9Lives Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Hi Ladies, This is something to think about. Alot of times mm are just leasing you like a apartment. You are a nice place to live but you will not come into ownership. The w is the house, the investment. The ow is the apartment. The man invests in the true woman. Invest in the long haul for greater value.. I was a ow so i know. it is not worth your tears, time, energy, pain, and suffering. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. Are you being played? WHAT IS YOUR VALUE? Link to post Share on other sites
Sky Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 I agree... Sometimes I've been sure that there was a lot of genuine love between me and my MM (now x) .. but, at the same time.... sometimes I felt used or second best. I've always had to question it what the real truth was. I guess you never can really know what's real and what's not when you're in this situation. OK -- a guy can easily say how much he loves you and is thinking about a future together -- and then go home to the wife and kids and be the great family man with them. It's not what they say it's what they do that counts. I never really knew where I stood with my MM... I guess that's why I walked away in the end. I think there was probably something genuine with my MM, but even if someone has real feelings for you -- that doesn't make any difference if you're being stuffed around. A lot of girls here make excuses for there MM (and I've done my fair share) but even if there is a real good excuse ( and I can't think of one)... it doesn't matter. I don't think there is a girl here who wouldn't prefer a real relationship with someone rather than what they have. Link to post Share on other sites
Guisi Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Jvjrose, your comment really hit home with me. I have been involved with my MM for over three years. I feel emotionally used all the time. He drains me with his problems(work, home,school whatever). If I ever try to talk about something going on with me, the conversation is over in a minute and we are talking about him again. When I think about it he is renting my mind to dump all his bull $h**t on. The sad thing is I'm always there listening and trying to help him feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 It really hit home with me as well!!! I'm not the OW any more, but it makes a lot of sense. At times I felt like that Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 I'm not an "ow" but again like everyone else has said, it does make sense...(this is what people (poster's) have been trying to help other "OW" to see), that the "position" probably won't be a "permanent" one, like instead of a full time position you are just working part time to fill a temporary need. I wish no one allowed this to happen to themselves...it would save themselves a lot of heartbreak and tears and "why me's" Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 THE MORALITY POLICE HAS SPOKEN Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 THE MORALITY POLICE HAS SPOKEN Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted October 30, 2004 Author Share Posted October 30, 2004 Originally posted by Guisi Jvjrose, your comment really hit home with me. I have been involved with my MM for over three years. I feel emotionally used all the time. He drains me with his problems(work, home,school whatever). If I ever try to talk about something going on with me, the conversation is over in a minute and we are talking about him again. When I think about it he is renting my mind to dump all his bull $h**t on. The sad thing is I'm always there listening and trying to help him feel better. I realize that some women are just like hotel visits...a very good friend of mine who happens to be a guy tells me alot about how a man feels and thinks. When a woman meets a man, has sex with him quickly without getting to know him as a person...no commitment...no anything...you are a HOTEL.. When you meet a man in the club, go home with him and sleep with him....you are a HOTEL. You may never see that man again...HO- tel It is just pathetic to let these men walk all over us in the name of love. I looked at this thing the wrong way for a long time and the light has finally came on. I want it all!!! Forget the hotel and the lease Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted October 30, 2004 Author Share Posted October 30, 2004 Originally posted by Sky I agree... Sometimes I've been sure that there was a lot of genuine love between me and my MM (now x) .. but, at the same time.... sometimes I felt used or second best. I've always had to question it what the real truth was. I guess you never can really know what's real and what's not when you're in this situation. OK -- a guy can easily say how much he loves you and is thinking about a future together -- and then go home to the wife and kids and be the great family man with them. It's not what they say it's what they do that counts. I never really knew where I stood with my MM... I guess that's why I walked away in the end. I think there was probably something genuine with my MM, but even if someone has real feelings for you -- that doesn't make any difference if you're being stuffed around. A lot of girls here make excuses for there MM (and I've done my fair share) but even if there is a real good excuse ( and I can't think of one)... it doesn't matter. I don't think there is a girl here who wouldn't prefer a real relationship with someone rather than what they have. Your mm is leasing. He is investing at home. But you are leased out until he dont want you anymore and then the lease will be up and what will you be left with.....****ing memories and lost time. ....I am sorry but you need to start hating him for what he is doing to you..and for what you are letting him do to you. Up your value girlfriend... Get a diamond on your finger. Take your life to the next level. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 Originally posted by jvjrose Your mm is leasing. He is investing at home. But you are leased out until he dont want you anymore and then the lease will be up and what will you be left with.....****ing memories and lost time. ....I am sorry but you need to start hating him for what he is doing to you..and for what you are letting him do to you. Up your value girlfriend... Get a diamond on your finger. Take your life to the next level. Could not agree any more. Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 i may leave him alone and look for something better, but i won't hate him. there have been times when i've wanted to because of what's happening but i can't and i won't. i was really angry with him for a while and to some extent that anger has helped me to start to let go. i still have a long way to go, but i'm getting there! but i am no longer angry with him (tomorrow i may change my mind). it happened, i hate that it happened, but i don't hate him. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 Sometimes hate is too much of a big feeling for him to even deserve that! Link to post Share on other sites
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