fiance pocket dialed, wow, my feelings and ego are hurt!

[BradJacobs]

Bro, I never shut her down, I simply made it known that it was a BS comment, I had a headache also and laying down seemed to be the best method of cooling off. She could have easily came in there and said "look I'm sorry that bothered you" I was just joking," and made me feel a little better. I mean if I said something to her that she might take the wrong way, which happens , I immediately apologize and explain myself. I won't give her the chance to walk away! Its worth the fight in my eyes, I'm very passionate in my ways

 

The bold above doesn't match the bold below.

 

So the next day while watching TV they were talking about viagra and she said, you need that to do the mold. I got pretty upset because she seemed serious about it. I removed myself from the situation and ended up taking a nap.she knew I was upset about it, but just started watching TV and then went to work.

 

How is anyone supposed to interpret it differently?

 

I get that you're pissed she made fun of your erection issues but if my woman was having a tough time with lubrication and didn't want to use anything, I'm going to complain to my guy friends.

Edited July 21, 2013 by BradJacobs

[thefooloftheyear]

The bold above doesn't match the bold below.

 

 

 

How is anyone supposed to interpret it differently?

 

I get that you're pissed she made fun of your erection issues but if my woman was having a tough time with lubrication and didn't want to use anything, I'm going to complain to my guy friends.

 

 

In all my years I have NEVER once said anything derogatory about any woman I was with to my friends...Sure, Id talk about the positives but never anything negative....Its just not a nice thing to do...

 

TFY

Edited July 21, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[BradJacobs]

In all my years I have NEVER once said anything derogatory about any woman I was with with to my friends...Sure, Id talk about the positives but never anything negative....Its just not a nice thing to do...

 

TFY

Have you ever wanted to make a dildo out of your boyfriends penis mold and he wouldn't take a drug to keep it up long enough for you to do it?

 

As far as I know that's what the penis molds are commonly used for.

 

I would be frustrated if he tried but couldn't keep it up. I would be livid if I mentioned to him to get a pill so we could complete it and he got pissed off and shut down.

 

That's the story.

[xxoo]

Have you ever wanted to make a dildo out of your boyfriends penis mold and he wouldn't take a drug to keep it up long enough for you to do it?

 

As far as I know that's what the penis molds are commonly used for.

 

I would be frustrated if he tried but couldn't keep it up. I would be livid if I mentioned to him to get a pill so we could complete it and he got pissed off and shut down.

 

That's the story.

 

If you want it that bad, wouldn't you be happy to stimulate it in a sexual way so that it gets nice and aroused for the mold?

 

It begs the question what she wants more....the dildo or the real thing

 

Anyway, Viagra isn't candy! It's a drug, with possible side effects. Lots of people don't like to take drugs recreationally, which is essentially what she was asking him to do.

[almond]

In all my years I have NEVER once said anything derogatory about any woman I was with to my friends...Sure, Id talk about the positives but never anything negative....Its just not a nice thing to do...

 

TFY

 

Agreed. I respect and love my partners way too much to do anything of the sort.

 

The amount of responses justifying such behaviour, and even trying to pass it off as the norm, is concerning

[thefooloftheyear]

Have you ever wanted to make a dildo out of your boyfriends penis mold and he wouldn't take a drug to keep it up long enough for you to do it?

 

As far as I know that's what the penis molds are commonly used for.

 

I would be frustrated if he tried but couldn't keep it up. I would be livid if I mentioned to him to get a pill so we could complete it and he got pissed off and shut down.

 

That's the story.

 

I dont know if you are trying to be a jackass or just dont realize I am a guy...Either way...Personally I think the whole idea of making a dildo out of my cock is kinda corny and stupiid and Id tell her so in a polite way.....But thats my opinion...

 

What this woman did is wrong...Plain and simple...It doesnt matter the circumstances..She purposefully humiliated the guy in front of her friends..And thats only what he overheard..I can only imagine the full extent of it...Id have her shyt out on the front yard waiting for her when she got home...Eff that..

 

TFY

Edited July 21, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[miss_jaclynrae]

Agreed. I respect and love my partners way too much to do anything of the sort.

 

The amount of responses justifying such behaviour, and even trying to pass it off as the norm, is concerning

 

I love and respect the hell out of my man.

I would still complain to my best friend if he pulled this ****.

 

 

Where is this idea that if you love and respect your partner you pretend like nothing bad EVER happens? People get mad at each other, it's normal.

