Lauriebell82 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I know he wants to change and has made some progress but I don't know if I can forgive him for what he has done. For the past 6 years I have done nothing but investigate everything he says and does. I am tired of that for sure. I know deep down he is a good person whi has made really bad choices. Also...not that it makes things "better" but in 2006 when we seperated and he did most of the hurtful things he had broken his foot at work and gotten horribly addicted to pills and I didn't even know and then got in to other drugs during the 11 months that we were seperated. Well, keep him out of the house for the time being and live your life. If you truly cannot forgive him for what he has done then go ahead and move on with your life. Protect yourself and your children first and foremost. It will up to you whether or not you can put the past behind you IF he does prove to you that he has changed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I know deep down he is a good person whi has made really bad choices. Maybe I need to make some clarifications on some things since I have been pretty harsh in my assertions of bad character. There are no real life people like Dr Evil in the Austin Powers movies or like the evil villians in cartoons. They dont have evil lairs or evil plots plots that they unveil to their evil minnions and laugh hysterically. Character isn't determined by how warm and cuddly someone is when things are going well or how nice someone is to you when you are doing what they want. Character is determined by the choices people make and the actions they take in good times ans in bad. A person is good or bad because of their decisions and actions not in spite of them. Good character is breaking your foot and not deciding to take up pot and crack and meth. Good character is having the cute blond down the street wink and wiggler her butt at you and deciding not bang her. Good character is wanting something and deciding not to use someone else's credit card. Good character is telling the truth even though it may be something that the other person doesnt want to hear. Good character is deciding to take care of your spouse and children even though it isnt always fun and exciting 24/7. Bottomline is we ARE our decisions and our actions. He IS the actions he takes and the decisions he makes. Link to post Share on other sites
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