Christ85 Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 I know, I just posted a new thread, but I have another one. Three years ago, I went on a trip to West Virginia. West VA is my former pastor and his wife's homestate, so I went with them when they went back home for a few weeks. While I was there, I met this great guy, Tim. He's a Christian, and he's very sweet. We hit it off automatically. We have a lot in common and we want a lot of the same things in life. When we met, I was only 16 and he was 24. Now, its three years later, and I'm getting ready to turn 19 in a few weeks, and he will be 27 five days after I turn 19. We've been keeping touch through e-mails and IMs and phone calls. Well....he called me one day, and I thought it was just a regular hey-how-are-you-doing phone call. WRONG! He told me that he'd been thinking about me nonstop, and he can't help but think about what it would've been like for us to be together. Then, he asked me to be his gf. I said yes. I've waited three years for him to ask me out! There's only one problem....he's very insecure. He has ADHD, and he thinks that bothers me. He also thinks it bothers me that he's still a virgin. THAT IS A BLESSING! I've told him over and over again that none of that bothers me. We talk everyday, and he gets upset when my ex calls. I ask him why and he says b/c he's been through the same thing before....his last gf kept in touch with her ex and she eventually left him to go back to her ex. I tell him everyday that I love him and that I'm not going to leave him. And its true. I don't want to leave him. He's the best thing to happen to my life in a long time. We became great friends before we started dating, and now that we're dating, we're even closer. He tells me everyday that he's the luckiest man on earth. He tells me that our story is kind of like Beauty and the Beast....he says that I'm beauty and he's the beast and I'm a miracle in his life. My question is how do I convince him that I love him and that I'm not going anywhere? javascript:emoticon('') I want him to realize that Michael and I just keep in touch b/c we're friends. Anytime Michael tries to get me to leave Tim and come back to him, I say no, and I immediately tell Tim about it. And I tell him that I would never go back to Michael. Going back to Michael would reduce myself tremendously. God has designed the best for his people, and I believe that Tim is the best for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted October 26, 2004 Share Posted October 26, 2004 Anytime Michael tries to get me to leave Tim and come back to him, I say no, and I immediately tell Tim about it. And I tell him that I would never go back to Michael. And you can't see why on earth he would continue to be jealous???!!! Your ex is trying to get you to come back to him that's why HE keeps in touch with YOU. I'm sure you see him as a friend but with what you just posted I doubt that his intentions are just to remain friends... Tim has every reason to be worried and I'm sorry but he is kind of right.....you're still very young and he's probably had more experience relationship wise (even if he is a virgin). I would say the best thing to do to "re-assure" Tim that you're only interested in him is by cutting down contact with your ex, limit your contact with him to as little as possible. IMHO this is the best way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Christ85 Posted October 26, 2004 Author Share Posted October 26, 2004 I never thought of it that way.....My ex has always told me that he was okay with us being just friends. I can't believe that I never saw what he was doing. So, how much contact is too much contact with my ex? I mean, we've grown acustomed to calling each other at least once a week. And you're right about Tim being more experienced, which is one of the reasons he's insecure about this. And I thought that me telling him about Michael trying to get me back would help him to trust me more. By telling him about it, and telling him hat I've said no, I thought that maybe he would see that I'm not going back to Michael, no matter what. So, how can I make all this up to Tim? Any suggestions? javascript:emoticon('') Link to post Share on other sites
Author Christ85 Posted October 30, 2004 Author Share Posted October 30, 2004 Welll......you guys are soooooo going to kill me. If you've read my latest post in "JAIL-TIME UPDATE" then you already know what I'm talking about. I know, I said that I wasn't going to go back to my ex, but I did. I don't really feel like typing the whole story here, so if you want details, read my last post on the JAIL-TIME UPDATE topic. Tim and I are still friends, suprisingly. He was hurt for a few days, but now he says he's fine. There will be someone else for him, I'm sure of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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