[xxoo]

I love and respect the hell out of my man.

I would still complain to my best friend if he pulled this ****.

 

What ****?

 

This is the crux of the issue. While someone is off speaking badly about a partner to a friend, the REAL ISSUE is getting side-stepped. Instead of venting, go back to the source and work the **** out!

[miss_jaclynrae]

I dont know if you are trying to be a jackass or just dont realize I am a guy...Either way...Personally I think the whole idea of making a dildo out of my cock is kinda corny and stupiid and Id tell her so in a polite way.....But thats my opinion...

 

What this woman did is wrong...Plain and simple...It doesnt matter the circumstances..She purposefully humiliated the guy in front of her friends..And thats only what he overheard..I can only imagine the full extent of it...Id have her shyt out on the front yard waiting for her when she got home...Eff that..

 

TFY

 

OMG. How the **** did she "humiliate" him?

She relayed the truth. Exactly what happened. He is the one who chose to shut down and not discuss it.

 

What is so humiliating about viagra? What is humiliating at all? Has anyone else here ever actually done a mold a penis? He has to stick a hard dick into cold molding for 10 minutes. No pulling it out so she can suck him off, viagra is a great way to make it work. I wish we had used it.

 

Sounds like someone is just being butthurt because his dick didn't get sucked. How is she wrong in what she did? She told her friend she was pissed that she bought something and he won't do it for her. I get that, just like he is coming on here telling STRANGERS about how hes mad she wouldn't suck his dick.

 

 

 

Talk about hypocrisy.

[miss_jaclynrae]

What ****?

 

This is the crux of the issue. While someone is off speaking badly about a partner to a friend, the REAL ISSUE is getting side-stepped. Instead of venting, go back to the source and work the **** out!

 

She tried. He is the one who wouldn't work it out.

How do you know that the issue is being side stepped, maybe she was just venting so she could come back with a level head.

 

 

All of this assuming that because someone bitches to a friend means they are painting someone in bad light to merely paint them in bad light is BS.

She is bitching because she can't bitch to him, obviously. What she said wasn't even THAT bad. She called him a jackass, boohoo.

[almond]

Anyway, Viagra isn't candy! It's a drug, with possible side effects. Lots of people don't like to take drugs recreationally, which is essentially what she was asking him to do.

 

Absolutely correct, especially since she could simply engage in oral sex to assist. Instead, she suggests that he either sees a doctor, pays for the visit and a prescription, visits a chemist, and takes a drug. How ridiculous.

 

I would be livid if I mentioned to him to get a pill so we could complete it and he got pissed off and shut down.

 

See, that's the thing: she wasn't actually suggesting he goes to all of those lengths to actually acquire and ingest a viagra pill - she was merely using it as an opening to insult him further.

 

I would still complain to my best friend if he pulled this ****.

 

 

Where is this idea that if you love and respect your partner you pretend like nothing bad EVER happens? People get mad at each other, it's normal.

 

Pulled what **** exactly? Are you really that blind? You honestly can't appreciate how hurtful this would have been for the OP? You can't see how unreasonable, disrespectful and devoid of empathy her response to the OP's pain was?

 

I implore you to reassess your values, and the standard of treatment you think someone in a committed relationship with you deserves. It genuinely makes me sad for you that you think this is okay

 

People really need to start treating others better. Acting with kindness, respect and loyalty should be something we all strive to maintain at all times IMO.

[thefooloftheyear]

OMG. How the **** did she "humiliate" him?

She relayed the truth. Exactly what happened. He is the one who chose to shut down and not discuss it.

 

What is so humiliating about viagra? What is humiliating at all? Has anyone else here ever actually done a mold a penis? He has to stick a hard dick into cold molding for 10 minutes. No pulling it out so she can suck him off, viagra is a great way to make it work. I wish we had used it.

 

Sounds like someone is just being butthurt because his dick didn't get sucked. How is she wrong in what she did? She told her friend she was pissed that she bought something and he won't do it for her. I get that, just like he is coming on here telling STRANGERS about how hes mad she wouldn't suck his dick.

 

 

 

Talk about hypocrisy.

 

So laughing at someone not being able to keep a hard on isnt humiliating??

 

You must be joking, no?

 

How would YOU feel if you overheard your bf saying something to his buddy (that you know).."man, for all the time that woman spends in the gym its not working..her ass looks like a Salvation Army sofa" HAHAHAHA...You arent going to feel humiliated..??

