fiance pocket dialed, wow, my feelings and ego are hurt!

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This is one of the more common complaints that I have heard from men - their wives not respecting their private lives. Some women seem to feel that their privacy needs to be respected but have a sense of entitlement in regards to their mate's.

 

My ex never knew when to keep her mouth shut. But she would do it right in front of me and then acted all shocked when I had a problem with that! It was a major factor leading to our divorce. For me the bottom line is this [my personal reaction to your story]: Tell her that you deserve and demand to be respected. If she can't handle that then the wedding is off.

 

Whatever you feel is the best course of action, this is not something that should be taken lightly. You deserve to be angry and hurt. Don't allow her to make light of this or it WILL get worse, and you'll live to regret it.

 

Yeah women just like to yap too much sometimes, ive heard too many graphically talk about their sex lives and even shortcomings of their man to their friends.

 

Show some loyalty

[2sure]

Try a conversation like this :

 

So, I was talking with my brother Mike and told him about the penis mold you bought. I told him you didn't seem to understand that a putting my penis into a mold wasn't enough to excite anyone. We thought it was so funny . He said how great it would be to have a girl friend who wasn't annoyed about giving oral sex.

 

Isn't that funny? We were just talking, you know.

 

 

That might put it into perspective for her.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I am sorry, but nothing here screams deal breaker or anything.

She was venting to her girlfriend and you accidental heard. I feel bad for you, but I don't think it is anything to get furious about.

 

 

Many women talk things out, I do it all the time. YES, about sex stuff too. Many women NEED to talk it out. If my man heard some things I talk to my bestie about he would probably get butthurt too.

 

 

She isn't a bitch, she is a person who was venting.

Just TALK to her about it. PS, you sound like a whiner. She wants a mold of your penis, HAVE FUN WITH IT. Of course it will be difficult for you to keep it hard, thus why viagra was a GREAT option. Sheesh, as if suggesting you take viagra is the end of the world.

 

 

 

 

Truth is you can't keep it up, and guess what? She doesn't want to shove your dick in her mouth. OK, so take some viagra and have a blast instead of acting like it is so much work. Otherwise tell her she shouldnt have bought it.

[subliminal]

I am sorry, but nothing here screams deal breaker or anything.

She was venting to her girlfriend and you accidental heard. I feel bad for you, but I don't think it is anything to get furious about.

 

 

Many women talk things out, I do it all the time. YES, about sex stuff too. Many women NEED to talk it out. If my man heard some things I talk to my bestie about he would probably get butthurt too.

 

 

She isn't a bitch, she is a person who was venting.

Just TALK to her about it. PS, you sound like a whiner. She wants a mold of your penis, HAVE FUN WITH IT. Of course it will be difficult for you to keep it hard, thus why viagra was a GREAT option. Sheesh, as if suggesting you take viagra is the end of the world.

 

 

 

 

Truth is you can't keep it up, and guess what? She doesn't want to shove your dick in her mouth. OK, so take some viagra and have a blast instead of acting like it is so much work. Otherwise tell her she shouldnt have bought it.

 

Ok, typical answer from a woman who clearly doesn't understand the male psyche.

 

Immagine if you overheard your so talking and laughing about your tits sagging and you needing diet pills. You'd be butt hurt. Bottom line is, I can keep it up, I have never had a problem, the gift is for her, so if she wants it, she needs to act like it. And furthermore, if I was your man, I'd tell you to kick rocks if I heard you talking about personal details about our relationship with anyone, especially in a humiliating mocking type of way.. I'm a bit old fashioned for a 33 year old, I believe in standing by your partner, building them up and that trust and respect are the foundation of everything. You have to be able to be completely open if you want it to be real. There are some things I'd rather not hear, but I respect women, especially mine, enough to never throw them under the bus to anyone, no matter how mad I am.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Ok, typical answer from a woman who clearly doesn't understand the male psyche.

 

Immagine if you overheard your so talking and laughing about your tits sagging and you needing diet pills. You'd be butt hurt. Bottom line is, I can keep it up, I have never had a problem, the gift is for her, so if she wants it, she needs to act like it. And furthermore, if I was your man, I'd tell you to kick rocks if I heard you talking about personal details about our relationship with anyone, especially in a humiliating mocking type of way.. I'm a bit old fashioned for a 33 year old, I believe in standing by your partner, building them up and that trust and respect are the foundation of everything. You have to be able to be completely open if you want it to be real. There are some things I'd rather not hear, but I respect women, especially mine, enough to never throw them under the bus to anyone, no matter how mad I am.

