The update! Broken up with Nick, need support calling Shane :-) You all ROCK!!!

[Confused28]

Okay.... here is the update! Thanks for following this story! You all rock!!

 

I hope you have read this long story :-) if not, basically I have dated someone for 2 years that has treated me badly (Nick). We broke up this summer for 2 months, I met Shane, it was awesome, and I stupidly got back with Nick, breaking up with Shane. I now am trying to leave Nick and get back with Shane.

 

So, it has taken days to break up with him, about 5 days, but I think Nick is finally leaving me alone. I have this problem, I feel more concerned about hurting him than I do about me. But, I have resorted to the "No Contact" I think that is NC here, but i am new so still a little unsure :-)!

 

Anyway, I am seeking support, it feels lonely and strange to be single. And also, I feel happy and free! I just need to get the courage to call Shane now, and apologize and hope it works out, but i am sooo scared! It never seems like the right time to do it! I need support!!! PLEASE!

 

:-) Your friend Confused28

[Weird]

you know my opiion of the situation...call the dude:)

 

good to hear you have realized nick is not worth your time.

[EC]

It takes a the taste of sour sometimes to recognize the sweet.

 

Im happy you got rid of Nick if he treasted you badly. But do you think you are ready to jump into a relationship with Shane if he is willing?

 

About calling him...call him whenever you want. Just close your eyes, count to three, push the numbers and wait for the Hello.....

[SoleMate]

...it feels lonely and strange to be single...

 

Is this why you want to be back with Shane?

[quankanne]

it feels lonely and strange to be single. And also, I feel happy and free! I just need to get the courage to call Shane now, and apologize and hope it works out, but i am sooo scared! It never seems like the right time to do it! I need support!!!

 

honey, just sit back and enjoy being manless for a bit. If you know that Shane and you worked in the first place, then it'll work again ... and it's worth giving yourself a break between boyfriends.

 

look at this as your time to recharge, to enjoy and discover the joys of learning about yourself. you'll be getting back into the dating scene (with Shane as your steady date!), so don't fret the being alone part. Sometimes this is when the best discoveries about yourself come along, especially if you've left a bad relationship. Detoxify, work out all the unpleasant stuff from your last relationship.

 

it might not seem like the "right time" to get hold of Shane because you need some time alone to prepare yourself for the next big adventure. Trust me, if the guy is that good to you and for you, he's worth the wait while you recharge mentally and emotionally.

 

You'll know when to call ... or write a heartfelt but to the point message telling him that you've gotten things straightened in your head and heart, and are ready to be committed to him without reserve (i.e. ties to the boyfriend from hell).

[Confused28]

Originally posted by quankanne

it feels lonely and strange to be single. And also, I feel happy and free! I just need to get the courage to call Shane now, and apologize and hope it works out, but i am sooo scared! It never seems like the right time to do it! I need support!!!

 

honey, just sit back and enjoy being manless for a bit. If you know that Shane and you worked in the first place, then it'll work again ... and it's worth giving yourself a break between boyfriends.

 

look at this as your time to recharge, to enjoy and discover the joys of learning about yourself. you'll be getting back into the dating scene (with Shane as your steady date!), so don't fret the being alone part. Sometimes this is when the best discoveries about yourself come along, especially if you've left a bad relationship. Detoxify, work out all the unpleasant stuff from your last relationship.

 

it might not seem like the "right time" to get hold of Shane because you need some time alone to prepare yourself for the next big adventure. Trust me, if the guy is that good to you and for you, he's worth the wait while you recharge mentally and emotionally.

 

You'll know when to call ... or write a heartfelt but to the point message telling him that you've gotten things straightened in your head and heart, and are ready to be committed to him without reserve (i.e. ties to the boyfriend from hell).

 

Thanks quankanne for the advice, you always have something good to say from porn viewing to this situation, i like what you ahve to say!

 

I do agree, it is good for me to me manless for a bit. I am just so used to being with someone. I have had a boyfriend or husband ever since i was 16 (i'm 28 now). i need to take some time. I am already kind of enjoying it. the house is dirty, i got home from class late and no one questioned what i was doing... this could be fun!

 

i am still mulling through the whole nick thing. i know it was for the best, but i have a terrible imagination and i think about him with someone else too much, that drives me crazy!! need to get my mind off that!

 

thanks for the honesty :-) Confused28