 

BTW-I am not inferring anything-just trying to make a point here..

 

TFY

[almond]

Sounds like someone is just being butthurt because his dick didn't get sucked. How is she wrong in what she did? She told her friend she was pissed that she bought something and he won't do it for her. I get that, just like he is coming on here telling STRANGERS about how hes mad she wouldn't suck his dick.

 

 

 

Talk about hypocrisy.

 

You can't see how that is completely different? You really think that you can draw parallels between an anonymous, online forum and OPs situation?

 

Wow. I do not intend to be inflammatory, but you are being utterly ridiculous.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Well obviously I see this far different. Don't come at me saying how you think I need to re assess the way I treat people. I'm not the one in a stupid fight with my SO. This is something stupid I fight about to begin with. Thank god My man isn't as whiney.

 

She wasn't making fun of him not beig able to get hard, from what he stated, she was upset about him not willing to take a Viagra for a MOLD A PENIS. It wasn't like they were trying to have sex and he couldn't get t up so she asked him to take a Viagra. It was for a mold a penis. Holy ****.

 

 

She wasn't saying he can't get hard for her, she wa saying it could make it easier o stay hard while there is cold mold on his dick.

[miss_jaclynrae]

You can't see how that is completely different? You really think that you can draw parallels between an anonymous, online forum and OPs situation?

 

Wow. I do not intend to be inflammatory, but you are being utterly ridiculous.

Oh so now it is ok to talk crap about your so if you are speaking anonymously? Please.

 

I wonder how he would feel f she came on here and saw the things HE was saying. Openness and respect my ass. Ian vent about my man, but he knows that's what I do, and he know that I love him no matter how much he pisses me off. Sounds to me like if anyone is open and honest it is me.

[thefooloftheyear]

Well obviously I see this far different. Don't come at me saying how you think I need to re assess the way I treat people. I'm not the one in a stupid fight with my SO. This is something stupid I fight about to begin with. Thank god My man isn't as whiney.

 

She wasn't making fun of him not beig able to get hard, from what he stated, she was upset about him not willing to take a Viagra for a MOLD A PENIS. It wasn't like they were trying to have sex and he couldn't get t up so she asked him to take a Viagra. It was for a mold a penis. Holy ****.

 

 

She wasn't saying he can't get hard for her, she wa saying it could make it easier o stay hard while there is cold mold on his dick.

 

"So I hear her telling her that I was a complete jackass to her because she bought a penis mold and I can't even keep it hard for 2 min and now she wasted 45$ on it. Among other things that I really felt were none of this girls business and that will get spread around just like everything else. They were laughing and joking about it and it really made me feel like crap. I mean I'm not ashamed of my manhood but I sorta feel like that's kinda private and that I'm the butt of their jokes at work now. I feel kinda betrayed in a way, like this is the one person that I shouldn't have to worry "

 

 

I see nothing here about viagra and I see laughing...You sure you didnt mis comprehend the first post?

 

Also, go back and tell me if the scenario I posed wouldnt be humiliating to you..I am curious how you would handle that, seeing your stance here..

 

TFY

[almond]

Oh so now it is ok to talk crap about your so if you are speaking anonymously? Please.

 

I wonder how he would feel f she came on here and saw the things HE was saying. Openness and respect my ass. Ian vent about my man, but he knows that's what I do, and he know that I love him no matter how much he pisses me off. Sounds to me like if anyone is open and honest it is me.

 

Many of your statements have demonstrated a failure to apply simple logic to this debate, as well as general immaturity.

 

You have even resorted to insulting the OP with statements such as "boohoo." Even if you felt that the OP was perhaps being a bit sensitive about the issue, there is a right way and a wrong way of offering this opinion - it is telling that you chose to go the nasty, insulting route. You really are fond of the name calling :/

 

I can see this discussion is going nowhere.

 

I wish you luck in life and love - it appears that you need it.

 

Have a nice day.

[subliminal]

I love and respect the hell out of my man.

I would still complain to my best friend if he pulled this ****.

 

 

Where is this idea that if you love and respect your partner you pretend like nothing bad EVER happens? People get mad at each other, it's normal.