 

 

Don't understand the male psyche?

What about you not understanding the female psyche?

Please...

 

 

If I heard my man joking about such things... I would definitely be butt hurt. Then again, I can't really change my tits and if he was joking about diet pills, well then it would only be if I was overweight and was NOT doing anything to fix it.

 

 

She complained about spending money on something that would make you both happy, and that thing she bought you have yet to make the effort to try it. Why? Because you can't get your dick hard long enough. I told you I get that [my ex and I made one, it was hilarious and didn't work due to the cold making him go limp], what I don't get is why, when she came up with a reasonable fix, you got all butt hurt. She wasn't saying you can't keep it hard ever... just in this situation.

 

 

So because of that she went and complained to her best friend, guess what? I would have too.

 

 

You can say all you want about respect and trust and blah blah blah, but ultimately my man and I have an amazing relationship, and we both bitch about things that annoy us to our best friends. I build him up plenty, but there are times in every relationship where something your SO is doing is making you mad and grumpy, and usually its something that doesn't need to be addressed because it isn't actually a problem.

 

 

The fact that you don't understand that is baffling.

Why create a huge problem over something that ISN'T a real problem?

This just sucks because you heard something you shouldn't have, but honestly... it was something that she had already tried with you and you got upset. Not sure what you wanted her to do...

[xxoo]

I'm a woman, and I think what she said was over the line. I don't think it is appropriate to ever speak that way about your partner to a friend, unless you are really having problems and need help. And even then, it is iffy.

 

Are you really having problems? If that's the way she talks to her friend when things are good.....it doesn't bode well for when real problems come up....

[sweetjasmine]

I'm a woman, and I think what she said was over the line. I don't think it is appropriate to ever speak that way about your partner to a friend, unless you are really having problems and need help. And even then, it is iffy.

 

Agreed. What she did was extremely disrespectful and completely tacky.

 

There's also nothing wrong with being upset that your partner is talking about your personal issues with other people. Some folks are okay with partners sharing intimate details of their sex lives. Some of us aren't.

 

I get a pocket dial from her and hear her talking to a girl she calls her best friend but repeatedly talks bad about to me almost every day.

 

Do you mean that she talks sh-t about this best friend to you every day? Or that she talks sh-t about you with this best friend almost every day? If she's talking trash about her "best friend" behind her back, then it shouldn't be a surprise that she's talking trash about you behind your back. She's been showing you who she is.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I was a complete jackass to her because she bought a penis mold and I can't even keep it hard for 2 min and now she wasted 45$ on it.

 

 

 

This is girl talk, and it isn't new information, she's sharing a frustration.

Oy vey, I tell my best friend everything, that's what she is there for, so I have someone to tell when my boyfriend is being an ass wipe and she won't judge me or him for it.

 

 

What she disclosed isn't precious information. He can't get it hard for a mold a penis. That is actually a funny thing. Want to get butt hurt about it? Cool, cause a fight over something that hurt your ego.

[KungFuJoe]

she calls her best friend but repeatedly talks bad about to me almost every day.

 

THIS is the biggest problem with the entire story. People like this are NOT to be trusted. This is two faced and just plain nasty. Being one way to someone's face then doing a 180 around someone else.

 

I would run for the hills

[miss_jaclynrae]

Op, ultimately... are you going to do the mold thing or what?

Pop a viagra and stop being a baby.

Doesn't make you any less of a man... I still don't see what the big deal is over here.

 

 

 

If I was her I would be mad too.

[gaius]

In her defense, sometimes people frame things in a different way than they actually feel to ingratiate themselves with people who already have a strong opinion about something. IE if her friend doesn't like you, she might put a more negative slant on stories than she really feels when with her. Also women can take it really personally if you don't get hard for them or it's a huge struggle. It can really hurt their ego. I always make sure to point out my boner a lot whenever I'm dating someone.

 

She does sound like a girl that doesn't have a huge empathetic side though, which is something you will have to decide if you can tolerate or not. Myself, I find it very sexy.

[subliminal]

Op, ultimately... are you going to do the mold thing or what?

Pop a viagra and stop being a baby.

Doesn't make you any less of a man... I still don't see what the big deal is over here.

 

 

 

If I was her I would be mad too.

 

If she was living up to her sexual potential I wouldn't have to.

