figuringitoutx Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I was wondering, I met this guy through a mutual friend at a bonfire about a month ago and we hit it off right away. From the get go we've been talking a lot, at the bonfire we talked for a while before I finally had to go. Now we've been emailing and texting back and fourth. He's basically what I've been looking for in a guy, he's motivated, extremely sweet, has a great sense of humor, etc. I can see myself maybe starting something with him. However, there's a 6 year age difference, I'm 20 and he's 26, I've told a few friends about this and they all say it's too large, but I don't see anything wrong with it? So yay nor nay? Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 It's borderline OK. Just make sure you guys are on the same page on various subjects. Maturity-wise, you are right at the edge of compatibility. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Not that bad. It depends on where the gap is. If it was 24 and 18, that's much different, at least to me, than 26 and 20. Link to post Share on other sites
TaserTag Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 If you like this guy and don't see the age difference as a problem, then it isn't a problem. I don't think that six years age difference is a big deal, but my husband is about 9 years older than me and we've been together for 8 years now (and I met him when I was 18). Most of the people I know are around 5 years apart from their spouses. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
New User Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 It's borderline, but I don't think you're too old for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely_Girl615 Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I don't think that's a big difference. It could be worse. For instance, he could have been underage or the age gap been 10+ years. My parents are 4 years apart and get along great. They've been married for more than 30 years. And honestly, 6 years isn't much of a difference. You're still in the same generation. I say go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
white Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 It depends entirely on you both. People of the same age can be totally different in maturity terms, let alone other terms. Happens all the time, constantly an issue. There's no reason a 26 year old should be worlds apart from a 20 year old. Age related problems, once you're in your twenties, really only start to kick in with the 30+ or close. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Depends where you are in life. Im 26 and stick to women 22 and up. Girls in college are much different than girls already doing the real adult thing. If you guys have the same maturity and life stage, its cool. If you guys clash in that regard, it may be a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 I was wondering, I met this guy through a mutual friend at a bonfire about a month ago and we hit it off right away. From the get go we've been talking a lot, at the bonfire we talked for a while before I finally had to go. Now we've been emailing and texting back and fourth. He's basically what I've been looking for in a guy, he's motivated, extremely sweet, has a great sense of humor, etc. I can see myself maybe starting something with him. However, there's a 6 year age difference, I'm 20 and he's 26, I've told a few friends about this and they all say it's too large, but I don't see anything wrong with it? So yay nor nay? The older you are the less difference it makes. Are you mature for a 20 year old? Does he act or look younger than he his? My husband and I are 6 years apart and rarely notice the age difference. I'm 24 and he's almost 30. If you guys click, go for it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Pink_sugar and I are only 6 years apart and that isn't a bad thing. My dad and mom were 10 years apart, though they divorced when I was one years old. My grandpa and grandma on my mom's side were 21 years apart! They were married till he passed away when I was much younger. Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 No, I don't think it's too much. You two could be very compatible, or not at all...and I'd wager it'd have little to do with your age(s). I'd say it's certainly worth a shot if you like him. FWIW, fiance and I are 7 years apart at 26 (me) and 33 (him). Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Not too big of a gap. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 We were also 16 and 22 when we got together (hands down). So 20 and 26 seems like nothing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 Women in their early twenties are pretty easy to charm, so for a guy who's 26 who might have some knowledge of women, definitely more knowledge than you have of men...you should be fairly easy to swoon. Of course you don't see anything "wrong" with it, you're not a man (more importantly an honest one) and you're only 20. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I was wondering, I met this guy through a mutual friend at a bonfire about a month ago and we hit it off right away. From the get go we've been talking a lot, at the bonfire we talked for a while before I finally had to go. Now we've been emailing and texting back and fourth. He's basically what I've been looking for in a guy, he's motivated, extremely sweet, has a great sense of humor, etc. I can see myself maybe starting something with him. However, there's a 6 year age difference, I'm 20 and he's 26, I've told a few friends about this and they all say it's too large, but I don't see anything wrong with it? So yay nor nay? 6 years without any context is just fine and not a big deal at all. But, then you add some context and things may change. I think where 2 people are at developmentally/life experience wise is a much bigger deal than the number of years. I would swear I grew 10 years in life experience from age 20-24. Link to post Share on other sites
henderson14 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Who care what your friends think? I think it matters more if you are in different stages of life more than anything. So if your still in college and living that life, and he's just a working stiff, then I would be hesitant. Link to post Share on other sites
Tinie Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Nope. A 30 yr old guy hit on me before (I'm 20) and I would have responded if he wasn't married. A guy I was interested in before is 26. If you get along great, the age is really just a number. Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I don't think the age gap is what matters but the maturity level of the people who get into a relationship. If you both feel comfortable together and you feel you are in the same stage in life then it should not be a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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