 

Ok, I somewhat agree with you're people getting mad is normal statement, but its the fact that she went into detail. I'm pretty sure I heard someone say you were 23, we are 33, and her best friend is 23... ironic. I would not have gave 2 *****'s if she said we tried to do it and it was frustrating, not because of the fact I don't get turned on at putting my cock in a tube of gel, it takes real stimulation. But rather that it's a tedious process that is frustrating ! Its just about discretion!

[thefooloftheyear]

Ok, I somewhat agree with you're people getting mad is normal statement, but its the fact that she went into detail. I'm pretty sure I heard someone say you were 23, we are 33, and her best friend is 23... ironic. I would not have gave 2 *****'s if she said we tried to do it and it was frustrating, not because of the fact I don't get turned on at putting my cock in a tube of gel, it takes real stimulation. But rather that it's a tedious process that is frustrating ! Its just about discretion!

 

 

Dont apologize!!

 

Seems like there are a lot of people living in glass houses...Its disrespectful..period..Its NOT effing funny!!..Any idiot on the street knows this...Some of those people that are saying its no big deal better be absolutely 100% picture perfect in every aspect of their lives..

 

Its all about respect for your partner..

 

TFY

[BradJacobs]

I dont know if you are trying to be a jackass or just dont realize I am a guy...Either way...Personally I think the whole idea of making a dildo out of my cock is kinda corny and stupiid and Id tell her so in a polite way.....But thats my opinion...

 

What this woman did is wrong...Plain and simple...It doesnt matter the circumstances..She purposefully humiliated the guy in front of her friends..And thats only what he overheard..I can only imagine the full extent of it...Id have her shyt out on the front yard waiting for her when she got home...Eff that..

 

TFY

Have you thought about her?

 

I'm a guy too. I'd make sure my woman had a my cock to masturbate to if she wanted it even if that meant taking Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, etc.

 

The ability to look at both sides creates a greater awareness of the root cause. And the root of this issue is the OP shutting down when his gal brought up his erection issues.

 

And two minutes without stimulation is tough to pull off for some guys. I'd probably have to take the drug to keep it up that long in the molding shaft.

[thefooloftheyear]

Have you thought about her?

 

I'm a guy too. I'd make sure my woman had a my cock to masturbate to if she wanted it even if that meant taking Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, etc.

 

The ability to look at both sides creates a greater awareness of the root cause. And the root of this issue is the OP shutting down when his gal brought up his erection issues.

 

And two minutes without stimulation is tough to pull off for some guys. I'd probably have to take the drug to keep it up that long in the molding shaft.

 

Not the issue...I dont think you, me or any other guy would have any issue with it..

 

Just dont make it a public joke among friends!! OUT OF LINE...

 

TFY

[sweetjasmine]

What is so humiliating about viagra? What is humiliating at all? Has anyone else here ever actually done a mold a penis? He has to stick a hard dick into cold molding for 10 minutes. No pulling it out so she can suck him off, viagra is a great way to make it work. I wish we had used it.

 

Sorry, did I miss something? Is Viagra now sold in vending machines right next to Doritos and breath mints or something?

 

It's a controlled prescription drug. If someone made light of me taking a prescription drug for their own benefit for something that stupid, I'd be pissed, too. Especially since Viagra doesn't even have a statistically significant effect on men who don't actually have ED.

[LittleTiger]

She was out of order, and if she has so little respect for you OP, I would think twice about making the relationship 'permanent'.

[xxoo]

She tried. He is the one who wouldn't work it out.

 

It takes two to work it out. If she is unwilling to orally stimulate, and he is unwilling to take viagra (totally reasonable refusal, imo!), then surely they could find some other ways to keep it up?

 

Manual stimulation, dirty talk, watching something stimulating....

 

Getting upset and going to a friend is not helpful and, yes, humiliating. The person who gets to judge what is and is not humiliating is the person who feels humiliated. Not the defensive person who wants to make what they did ok--esp in a relationship where you presumably care about each other's feelings!

[thefooloftheyear]

It takes two to work it out. If she is unwilling to orally stimulate, and he is unwilling to take viagra (totally reasonable refusal, imo!), then surely they could find some other ways to keep it up?

 

Manual stimulation, dirty talk, watching something stimulating....

 

Getting upset and going to a friend is not helpful and, yes, humiliating. The person who gets to judge what is and is not humiliating is the person who feels humiliated. Not the defensive person who wants to make what they did ok--esp in a relationship where you presumably care about each other's feelings!

 

Or just take the stupid mold and throw it in the trash...Is it really worth all the bullshyt over?

 

TFY