But later on, you realize that you ended up where you were because of who you are and the decisions you make in life that lead you to that point. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) No, we're not machines, but you're making the assumption that someone that isn't physically attractive to one would automatically make one unhappy. I know some people that are with people that aren't attractive to them, but because they're a good person and the kind of person they want mentally, they have grown to love them. It's all up to you. Basically, in these situations, if you find someone doesn't like you for how you look, or who you are...don't let it be a blow to your ego. Just take it as they weren't for you and find someone else. Call me naive but when it comes to love I want the full package... I want be physically, emotionally, sexually and mentally attracted to the person I want to be with and I want that person to be attracted to me exactly in the same way. I don't settle for less, she has to blown me away, she has to make me want to be with her more than anything else and I need to feel that she is feeling exactly the same way with me. I love my friends for their personality but I would not marry them... when I want to marry a woman she has to have much more than personality By the way, I make no assumptions... I am speaking about myself and I can't love (romantically speaking) someone if I am not physically attracted to her. Edited July 21, 2013 by therhythm 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 Call me naive but when it comes to love I want the full package... I want be physically, emotionally, sexually and mentally attracted to the person I want to be with and I want that person to be attracted to me exactly in the same way. I don't settle for less, she has to blown me away, she has to make me want to be with her more than anything else and I need to feel that she is feeling exactly the same way with me. I love my friends for their personality but I would not marry them... when I want to marry a woman she has to have much more than personality By the way, I make no assumptions... I am speaking about myself and I can't love (romantically speaking) someone if I am not physically attracted to her. With this attitude...and if you maintain a good heart...you will end up happy, one way or another. I've always believed this. The TRULY good people I've known in my life...the ones that inspire me...whether they were coworkers, bosses, friends, and especially my wife...I look back and they are all happily married, with kids. Two particular people come to mind...two former bosses of mine who became my mentors and people that I aspired to be more like. Both of them have been married for probably over 20 years now, have 2 or 3 kids, and just happy as can be and successful with their lives and careers. They are just truly honest, and kind hearted people...who really want to help and nurture those around them, such as myself. They deserved happiness, and they got it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 It's funny that what I find hot isn't hot at all to someone else. What someone else finds hot is OKAY to me, or unattractive. Since we all have different tastes, there's bound to be a way to balance everyone finding someone that likes them. Someone even made a thread about liking BBW's. I wonder if he would be called shallow for only liking larger women. You're right....Im sure a LOT of women might find that two breasts and a vagina arent all that hot!! TFY Im only kiddin with ya... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Seductive Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 You're right....Im sure a LOT of women might find that two breasts and a vagina arent all that hot!! TFY Im only kiddin with ya... That was witty and unexpected. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 That was witty and unexpected. Youre a good sport.. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Seductive Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Youre a good sport.. TFY I'm trying! Nothing wrong with helping me to lighten up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MomsSpaghetti Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I have preferences only in a broad sense. I'd want a girl who is reasonably cute and has her life together. My standard of "cute" is not a rigorous science. I'm not even sure that I find a certain hair color more attractive, or that I'd prefer a woman 2" shorter than me rather than a woman 2" taller than me. Whatever. I think I'm pretty lax. Seems like a lot of girls have their standards of attractiveness down to an exact science. I've heard a girl say she doesn't find blonde guys attractive. This concept is so foreign to me. How can a certain shade of hair automatically render a person unattractive? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I find your attitude a bit disheartening. It's negativity, not realism...and you will end up making your own predictions true like a self fulfilling prophecy. I knew early on in life that I would find my soul mate and be happy. I knew what kind of person I was and what I was capable of. And I knew I would settle for nothing less than everything. I could have stuck with either of the first two girls I had anything serious with. Either girl would be considered a catch around here (well, my first gf was pretty damn jealous) and both girls ended up marrying the very next guy they were with after me, meaning they were ready to settle down and some other guy found them marriage material. Both are still married today. And both wanted me to be the "one" for them, but I knew they weren't what I really wanted, even though they both had their awesome qualities that were hard to give up...they didn't have it ALL. I never settled and never stopped looking for it all. And little did I know that perfect was living across the street from me for years. It's not as rare as you think. You just gotta be self confident, and keep your eyes and heart open. I know you and a few others around here might think I just got lucky. That I just tripped over my own feet and landed in the lap of my soul mate. The funny thing is...when you meet your soul mate, that's exactly how it feels. Like you just tripped and fell and there they were. It comes out of nowhere. But later on, you realize that you ended up where you were because of who you are and the decisions you make in life that lead you to that point. Usually the KFJ's "I have the perfect life" annoys me but for some reason I like this post. I absolutely hate to settle. Does it mean that I want every single thing to be perfect? No, I'm not "perfect" so why would I expect that? I do want someone however that I'm very physically attracted to and who is compatible with me on the most important matters in life. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 With this attitude...and if you maintain a good heart...you will end up happy, one way or another. I've always believed this. The TRULY good people I've known in my life...the ones that inspire me...whether they were coworkers, bosses, friends, and especially my wife...I look back and they are all happily married, with kids. Two particular people come to mind...two former bosses of mine who became my mentors and people that I aspired to be more like. Both of them have been married for probably over 20 years now, have 2 or 3 kids, and just happy as can be and successful with their lives and careers. They are just truly honest, and kind hearted people...who really want to help and nurture those around them, such as myself. They deserved happiness, and they got it. This is bull****. Good people in life get shafted, cheated, killed, or backstabbed all the time and evil people get everything the good people deserve. Of course it happens the "correct" way quite a bit but to say that because someone is a good person and they will eventually find whatever they're looking for is ignorant, misguided, and completely off the mark. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 This is bull****. Good people in life get shafted, cheated, killed, or backstabbed all the time and evil people get everything the good people deserve. Of course it happens the "correct" way quite a bit but to say that because someone is a good person and they will eventually find whatever they're looking for is ignorant, misguided, and completely off the mark. Thank you Mr Obvious. Next are you going to instruct us on the fascinating subject on how water is wet and fire is hot? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyConcept Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I like shallow women, because I have small penis, so I have no problem filling them in 1 Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Usually the KFJ's "I have the perfect life" annoys me but for some reason I like this post. I absolutely hate to settle. Does it mean that I want every single thing to be perfect? No, I'm not "perfect" so why would I expect that? I do want someone however that I'm very physically attracted to and who is compatible with me on the most important matters in life. It is not about finding a perfect person... it is about finding a person who is perfect for you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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