ruthieo Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 I have been dating this guy about 3 months. I have always given him the impression that I Didn't want to wait to have sex. We have never had sex but I told him the other day that I did want to wait till marriage to have sex. He told me that it didn't matter to him if we waited or not. That was all I wanted to tell Him, But he took it as I wanted to stop everything else that we do. And he has acted really stressed out and he won't tell me what he is thinking. I told him that I don't want to lose the intimacy I have with him. But he said that he couldn't understand how I didn't want to stop the fulling around that we do now, but I did want to wait to have sex. I don't know what else to tell him. I feel like I have made him close up. I haven't seen him since I told him this. But I have talked to him on the phone, Things seem to get tense when we talk I don't know what to do. We are supposed to go shop for engagement ring this week. I really want to go see him but i don't know if that is a good idea. I know that things will get back to the way they were. But should I not say anything and let it ride its course or what. I am so confused Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Okay, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but.... If he's closed up AFTER you told him you want to wait until marriage to have sex, it sounds like he only wanted one thing to begin with. I mean, think about it.....things are getting kind of hot and heavy, you tell him you want to wait, he backs off. He hasn't seen you since then and things are weird when you're on the phone together. Yeah, he told you that it didn't matter to him whether you wait or not, but what else is he going to say? Just because you want to wait is no reason for him to all of the sudden be all cold and distant. It shouldn't change anything if he really cares about you. After all, you have only been dating for three months. It is possible for people to fool around without having sex, they do it everyday. I don't know why he's so confused about the difference between sex and fooling around. I think the difference is pretty well defined. Link to post Share on other sites
hulavie Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Wait a minute! You have been dating him for three months and the following events are taking place stimultaneously???? 1. shopping for engagement ring this weekend 2. him being distant that you wanna wait to have sex I'm getting a funny feeling reading this. Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Sloooowwwww down....PLEASE! These are warning flags my dear, and rushing to get married is never a good idea. (yup, I've been there and done that.) May I ask how old you are? I'm sure he's an awesome guy but that doesn't mean you have to take this big step so quickly, if he's awesome and the one, taking it slow wont hurt a thing, it will only make you two stronger. Hold off on the sex, also, please! Okay I'm hopping off my soap box now.... Link to post Share on other sites
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