Will buying/living in this particular house make me seem odd to potential girlfriend?

[Col1]

I am a single guy. I am shopping to buy my first house. I thought I would wait until I get married, but that's not anytime in the next several years. I am tired of living in apartments the last sixteen years. I can no longer wait for Miss Right to buy a house. The housing market in my area is at the right time. And I'm approved for a mortgage and can easily afford it (no foreclosure risk).

 

I've always wanted to buy a house in my former neighborhood. It's still a great place to live today. My former best friend's house is now up For Sale and I'd like to buy it. As a kid, I played over at that house practically every day and spent the night there often with my friend. We were like brothers. We did everything together. Lots of good memories there at his house and yard. In 2013, the house still is amazing. I don't know the current owners of it, but they have maintained it very well. And it's just down the street from the house I once lived in (but it was sold after I graduated high school). I am seriously considering putting in a written offer to buy my friend's house. BUT>>>>

 

* My former friend moved away when he was in high school. I tried to stay in contact, but he completely ignored me when his family moved to a more expensive part of the city and he went to the rich snob high school. (He became a sports star in two sports during high school; guess he was too busy with practices & games and new friends).

 

**A couple years ago, I ran into his mother at a store. We talked for a while. She was always nice and like a second mother to me. She told me a little about his current life, gave me his phone number, and said she will tell him that she talked to me. I felt obligated to call him because I didn't want him thinking I snubbed him. Well I called him, got his voice mail, and left a friendly message with my cell number. Never heard back from him. Stung a little, even after all those years.

 

That still doesn't take away the great memories I had in that house. And I'd like to live there. I've wanted to move back for the longest time. My ex-friend's former house is one in which I could live forever.

 

As far as me dating/hoping for marriage someday: Would that seem strange to a lady I am dating in the future when I tell her I bought my ex-friend's house with whom I haven't spoken with in two decades? And this house is on the same street of my childhood home? Would that or anything about any of this make me seem odd?

Edited July 22, 2013 by Col1

[StayBeautiful]

Not at all, I think it's kind of adorable. And the message it would send to me is that you're a man who values ties, connections and building happy memories. It makes you look pretty stable.

[white]

Uh... no? This is a particularly grasping-at-straws dating issue, I must say. Good post, interesting story. But relationship related? Hardly.

[Star Gazer]

This should be a non-issue, if all you're doing is buying a good house that you have fond memories of.

 

I think that your concern about how buying this house makes you look to others demonstrates that you may have some motives in buying the house that you're not really owning up to.

[dasein]

Surely you can think of better things to talk about with newly met women than why you bought the particular house you did. That kind of topic has never come up in any of my relationships, suppose it could. Would advise exploring rent to own or a short term rental with buy option rather than buying it outright though. Nostalgia can sometimes blur our vision a bit, and it is still very much a buyer's market in most areas of U.S. real estate anyway. A house is an investment, and advise making your first one the absolute best investment you can wrangle, with less attention to other factors. Good luck whatever you decide.