Can't Attract Women

[lover4721]

Bueller?...Bueller?...Anyone got a comment for me?

 

I read a book and it said that the one guy can't live with the idea that someone might leave him. So he is so scared of the idea that someone might breakup with him, and his whole life is built around not getting left behind by women. So every girl he dated, dumped him.

 

And when you have this fear, you aren't being the potential person you could be... like when I search for women, I'm different... I act differently to those who I really like. But to someone I don't feel too insanely attracted to, I act myself - sweet, outgoing, and not caring if they leave or not - and this is why they all like me. I honestly talk to every girl I don't feel too attracted to, and it never fails that they like me. I haven't found a girl yet. But with those that message me, they always stick around!

 

So he said in this book, "because you're only thinking they-might-not-like-me they-might-not-like-me, and guess what? When you act like that, no one likes you!"

 

The book was called 'An Abundance of Katherines' by John Green.

 

Good book! He got dumped by 19 Katherine's.

So maybe you and I both, keep getting the fear that we won't be liked, and it happens to be that we don't get liked when we act like that!

 

Be happy! Smile! If a girl see's that, she will know you put emotions into the relationship. And, I think you and I need to stop looking around and just let it happen.

[rgz]

You didn't completely strike out.

 

Yes I did, all I got were smiles and flakes.

 

You didn't completely strike out. Good job trying. You need to keep trying and not take it so personally.

 

Instead of where is the bus stop how about asking where a good place to get eat or something like that is. You could invite her with you lol.

 

I transitioned to more personal topics quickly, directions are a classic opener, especially if you can root it. Ex, where is the bus stop, I'm meeting my friend at a place and I don't want to be late. A classic Paul Janka PUA line is "where is the law school?...I'm meeting my friend." He's opened the girl and demonstrated value by associating with a law student.

 

When the girl was packing up quick you got scared maybe. You should have asked her to hold up a moment and asked her out.

 

She showed no indication of interest, this is tough to fight through.

 

The busy street talking to girls things sounds funny and you should do it if you want to but don't put so much pressure on yourself. It can be hard handing out free items on a busy street let alone stopping some on to talk lol.

 

PUA's do this all the time. Paul Janka has claimed that he can sleep with 10% of the women he cold approaches on the street. He lives in New York, so the social dynamics are favorable, but this still demonstrates that his method is workable.

 

Keep this up and you'll get a date guaranteed.

 

It doesn't feel that way right now, and I need more than first dates, that's too early in the process to form a sticking point.

 

You have to just keep going and stop letting rejection hurt your ego.

 

Easier said than done.

[lover4721]

A smile from a pretty girl is a big deal man. Don't just throw that experience away because you didn't get to bender her over have your way with her.

 

 

 

Most girls I've ever dated showed no indication of interest until like after the first date. You can't let some one who doesn't smile and laugh at you saying hello in the first minute scare you off. YOU WERE INTERESTED! haha

 

 

You have pretty good advice! I like it...

 

But with me as well, I'd walk away if they didn't smile or laugh because it shows that they aren't interested, but I think that's just something we put into our head. I would have probably walked away too if I didn't see her interest. I think it's common that we assume interested means smiling and laughing, and it does, but if we don't get it - we walk away.

 

I feel really similar to the OP.

[rgz]

You know PUA stuff is just crap people have known forever

 

False. I'm pretty clueless about relationship issues and I don't know any of it.