Stoo Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 My girlfriend, or ex i guess as you will soon find out, have been 1 month into a ldr, she is in exeter, i am in reading. We will not see each other for 10 weeks at a time. She says she loves me, but think we are better off as jsut friends as she doesnt want us to hurt each other again. You know how you argue over silly things in ldr. I can't bear to lose her, she means everything to me. Do I try and let go, if so how do I go about doing that? Do I try and get us back together, again how would I go about doing that? i don't think I could be just friends with her, knowing she wasn't mine and seeing her with other guys and everything. Im 18 btw, and in University. Any help or comments is much appreciated. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Why so long between visits? Exeter & Reading is like what? 2 & a bit hours by train? Surely that trip is do-able at least once a week? (though I know how damn expensive the train is!) Anyway, as you say, it's over. She says she loves me, but think we are better off as jsut friends as she doesnt want us to hurt each other again. What she is saying is that she doesn't want to go out with any longer. The first thing you need to do is convince yourself of that truth. Some people may tell you that she is worth fighting for - in my opinion if someone tells me they're no longer interested I'm not going to waste my time trying to change their mind. All you can do is tell her that you don't want to end it & then leave the decision up to her. If she doesn't want to get back together then what other choice do you have other than to let go & move on. You don't have to be friends with her - in fact I would recommend that you don't even try. There is an imbalance in feelings between you two & trying to be friends will only make it harder for you to get over her. You'll have to stop contacting her & stop talking to her. Maybe one day when you no longer feel this way (and that day will come) you can be friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stoo Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 I now have found out that she has met someone she really fancies in exeter, and he fancies her alot back but shes not doing anything because shes in love with me, she is also trying to come and see me in a few weeks time. I dont know whats going on, shes really messing with my head Link to post Share on other sites
N51 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Looks like u got competition dude......If she still loves you then u still have hope ...... it aint over mate......If she means everything to you, then win her back .... Why not pay her a surprise visit, and give her the best day she;s ever had.....make it a romantic day.....Win her back Gd luck N51 Link to post Share on other sites
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