 

Bottom line is, she got an attitude about a blow job, the gift is for her, not me

If you're gonna laugh behind my back about the fact you're too lazy or disgusted at the thought of my penis, then I've got your cock right here, no mold for you!!

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[subliminal]

In her defense, sometimes people frame things in a different way than they actually feel to ingratiate themselves with people who already have a strong opinion about something. IE if her friend doesn't like you, she might put a more negative slant on stories than she really feels when with her. Also women can take it really personally if you don't get hard for them or it's a huge struggle. It can really hurt their ego. I always make sure to point out my boner a lot whenever I'm dating someone.

 

She does sound like a girl that doesn't have a huge empathetic side though, which is something you will have to decide if you can tolerate or not. Myself, I find it very sexy.

 

I love the bitch in her but I also don't appreciate being talked about the way she did because I wasn't there. Its kinda two faced as stated above

[subliminal]

This is girl talk, and it isn't new information, she's sharing a frustration.

Oy vey, I tell my best friend everything, that's what she is there for, so I have someone to tell when my boyfriend is being an ass wipe and she won't judge me or him for it.

 

 

What she disclosed isn't precious information. He can't get it hard for a mold a penis. That is actually a funny thing. Want to get butt hurt about it? Cool, cause a fight over something that hurt your ego.

 

I have no problem with her talking about me in a positive manor, or even that we are fighting, but it wasn't just about the mold, it was about us being aggravated about other things too. She could have left that part out. I don't tell people about her insecurities or anything that would hurt her feelings because I want her to feel beautiful and smile, even when I'm angry, all I want is to know I make her happy. Most men who are successful in relationships, just want to know their woman is happy. Its pretty simple. If she needs to vent, do it to me, that's kinda how you communicate. f she feels she can't, break it off or just go on here and get unbiased opinions

[miss_jaclynrae]

If she was living up to her sexual potential I wouldn't have to.

 

Bottom line is, she got an attitude about a blow job, the gift is for her, not me

If you're gonna laugh behind my back about the fact you're too lazy or disgusted at the thought of my penis, then I've got your cock right here, no mold for you!!

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This view I find disgusting.

She didn't want to suck you off, I don't always like having a dick in my mouth either.

 

 

Your attitude is coming out more and more and it isn't attractive. You are the one who said it boosted your ego. Then it went down because she brought up you taking a viagra instead of her sucking you hard?

 

Gross.

Not to mention you have to keep your penis in the mold, so even if she did originally get you hard, it would be difficult to keep it that way. She brought up something that was easy and would work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ugh. Get over yourself.

[subliminal]

This is girl talk, and it isn't new information, she's sharing a frustration.

Oy vey, I tell my best friend everything, that's what she is there for, so I have someone to tell when my boyfriend is being an ass wipe and she won't judge me or him for it.

 

 

What she disclosed isn't precious information. He can't get it hard for a mold a penis. That is actually a funny thing. Want to get butt hurt about it? Cool, cause a fight over something that hurt your ego.

 

And I can get hard for anything, trust me I get wood driving down the road sometimes, its just like this. Its a big turn off in bed to be told no. Think about it. You tell dude to lick your pussy, he says no, you're like a ****in Sahara down there in .006 seconds!

[miss_jaclynrae]

I have no problem with her talking about me in a positive manor, or even that we are fighting, but it wasn't just about the mold, it was about us being aggravated about other things too. She could have left that part out. I don't tell people about her insecurities or anything that would hurt her feelings because I want her to feel beautiful and smile, even when I'm angry, all I want is to know I make her happy. Most men who are successful in relationships, just want to know their woman is happy. Its pretty simple. If she needs to vent, do it to me, that's kinda how you communicate. f she feels she can't, break it off or just go on here and get unbiased opinions

 

SHE DID VENT IT TO YOU, AND YOU JUST GOT UPSET.

So she went to her girlfriend.

 

 

Most men in successful relationships? Please tell me how successful yours is going, you are the one upset with your girlfriend over a Viagra.

 

My man does all those things, but I also think he is a dick in the moment sometimes.

Whatever works for you guys, I am in an amazing relationship and with an amazing man, that doesn't mean I don't bitch about things he does to my friends. Maybe if you weren't so insecure you wouldn't have a problem with it.

[miss_jaclynrae]

And I can get hard for anything, trust me I get wood driving down the road sometimes, its just like this. Its a big turn off in bed to be told no. Think about it. You tell dude to lick your pussy, he says no, you're like a ****in Sahara down there in .006 seconds!

 

Good for you bro, want a prize?

