Michelle Posted December 25, 2000 Share Posted December 25, 2000 tony, could you please post a reply to my topic "does this mean anything?" thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 25, 2000 Share Posted December 25, 2000 I read your post earlier and didn't have too many thoughts on it. I think you are way overly concerned about this. Actually, I think he was just playing with your head. Any man who would be truly that concerned about what people thought of his haircut would be pretty crazy. Yes, everybody likes a compliment but, unless a guy is a fully certified fruitcake, he's not going to go overboard. Now, on the other hand, I do know ladies love to hear compliments about their hair...and many boyfriends/husbands have been killed because they didn't notice or compliment their lady's new doo. I think this guy was just putting you on...joking. If he wasn't, he's got some real problems. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle Posted December 25, 2000 Share Posted December 25, 2000 thanks tony, but what do you mean he was playing with my head? Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer Posted December 25, 2000 Share Posted December 25, 2000 Sorry to steal your thunder here Tony (I'm sure I wont!) but Michelle - hon! it didn't mean ANYTHING, he was just making conversation, he wasn't playing with your head as in looking for an ego trip or with an intention to suck compliments out of you, honestly guys just don't do that thing - not about their hair anyway!!!! Relax girl, the only way you are going to get some peace of mind here is to just go ask the guy, 'hey boy, why were you asking me so many questions about your new do, what's up with that?' LOL, otherwise just accept that you will NEVER ever know why he said what he said, guess all you like but it's still only a guess. This is a bad, bad habit for you to be getting into with guys (anyone!), it really is, no one appreciates having their every word and intention analysed and second guessed. You seem to be looking for any clue here that he may like you OR failing that (because of your own insecurities) you now need to believe that he was trying to pull a swifty on you, to satisfy his own ego. I know you need to know one way or the other but for your own sake please just let this little convo go, it was just that - a meaningless conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 26, 2000 Share Posted December 26, 2000 I totally agree with every Stargazer says in the above post. I hope there is some way you can find more productive, constructive ways to spend you time other than thinking about this. Figure out a way the Tampa Bay Buccaneers can get to the Superbowl and I'll pay you, OK? Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer Posted December 26, 2000 Share Posted December 26, 2000 You're a cracker Tony, a right cracker! Hon, we're not trying to be mean, honestly, you just need a bit of a hit of reality and common sense here. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle Posted December 26, 2000 Share Posted December 26, 2000 thanks tony i appreciate all the responses, but can you please tell me what you mean when you say that he was playing with my head? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 26, 2000 Share Posted December 26, 2000 Stargazer explained that but I will do so also. When somebody is "playing with your head" they are merely playing games with you, manipulating you. This is merely an expression used to describe a situation in which one person is verbally playing with another. Another word for this would be teasing someone or just having fun with them without them knowing it. If you do not understand this explanation, please ask your friends to further explain. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle Posted December 26, 2000 Share Posted December 26, 2000 i'm sorry, i just don't get it, first you guys tell me that the whole thing was no big deal and now you tell me that he was "manipulating" me? thanks for responding. Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer Posted December 27, 2000 Share Posted December 27, 2000 Michelle, Try and keep up with me here sweetie - Both Tony and I have said all along that we feel this was just a meaningless conversation, that he was NOT playing with your head as in bad intentions. READ AGAIN: from me - "it didn't mean ANYTHING, he was just making conversation, he wasn't playing with your head as in looking for an ego trip or with an intention to suck compliments out of you, honestly guys just don't do that thing - not about their hair anyway!!!!" "I know you need to know one way or the other but for your own sake please just let this little convo go, it was just that - a meaningless conversation" from Tony - "I think this guy was just putting you on...joking. If he wasn't, he's got some real problems" Then you asked Tony this, remember: "thanks tony i appreciate all the responses, but can you please tell me what you mean when you say that he was playing with my head?" Tony replied to your own question with this, remember: "Stargazer explained that but I will do so also. When somebody is "playing with your head" they are merely playing games with you, manipulating you. This is merely an expression used to describe a situation in which one person is verbally playing with another. Another word for this would be teasing someone or just having fun with them without them knowing it. If you do not understand this explanation, please ask your friends to further explain" He was merely explaining to you what the TERM playing with your head could mean, basically a bit of verbal play between two people, there are a number of ways one could interpret this phrase according to the situation and intention. In your situation it wasn't playing with your head as in manipulation or bad intention, it was playing with your head as far as kidding, teasing, meaningless bit of fun, making conversation. I can see how you may have gotten confused with this response but you know yourself when you've teased someone with words that you didn't necessarily mean anything other than it than a bit of light banter. Does this help you? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 27, 2000 Share Posted December 27, 2000 Thank you so much for your help here. I was getting exhausted trying to explain this and wasn't going to try again. I hope she understands. It really is very insignificant and not that important for her to understand in the context of the rest of the posts. I am so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so sorry I ever used that expression. Happy Holidays!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer Posted December 28, 2000 Share Posted December 28, 2000 Hi Tony, Yeah I figured! I knew you'd had enough, you're welcome. I know this one was a bit 'eh?', hence your new post on 'stupid questions' thank YOU for posting that! Happy New Year to You *Warm Hugs* Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 28, 2000 Share Posted December 28, 2000 It's very frustrating when people just don't understand and, instead of asking their friends for clarification, they keep posting and posting and posting. Sorry for the problem above with the fake Tony. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle Posted December 29, 2000 Share Posted December 29, 2000 Dear Tony, I'm really sorry for bugging you with my problem. You said that I should ask my friends, but see, i'm always talking to my friends about this guy. i wanted some new opinions that's all. thanks so much for responding to my question and don't worry, i won't bother you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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