muffin Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 My bf seems to often mention stories about who had a crush on him or what girls/women were interested in him, going back to his early teen years. He's 33 now, and you'd think that kind of thing would be far in the past now, and not important to our present relationship. But he'll talk about these situations like they were a week ago. He will also talk about his ex-wife a lot. He's a Christian guy who has not had a lot of relationships or dating experience in his past, but whatever encounters he did have he makes a point to play up and talk about. It makes me wonder if he is trying to make himself sound more interesting or attractive, or what the reason is, why he thinks I need to hear about this stuff. It's uncomfortable for me to listen to it, and I'm trying to come up with a way to discourage him from telling me about it. He doesn't pick up on my cues that I am not interested in hearing about other women, no matter how far in the past. Other men I have dated have talked a lot about past relationships too, what's the deal with guys doing that? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 Why do you need to come up with a way to discourage this & drop clues that you don't like it? Just tell him to cut it out. Link to post Share on other sites
melnmojave Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 this guy sounds immature and insecure - he's feeding his own ego.....I have met a guy or two who had to tell me how great they were because no one was telling them how great they were. That could be a reflection on me, i.e., not enough positive feedback and they are trying to get it from me. Or, they are super-egotistical and want everyone to think they are great...hmmmm....why do guys do that???? My experience has also been that if you say something about it then they will say your insecure. hmmmm. lose/lose ???? Link to post Share on other sites
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