 

 

 

I don't understand what this has to do with anything.

With this information, it shouldn't have been a problem to make the mold, looks like you just wanted your dick sucked and got mad when she said no.

[subliminal]

This view I find disgusting.

She didn't want to suck you off, I don't always like having a dick in my mouth either.

 

 

Your attitude is coming out more and more and it isn't attractive. You are the one who said it boosted your ego. Then it went down because she brought up you taking a viagra instead of her sucking you hard?

 

Gross.

Not to mention you have to keep your penis in the mold, so even if she did originally get you hard, it would be difficult to keep it that way. She brought up something that was easy and would work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ugh. Get over yourself.

Again, go take a pill that makes you horny and not be disgusted by a cock in your mouth personally if she told me it really turns her on when I lick her anus id do it for hours!

[subliminal]

Good for you bro, want a prize?

 

 

 

I don't understand what this has to do with anything.

With this information, it shouldn't have been a problem to make the mold, looks like you just wanted your dick sucked and got mad when she said no.

 

Just like she wanted a cock mold to masturbate with. But no, its the point you're missing. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to please her, but I mention one thing, and its the end of humanity. So I simply said, its not gonna work, its too much work, its later. Let's just cuddle and watch TV. We did, and both laughed together all night with no sex or blow jobs, just plain old fashioned cuddling. Its the next day that was bull ****!

[miss_jaclynrae]

Again, go take a pill that makes you horny and not be disgusted by a cock in your mouth personally if she told me it really turns her on when I lick her anus id do it for hours!

 

So it is true, you are just upset that your dick didnt get wet.

Cool.

 

 

 

I could NEVER be with a man who felt like I HAD to do something because he wanted me to. I was with someone like that, and after some time I started resenting him, It was as if he was making me do it, even though I didn't want to. Sexual manipulation. Disgusting. No wonder she bitches about it to her best friend.

 

 

 

Do you think that what you just said constitutes a healthy relationship?

[subliminal]

SHE DID VENT IT TO YOU, AND YOU JUST GOT UPSET.

So she went to her girlfriend.

 

 

Most men in successful relationships? Please tell me how successful yours is going, you are the one upset with your girlfriend over a Viagra.

 

My man does all those things, but I also think he is a dick in the moment sometimes.

Whatever works for you guys, I am in an amazing relationship and with an amazing man, that doesn't mean I don't bitch about things he does to my friends. Maybe if you weren't so insecure you wouldn't have a problem with it.

 

So sitting on your ass watching soaps is trying to vent, throwing a rock at me as though I'm inadequate, yea that's kinda harsh darlin' just think about a double standard, you can say you're fat, but if I say it, u get butt hurt! Say whatever u want, if your man told me you weren't Amazing and he just says u are to boost your ego and get in your pants and u heard it, you're ****in pissed!

[subliminal]

So it is true, you are just upset that your dick didnt get wet.

Cool.

 

 

 

I could NEVER be with a man who felt like I HAD to do something because he wanted me to. I was with someone like that, and after some time I started resenting him, It was as if he was making me do it, even though I didn't want to. Sexual manipulation. Disgusting. No wonder she bitches about it to her best friend.

 

 

 

Do you think that what you just said constitutes a healthy relationship?

You're totally off here, I never once manipulate her or even try, but sometimes getting your way is a big turn on, ask her, she knows because I usually initiate sex! You're totally missing the point. I did get an attitude with u because you seemed to immediately side with her assuming I'm simply looking for sex or a bj. I'm just saying I would do anything she wanted to please her, please return the favor. That's not manipulation, its common courtesy!

[miss_jaclynrae]

You're totally off here, I never once manipulate her or even try, but sometimes getting your way is a big turn on, ask her, she knows because I usually initiate sex! You're totally missing the point. I did get an attitude with u because you seemed to immediately side with her assuming I'm simply looking for sex or a bj. I'm just saying I would do anything she wanted to please her, please return the favor. That's not manipulation, its common courtesy!

 

So it's all because she wouldn't give you a blow job.

My assumption is looking more and more true.

[SJC2008]

Peoples true nature comes out when the isht hits the fan. Knowing she hurt you should have hurt her! Not only did she not show this from what you wrote, she defined your emotions for you and separated herself from any wrong doing by saying you need to man up. She's not empathetic and self accountable, leave her ass.

 

Unless it's something way OTT or melodramatic, don't ever let a woman define what you can and can't feel. We feel and are prone to every emotion a woman feels and we we're born with tear ducts too.